What kind of women do men really fall for?

Question

What kind of girls do men REALLY fall in love with? Ok Im a Leo. I generally have a vivrant, magnetic personality. I flirt, I smile. I get attention. I always look good. Men love me... at first. I dont have the problem getting the man, but KEEPING him???

I have dated different men who always say Im such fun and we have strong chemistry, then after a while, one of us feel different and we just drift apart. No sex involved (exceptions for the guy I reallly liked)

So I decided I would try the no strings attached sex. You know I wont get any kind of romantic feelings for this guy because we both know that its just sex. No love lost if he never calls me again. I've never had one of those so why not give it a go? I even encouraged him to go out with other women sometimes, because I reallly felt that it is only a sex thing.

Well someway or another I start to feel a little neglected, like he's cutting the conversation short probably to talk to another woman.

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All of a sudden it hurts me to think he might discard me after we got intimate.

Now Im all worried that he's going to back out on his word that this will be unlimited sex for the both of us (because I'm single and I only want ONE sex partner).

Im usually a verrry good girl but now I can finally say that I've tried it from another perspective -- stooping to a fling! (only one) That didnt work either! WHAT kind of women do men fall for?!

I dont mean the guys who are only looking to marry virgins with halos who dont have a past that they can show off to mommy. I mean what kind of girl gets you revved up so that u ALWAYS want her? So that after dating a while, popping the question doesnt seem so foreign anymore? Someone who can always distract you with her presence and makes you turn down other womens advances when they come on to you?

Is personality and good looks not enough? Can a girl be TOO kind? What am I missing?! Do guys like someone who gives it up or holds back?

Like do all guys leave when theres no sex involved???

What can a woman do for you when she is doing her best and there is ALWAYS another woman there waiting to tempt and mislead you? Yet you fall for her and she cheats and screws you over when you could have had me who would NEVER have done that! Like what was she doing, excluding sex (because if I dont give you sex youre gonna leave me for someone who does, but if I do give it youre gonna leave me and move on to someone else.. lose/lose)

Waayyy too long but I wanted to explain it right.

I would like to add that if I sound like an inflated ego.. I'm only typing what the guys tell me they liked about me when we first met. and I have confidence.. thats a big thing they tell me they like.
I just want to point it out, because these things are why they claim to like me so much but always go for the girl who will give it up, then if I give it up go for someone who doesn't! its confusing)

You mean smell like Victoria Secrets? Becuase thats what I always smell like. Fresh and clean 100 percent. Im looking for real advice not lame insults.

Answer 1

Girl, just be yourself- you will wreck your brain if you try to figure out what a man wants. Once you think you've figured it out- your only going to be giving what you think he wants and that's not gonna last cause the real you will start to show. I say - be yourself and if a man likes that he will stay around.

I would say for you to figure out WHAT YOU WANT- not what you think a man wants. Not all men want the same thing in a women. I feel that you will have better chances at finding a man once you know what you are seeking in a man/ relationship. This way you know who to reject at the door and who you may invite in for dinner. If you screen the man first you will know if the two of you will mesh into a great , long lasting relationship- because you would know what you want. Personally for me a man can look good and all, but if I don't like the way he treats others or the way he lives his life(drunken all the time or curses alot) I just know off the top that this is not the type of person I can tollerate ( I could not even make him my friend- cause I don't care too much for people like that) Girl it's all about knowing what you want and what you will tollereat in your life.

It makes no sense for you to encourage someone to be with other women cause you don't want to be emtionally attached- if anything it may make him not want to be with you at all - if he has to hear that all the time. If he wants to have sex with you- he may want to just enjoy it- but you make it seem like it's some kind of task or a job and your kicking him out the door once you've been satisfied.

Whatever- girl good luck, get to know yourself and know what you want- stop trying to please others- please yourself- you'll enjoy it more and you will not waste so much time with people that just like your "fake" personality- show them the real you

Answer 2

I didn't know that "Hollywood men" were a type of guy to begin with but I think guys that work in the entertainment industry and are going to the clubs are looking for a nice piece of arm candy. I wouldn't say that they are looking to fall in love at all. They just want an attractive girl that isn't going to be complicated, is going to be beautiful, and fun to be with. It's pretty shallow but in the entertainment industry it's all about looks and being on top of your game. However if you want to attract one of these fellows, don't set high expectations, be thin or fit, get your hair and your nails did, put on some lip gloss, wear something sexy--maybe even trashy--with some high heels and hit the scene. Good luck!

Answer 3

Things will become better for you in all aspects of life, including relational, when you are able to find out why you have needed these flings, realizing what it is in you that has been lost or broken, or any emtiness that you are feeling which causes you to do these things. What I have come to find out is that sex without love is nothing at all in the long run, and sex without the commitment of marriage is nothing at all either, because there always will be that desire to have that one person that you can know wants to spend the rest of their life with you and is willing to anounce it to the world. Take some time alone to find out what has been broken inside of you, and work on building yourself up as a person to feel comfident in yourself and complete again, and then it will happen, and you will begin attracting the right kind of guys that you need in your life. It is possible. I know from experience. God bless-Matt

Answer 4

My dear you send out all the wrong signals,You say the wrong things.
If you tell me to f*** another woman it is like saying Im a tool for your pleasure and I will treat you as such.
Men love to feel they are needed and adored no matter what.
Whether you are a contest winner beauty or an ugly duckling is not the real issue.
At first your beauty may attract us that works for you,but then you need the charm and the sensetivity to keep us without being possesive or too liberal. Get it Darling.

Answer 5

There is no "type" that all men fall for. If I had the formula for a truly effective love potion, I would... well no need to speculate.

I'm afraid you're in the same position as the rest of us single folks. Keep looking and be true to yourself. Someone is out there. If you're lucky you'll get hit by the thunderbolt. Just be willing to consider the possiblity that Mr. Right may be in a different form than you expect.

Good luck.

Answer 6

We fall for women who don't smell.

Naaah, I do better than that for you. It sounds to me that you want a fantasy man, a man who will make you the center of his life right off the bat. It really never works that way, though. You always kind of creep in to a man's life, working your way toward the center from the outside, and it takes years to do. And there's no guarantee that you will succeed. He might be torn away from you by any of several things, including a career, drugs, another girl, jail, or going off to a war.

But that's the only way you ever get to be a man's center. You invest the time, and you take your chances.

Answer 7

Well it could be your big old inflated ego.

And the lack of sex is a biggie.

Most people can't keep partners, that's life. We go through them until we find the right one for us that we don't drift apart from. Or at least take longer to ...

Answer 8

Men want some one who can listen. Some one who cares. The best thing to do is ask questions but do not give your opinion unless asked. Men in general want to be loved but not smothered. Fun is important but to is the ability to be serious. Sex should not be the number one issue here but the desire to be compatiable.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like your a good women at heart...don't ever change.look guys always want sex but don't want to commit atleast not the sleezballs good men like and appreciate a women who is classy and respects herself...I know I sure do a girl who is willing to give it up to soon is not a girl that I would want to be with

Answer 10

personally i like a personality over looks. dont get me wrong looks dont hurt the situation but a guy is just looking for someone they can have fun with and who they truely dont mind being around. saying that make sure not to settle on just anyone who is willing to stay with you. you'll find someone for sure sometimes it just takes a little bit of waiting.