For those of you who have decided NOT to have any more kids...why not?

Question

Can you give me reasons why you have decided to stop at number1,2 or 3 etc. Real answers only, no comedians.

Answer 1

It get real expensive as they get older. I stopped at four.

Answer 2

I have 2 kids. I have a boy & a girl. I wanted to have 4 kids, but after 4 miscarriages, before my 2 were born, I didnt know if I wanted to go through that heartbreak again. I was put to bed with both pregnancies to try to save them. With my son, things were hard, but it was a good pregnancy. My Daughter was taken from me by emergency Csection almost 3 wks early.
My Ex Husband & I decided then, for my health, the risk of losing another or having to go through the life saving Csection again, we had better stop at the 2 we have. So, I had my tubes tied.
Although, now, I am 32, single, my kids are 7 & 8, & I am divorced....& he isnt around, it is kind of good that I did....I am struggling enough with the 2 I have. I love them dearly & wouldnt change them for NOTHING in this world.
I do sometimes regret my decision, & have thought about having my tubiligation reversed, I think, I only have 11 more yrs & my baby will be 18.....UGH!....why start over now?...I have them out of diapers, off bottles, riding bikes, rollerblading, independent, & almost teenagers....I think it is best I stay at the 2 I have.

Good question though....

Answer 3

i am a person who always wonted at least two kids and now have three the reason i decided not to have more was for a few reasons and that is because for one it takes a lot to try and raise a child today by teaching right from wrong to how to be a good person pulse cost now days are very high it takes a lot of money to just get by you know paying bill's and for things kids need dippers clothes ex.. and the most was because the world today has gotten so bad with violence and crime i find my self stressing on how bad the world will be when my kids are my age and i don't wont to bring more into a world that is so full of hate and violence i have a hard enough time with the children i have don't get me wrong i love my kids and am glad i have them but i just have a hard time with thoughts of what will it be like when there my age all i can hope is that its gets better then it is know . well i hope this helps

Answer 4

I have 2 children a boy and a girl. they are three years apart. I have also had two miscarriages. The first at age 18 the second 3 months ago. Both of my kids were delivered by c-section. thats not something i would like to do with every pregnancy. Also i have one of each. I have the best of both a boy and a girl. also my life has been more busy with going back to work and not to mention the financial aspect of raising children. A fear of having another miscarriage is enough for me to say hey i have two beautiful healthy children and i am so lucky. These are my reasons

Answer 5

we have 3, and i didnt even think of stopping, or having more, until i was at my prenatal appointment when i was about 28 weeks, and we were discussing the upcoming c section (medical reasons - this was to be my 3rd section), and she asked me "this will be ur 3rd child, and 3rd section, have u considered sterilisation?" i was stunned, quite upset and just said "no". i went home and rang my husband and complained to him, rang and complained to all my girlfriends about this doctors BAD FORM!! then, after another week of throwing up constantly, another bout of gestation diabetes being diagnoised, the lovelly cholestasis appearing to make my life even more miserable, a toddler going thro the terrible 2s, and a 5 year old who decided to stop sleeping past 4am - i reconsidered my initial horror at the doctors suggestion, and my husband and i discussed it, and decided that 3 kids was a perfect number! i had awful pregnancies every time, and i know that i could not take care of 3 kids and be pregnant. it seems my body agrees completely, because when i went in for my c section, the doctor had alot of trouble with all the scar tissue that had formed, and then after delivery, my uterus wouldnt contract and they were pumping drugs into me - it was awful and i was saying to the anethitist that i felt like i was going to die - plus the worry that my daughter had been taken away and as i couldnt feed her straight away her sugar levels (from the gestational diabetes) would drop and she would end up in NICU (which she did) - my heartrate was racing and oh god, it was a horrific experience. what should have taken 45 minutes all up, ended up taking 3 hours. i have not once regretted my decision to have a tubal - knowing in my heart of hearts that i am done having babies, is a wonderful thing.

Answer 6

This is a personal question...there is no magic number of kids, my best friend has 10 and I think she's beyond crazy and she'd like more and thinks I'm nuts for stopping at three.

I have three girls, there is 5 years between the first and last...I wouldn't trade them for anything, but I am glad we stopped when we did. I was 33 when my youngest was born and it was a hard pregnancy and slow recovery for both of us. I think 3 c-sections is more than enough as well. Sometimes I think I'd like another baby, but I can wait until the grand-babies come along..

I am having fun watching my girls start their teenage years and sharing more with them. As well as the freedom to have moments of friendship with them. It's fun to debate politics and books and movies with them now...and discovering what kind of women they are turning into...

Answer 7

I had a set of twins , when my firstborn was only 18 months old . I got divorced when they were 4, 4, and five. I have procreated to keep me busy enough for the rest of my life as a single mom. They are all girls and at 15, 15, and sixteen now and I can't imagine starting all over again, as I am still a single parent with a full load. At this point, I am looking forward to having some freedom, someday.

Answer 8

Hi there sorry for my name i am using my partners account.

We have an 21 month old daughter. But we have decided not to have anymore children although i have ben thinking about it alot latley i am sure theres no way i could go back there i had an awful pregnancy and for the last 4 months i was bed ridden. i also became aneamic then when i finally got induced a week over due i was in labour for 13 and a half hours they kept advising me to have the epidural and i kept saying no until i couldnt handle it anymore. I was drifting in and out of sleep when i woke up my mum was crying and there was all doctors in the room going through the rubbish bin. They had told my mum they triple dosed me with the epidural and i prob wouldnt walk again. But they only found two wrappers so they double dosed me the effects would last longer than normal. they left my room at 3 pm and when my mum went out to get a mid wife she said dont worry we still have hours before the baby will born its ok at 4pm no one had came in yet to check me the last time they checked me i was 4cm dialated. and i was still sleeping buti woke up vomiting at 5.30pm and my mum ran out the door and came back in with the midwoves and they said the babys head was coming her heart rate dropped and they had to get her out now or she would suffocate. finally she was born at 5.45pm. Everything since then has been bliss except the cost of everything nappies clothes everything they need and i dont think i want to go back to hospital ever again... But then again i did have her at Campbelltown Hospital lol

Answer 9

I decided to stop after number 3, due to age related reasons i was 38 when I had my last child. I left the best years to have fun... I didnt have my first one until I was 30. I have now had my tubes tied to make sure no more happen ... though I know things can happen & if it does then so be it, it was meant to be.

Answer 10

Alot of women and men do not want children. I honestly do not see any problem with that, and this it's sad when people get harassed for the way of life they chose.

However I do not understand when people stop having children ONLY becuase they got a boy and girl. I've seen this happen so many times, like they only need one of each and it doesnt matter or somthing.

I'm not saying everyone is like that or that anyone is, it just seems like it sometimes and I do not understand.

Answer 11

i currently have 2 boys, but we would like a 3rd one in a few years, yeah we'd like a girl, but that isn't the reason behind it. we love kids and would have 1000 if it was convenient, but it's not, and it costs a lot of money.
i originally wanted 4 my whole life, but we decided together we'd like to provide a better quality life for 3, than possibly struggle trying to provide for 4. we'll abe able to afford more, and do more with and for them. plus the more children you have, the less time, and attention, you have to split between them. i want to be able to go to all their sports and activites, which will be hard enough with 3, i couldn't even imagine the juggling it'd take with one more.
so those are our reasons.