i met this lady when i was ending a marriage , before the divorce was final , i went back to my then wife , too many times ... this caused alot of pain for the woman i am in so much love with now , but she tells me it is hard to trust me now , please , any answers on how to re-gain the trust needed .she tells me she loves me , but..........
2006-10-07 18:32:58 · 13 answers · asked by jeff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yes you have really messed up but you can fix it you will have to totally commit to her show her that you are true to your word telling is not enough she had her guards down once and it will be hard to let them back down put your all into it you will be alright if you really love her shower her with your love(smile) good luck
2006-10-07 18:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by reddiwhip2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you love her as well. I would recommend giving her time and letting her see that your not going back with your wife. Wait until the divorce is final, it might make her more at ease. If it is meant to happen, it will..... Good luck!
2006-10-07 18:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all and sundry is diverse. some people can forgive and overlook; yet others can not, no rely how complicated they conflict. no longer everybody has a forgiving nature. i assume therapy or counseling would make it easier to in case you the two desire to purpose to make issues artwork out. It takes "2 to tango" in a marriage. He would desire to do his proportion besides. yet be warned...therapy isn't a magic wand which will immediately make issues extra effective. It takes time and staying power to rebuild have faith....and there is not any assure which you will ever regain it thoroughly, IMO. What you sense is somewhat everyday and logical. while somebody we adore deeply shall we us down or hurts us, we attempt to guard ourselves. He would desire to comprehend what he did to harm you; and he would desire to be conscious that the value he will pay is your mistrust and unhappiness. He performed...he has to settle for the value. each little thing we do in existence has effects. there is not any loose lunch, and regrettably cheaters seldom substitute. good success. seek for professional therapy so which you will vent and address your thoughts. you will would desire to make a sort -whether to stay or no longer- in a while. existence is in basic terms too short to be depressing.
2016-10-02 01:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can regain her trust IF YOU STOP HURTING HER, but it will take some time, and you have to be prepared for that, don't expect her to give it up too quickly....after all, you know that you don't really deserve it right now, don't you?
2006-10-07 18:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you divorced? or just separated from your wife? she needs to know that you will be there for HER. she needs to know that she doesn't have to worry about you leaving her again. take it day by day and gradually you may regain some trust. but dont expect it to come back overnight.
2006-10-07 18:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you need to get a grip if you two really love each other you would have no doubt in your mind what you have to do to be with her, trust the Scarface's you must make will be worth it in the short and long run.
2006-10-07 18:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very first step for you to sincerely consider taking, is counceling dude. A real "check-up from the neck-up". You're screwing around on your old lady and hanging on to your mistress. The two don't mix...... Get your head on straight.
2006-10-07 18:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that its really hard to re gain trust,
i still have a hard time to trust my boyfriend and ive been with him for 9 yrs.
2006-10-07 18:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by ***dreamcatcher**** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are actully never going to get her trust back .thats for sure but if she says she still loves you just dont pay attention to the i dont trust you just do what you usually do with her and maybe she'll forget okok well that all i can do this time.
2006-10-07 18:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by $urpr1$3d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to regain someones trust it takes time and a lot of effort... actions speak more than words ....u must prove she can trust u again thru your actions......use your brain and think, then get to work!!
2006-10-07 18:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋