i feel defective?

Question

My boyfriend has left me, I am 36 weeks pregnant. He left me for a drug and alcohol addiction and because he wants to party instead of grow up. I hurt very bad right now. He has made me feel defective like my love isn't any good and like nobody will want me. is this what addicts due to people? Is this normal? I don't even like to think about sex because it makes me sick.

Answer 1

Since you are going to church in the morning and I pray you do, just cast your cares and worry upon Jesus. He is your Rock in this, your hour of great need. Lean on Him so you won't stumble or fall. Let Him, our Great Physician (Jehovah-Rapha) minister to you right now.

Your baby needs you right now and know this,

I Cor. 10:13 says "no temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man, and God is faithful, WHO WILL NOT ALLOW YOU TO BE TEMPTED (TESTED) BEYOND WHAT YOU ARE ABLE; but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it."

Read that verse carefully. God has equipped you for this that you are facing. Do you believe that? You must because God said so. He said that, "He is faithful and will not allow you to be tempted (Tested by trials) beyond what YOU ARE ABLE..."

This means that through His grace in your life, you can do this.

You can have this baby, you can be a Godly mommy to your child and you can, through Christ, overcome all of this that seems impossible right now.

Abide in Him (Jesus) and He has promised to restore for you all the years (Time) that the locusts (sins) have eaten way. (Joel 2:25, 26) See verse below

Don't think about what you do not have right now. Think about what you DO have and think on Jesus as He restores all that He longed for in your life from the moment He began knitting YOU in YOUR OWN MOTHER'S WOMB! :) (Psalm 139:13, 14)

Congratulations on your new baby. 4 more weeks! I am very glad for you. God is good!

Answer 2

You shouldn't feel defective sweety.You're were never supposed to be a drug!

It's good that this person left you, but it's still a change in your life and change is hard to deal with.
You will get over it, soon probably. Just take care of yourself and go about life as normal. Be glad that you got rid of this guy early in the game. Maybe he'll sort himself out and you could hook up again later.. if you want that, that is.

It's not really normal to feel like that if your confidence level is decent.
I mean it's not just addicts that do this, but a lot of men (and women partners too). They lower their partners confidence and make them feel worthless.
Without his negativity around you will soon start to feel better about yourself.

You have just said yourself that this person is immature, you're not at his level so what are you? You must be mature. Those two kinds of people don't make good matches, naturally. There is nothing wrong with you being sensible and mature and it seems that you realise that somewhere, you're probably just grieving over the ended relationship. It will get better and there's nothing wrong with you, he was the problem and it's gone now.

Answer 3

You are not defective. Your boyfriend is ill. When people are addicted to drugs and alcohol, they are not themselves. They do not value themselves, so how can they value someone else.

I know it hurts now, but keep yourself healthy, you will have a brand new beautiful baby to take care of. Good luck, honey. I will be hoping for the best for you.

Answer 4

i'm so sorry! he's an idiot and if he has a drug/alcohol addicition...maybe it's better that he's gone. better for your baby and, eventually, better for you. there ARE decent guys out there, just be patient and focus on your pregnancy, family, and friends right now. you'll feel better for it. as for him, either he'll grow up or he won't...your first thought right now, however, should be you and your baby's health. best of luck to you!