My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half im 21 shes 20... we are very positive that our relationship will last till the end of time... i live 6 hours from where she goes to school. she has been going out the past 2 weeks on thursday and the weekend to clubs with a couple friends, when i ask her if she was dancing with other guys she says yes... now i trust her with my WHOOOOOOOOOOLE life but lately i have been feeling insecure about her thinking it is ok and says im over reacting... i told her that i feel weird about her going out and dancing with other guys. i cant sleep at night because i know she is out dancing with other guys and she dosnt seem to care that im weird about this, someone help me and let me know what i should do or what i should think.
2006-10-07 18:19:16 · 17 answers · asked by hanny man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, alot of you people at the top who "answered" just criticized him, not answer the damn thing. His relationship is his business.
Anyway, just tell her how you feel. Let her know that you trust her completely, but there's an odd feeling in the pit of your stomache that just doesn't settle with you. If she's the girlfriend you know and love, she'll back off the guys and you'll start gaining more confidence in her.
2006-10-07 18:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Child of Coal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should reevaluate your relationship...it has to have a strong trust base and right now it sounds like you dont trust her too much. You obviously have completely diff. feelings about whats OK and not OK in the relationship that you should sit down and talk about. Maybe your g/f really just likes clubbing...doesn't mean she's doing anything else. You've been together this long, whats so different now that has made you feel this way? I'm sure shes gone out before.
2006-10-08 01:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you actually trust her as much as you say you do then trust her to make the right decisions and not hooking up with any of the guys from the clubs. Me personally I trust women about as far as I can throw them, so if it was me I would dump her *** and find somone a little more local. But you are the only one who can make that decision, she may be just going out with friends and having a good time, but then again I have seen how most girls and guys dance now, if you would call it dancing anyways more like sex with your clothes on
2006-10-08 01:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by smitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she shouldn't be dancing with other guys... It's ok if she goes out but dancing ... Im not sure about that...
Tell her that you dont want her dancing and dont trust her too much... I mean she can just tell you next time that she is staying home and be out.. you would never know! I don't know! Long distance relationships dont work, I think... She is out to college, away from home, she is meeting new friends, new guys... I don't know... Good luck...
2006-10-08 01:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by ~Dee~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lose her on the dance floor then you never really had her in the first place. Clubs are a bad idea for alot of reasons, but you should be able to trust her if your relationship is strong. Worrying never helps.....
2006-10-08 01:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her and love her unconditionally. The last time I thought my partner was probably out dancing with others and clubbing, he had been hit by a car and was in hospital with head injuries and broken limbs.
2006-10-08 01:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by rubyflats 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bad sign that she is disregarding your feelings. If my boyfriend were a long distance from me, I'd miss him like crazy, I certainly wouldn't go out and dance with different men. Dancing with men isn't that big of a deal if she's trustworthy, but the fact that she knows it bothers you and she does it anyway, I would definitely be concerned if I were you.
2006-10-08 01:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't care, you've got something to worry about. If your relationship is as strong as you say it is, she should address your worries a little more and cut back on the behavior that is giving you grief. If she isn't, she's either:
1. Not the soul mate you think she is
2. Dating other guys.
Just present your feelings honestly and sincerely. If she still doesn't address it, a new girlfriend is best for you.
2006-10-08 01:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People who Trust their partners too Much always end up getting Cheated on.
So why do You let her dance with other guys if you don't like it? Dumba$$. are You scared she'll get mad if You tell her how You feel? What a Wussy. You got the D!ck so You make the Rules.
2006-10-08 01:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think a 20 years old girl is going to sit around bored at home.
your distance thing isn't working....for you.
2006-10-08 02:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋