Age difference... Opinions please...?

Question

Im 21 in a relationship, he is 38 (39 soon)? He has 2yr old kid and has never been married... Im falling for him... :-(

Answer 1

Age is only a number but remember that he has done so much more living then you and he has to be willing to accept that there may be things you want to experience. My bf and I are 7 years apart. I'm 23 and he's 30 with full custody of his 2 kids. I love them like my own but it took a long time to adjust to this life style but I love it. Are you willing to eventually do the same?

Answer 2

In my own opinion I do think that Age does matter. You are only 21 and this guy is almost two times your age. Look you should really look for someone who is around your own age so that the both of you can grow old together and go through many other things in life and enjoy is together at the same time. You don't want to be with someone that u have to take care of because he is at old age while you are still young. It is a different thing if u have to take care of him if the both of you are old at the same time because the both of you have already went through life together.

And another thing. Let's just say, things do work out with this guy. You are so young, are you sure that u are ready to take up the responbilities of being a stept-mother for this child? Being a Stept-mother is difficult. Just because the child might like you now that does not mean that he might except you as his stept-mother. Once that there is a child involve, there are a lot to thing about...

So think again.. ok!!

Answer 3

If I were him I'd be interested in a 21 year old too - sounds exciting. However, as time goes on, I predict I would tire of your relative immaturity and get on you about acting responsible. You have a kid to help raise, you need to stop hanging around with your friends and help run the household.

Who can tell from so little information...but I see a recipe for resentment as your life will seem to become stifling.

Answer 4

i have dated as a lot as twelve years older and six years youthful. My boyfriend of four years is 3 years youthful. Age is way less significant than the position you're in existence, even with the actuality that the age hollow might want to be noticeable if that's more suitable than 5 years or so. 5.5 years would not could be a topic as long as you want a similar issues. someone who's older and needs to quiet down quickly and commence a relations shouldn't paintings so properly with a youthful individual in simple terms starting up out. yet in the journey that they produce different plans like college or career, and favor to look ahead to such issues as kids, it might want to exercising consultation properly. In my case, i do not favor kids till my mid-30s, so a youthful boyfriend takes fairly some the rigidity off. once you're 18, in simple terms ask him out your self.. that's a lot less complicated than waiting round for some thing that isn't ensue via concern.

Answer 5

Whoa Dee...hold on there. He's WHAT? 39! He's old enough to be your father! For crying out loud, you are 21. You can definitely find a better man than that. He's waaay over your head. Maybe 22 or 24 is ok, but 39 is a big no no. It won't work out. Trust me...

Answer 6

He is to damned old for you. He has never been married and he has a kid? Are you a bit nuts? What makes you think he will not impregnate you and run away? What about the child's mother? You would be better off finding someone your own age. You could end up a young woman, changing HIS diapers!

Answer 7

humm - first and foremost, think about this long term for the future, do you get along with the kid and are you ready to accept that kid, say, after you and him have a child together. And are there going to be any problems with the mother of this kid for visitation etc (if that applies) didn't work for me after about 4 yrs of hassels. The kid thing was the biggest headache and after a couple of years the age difference started coming into play. Really think your situation over.

Answer 8

i personaly do not think that age is a factor when comes to relationships after a certain point. your an adult now and are free to make your own decisions. If you are in love with him then go ahead just remember that you will also have to be a mother, if you want kids then i guess that's not a problem, if you dont, you'll have some kinks to work out first. take it from me , my mom and soon to be step dad are 19 years apart., if its ok for them then why shouldn't it be ok for you.

Answer 9

I am 32, my fiance is 56. He has 5 children and I am younger than the eldest.

I am very close to his 32 and 22 year old sons and 19 year old daughter. In fact she refers to me as her step mother.

I have always dated older men and have never really had a problem with it. Go for it.

I am eloping soon and marrying my soul-mate and man of my dreams.

Answer 10

When I was 21 I also dated a guy 17 years older than myself. He was controlling, bossy, and a cheater. He had no kids, still doesn't and still is single because he's a dog. That's my story. My advice is men that age are very set in their ways and it's hard for them to compromise. I would be cautious, especially if a child is involved, you could get attached and it could turn out bad.