whats this mean, please help?
ok about a month ago, i spilled my guts to one of my friends, told her that i like her alot, and all this stuff, shes only 13. well she wrote me back and said she hasnt ever seen us as more thanfriends, and that she dont like me like that but she dont want it to ruin our 8 year frendship.. well..over the past month, I've been avoiding her, simply for my sake, just simply not to bring those feelings back up, cuz when I'm around her they all come back. but she emailed me yesterday, and said she was sad, becauze it was straining our friendship. and she wants things like they used to be, well i told her why i had been avoinding her, and she said she totatlly understood why. well, I know she dont like me like that now, but am I crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the future, cuz she was obvioulsy ( she said) she was really sad, seeing us like this, and since shes only 13, am i crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the next year or two? she also said, " dont take the rejection to heart
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that the reason was probably stupid anyway, whats that mean?
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and for those who say, I am punsihing her, I am not in any way. We have had very friendly discussions, and she understands why, things have been this way. And I have reassured her, promised her, that I will make things the way the used to. Do u really think I want to lose the friendship as well? I mean, that hurts.
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I mean, its not like I'm ugly, I'm very atractive, and so is she. I mean I'm fit, I play varsity baseball, and am only a sophmore, It's not like I'm a geek or anything. And the same with her, she is very good lookin, has guys hitting on her all the time, and is on the national swim team, I just dont know what to do, cuz i swear to god i love her more than anything in this world
2006-10-07 18:01:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean i just cant get over her, I have never in my life, liked anyone, or felt so strongly for somone. Believe me, this isnt a crush, I have had many, but htis is more.
2006-10-07 18:03:20 · update #1
All I can say is just wait & see what happens.
2006-10-07 18:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by picklerunderwoodfan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I've been there. Look dude, it's like this: She is not, nor will she ever be attracted to you. You are in the friends column, and you will never leave it. Ever. No matter what.
That having been established, what you need to deal with are your feelings. I hate to say it, but it is time to stop being friends with her. The more time you spend with her the more you will notice how wonderful she is and smells and all that and you'll just end up frustrating yourself into doing something stupid and irrevocable. What needs to happen is you need to distance yourself from her for as much and as long as you can (despite her protestations) and I promise you the longer she is completely out of your life the more the feelings will fade and you will eventually be able to get back to your life. It will be very very hard at first, but any other path is denial.
2006-10-07 18:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that if you feel this way now, you will feel this way for a long time. You're still both very young and like you said maybe something could happen in the next few years. It sounds like you have a lot going on in ur life right now (with ur extra curriculars and such) so just concentrate on those and hopefully you will concentrate less on her. Any kind of reject takes a while to get over so I hope u don't think ur a wimp or anything..cause ur not. Ok, I hope this helped. Good luck for the future!
2006-10-07 18:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by M V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing, I I'm also in the same situation where I liked this girl alot (although I didn't tell her) I've been avoiding her sort of as well. But Im hoping we can be best friends again. Dude, Just go ahead and continue being friends with her, if you're truly comitted, nothing will tear you guys apart. Also, just move on, I wouldn't want to go out with a girl who has guys hitting on her all the time. Just move on
2006-10-07 18:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Paul W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you seem like a really nice guy, but she's only 13!!!! It may only be a 2year difference between the two of you, but it's a huge difference when she's only 13!!!!!!!!! She is waaaaay too young to be dating. Give her time, her parent's may not exactly be thrilled about the thought of their daughter dating anytime soon. Stay friends with her as much as you possibly can w/o getting hurt about not being able to take it any further. It's better to have her in your life a lil bit than not at all. At least until she can date you if she wants.
2006-10-07 18:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro you answered your own question with your statement.." I'm only 15"
15yrs old you have a life time of girls ahead of you. Why this one? Shes your friend and shes right these things usually do mess up friendships case in point its already messing things up and your not even dating...So, just let it go..love her as a friend and move on..if you can't do that then really how good of a friend do you think you really where? Take it from someone whos walked this road before..things won't ever be the same..
2006-10-07 18:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bucs_Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Stay friends and have fun together. As she gets older and maybe a little more mature she my fall for you. Right now she is still young and has alot of things going on in her life, just be there for her and when sees that you really care for her she may realize that a good friend can also be a wonderful partner.
2006-10-07 18:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, she is being honest with you and she is still a child. 13 is very very young. You are putting too much pressure on her. She wants to be your friend and you are pushing her away because you want more. If you are her good friend, later when you are both older, it could turn into something more. Stop trying to rush into grown up matters. Enjoy being kids. There is plenty of time for the problems of adults.
2006-10-07 18:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by turrill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never write to a girl that your not going out with, girls dont like desperate guys. Once you get into the frinds zone, its hard to get out of it. Time to move on. there are plenty of women,( or girls in your situation) in the world. What do you want with a 13 year? Get her a coloring book, she might go for that. go for a 16 yearl old bro.
2006-10-07 18:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by mermer7@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, listen, you are only 15 years old. Being WAY older than that I can give you one good piece of advice. Women are like buses, there is always another one waiting around the corner.
2006-10-07 18:06:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋