I love my gf very much but she is not one for sex very often... in fact we haven't made love in well over 4 months. She isn't much for affection either. Some but not alot. I myself have a high sex drive and love to be affectionate. It's not all about sex but sex is a part of it. What does one do? She isn't interested in a 3 some, porn no longer holds it's lusterfor me. I do have a very attractive woman very much willing to be my everything... and frankly, I wouldn't mind being her everything.. but I still love my gf... what to do? Serious answeres please. :D
2006-10-07 17:52:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have talked to my gf about the lack of sex and she refuses to acknowledge my feelings.
2006-10-07 18:16:05 · update #1
thank you all so far for answering.... As a side note: I am a female. LOL
Yes, I love my gf but I have to answer if I'm IN love with her still.
2006-10-07 18:26:20 · update #2
seeing as how i know you personally and i know what is going on and i see you the other woman and your girlfriend alot, my advise to you is to kick your girl to the curb and go for the other woman because she is absolutely hot and she treats you so much better ;) welll good luck...oh yeah and by the way today when i made it there i felt a really cold aura from your gf that just didnt sit well with me.......i say dump her move on it will do good for you
good luck :) but you already know that i am there for u
2006-10-08 16:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well there are a couple problems here and a couple solutions. I honestly think that there is nothing in the relationship you have with your gf. Nothing. If she doesn't show affection, then what is she to you? It seems she's a friend. From what you tell me...you care about her, but it seems she doesnt care about you. And if you dont have that, then it makes me wonder, what qualities does she have that make you wanna be with her? Now yeah, youre a guy...so of course you want to have sex, and you would like to have sex with your gf (its only logical) but she doesn't give it up, so you go find it somewhere else. Now this person is willing to be your everything and vice versa, so isn't the answer pretty clear? If this girl, likes you perhaps even loves you, and you might too, than you should be with her. Break up with the gf. Again, I don't think there's anything there, I mean, have you talked to her about the situation? Let her know how youre feeling, if the relationship can be saved...then let it. But honestly, you deserve to be happy and if your gf hasn't cherished the relationship as much as you have, then she's not worth it.
I wish you luck, and hope you make a decision that makes you happy. :) Peace.
2006-10-08 01:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest truth...If you "love" your girlfriend like you say you do you really wouldn't be asking this question would you? There more to a relationship then sex... I had this same problem with my wife. Talk to her find out what she likes, make it more about love then sex, take your time, take care of her needs before your own. Relationships are all about communication..talk to her and let her know how you feel and see why she feels that way. If you do decide to go with this other girl that's fine, but be a man and end thing with your current girlfriend first..
2006-10-08 01:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bucs_Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love your girlfriend, cheating shouldn't enter your mind, however, sex is a natural part of live. Have you tried explaining to you girlfriend that you want sex more often, that you "need it". If you and your girlfriend can't agree on the amount of sex needed in your relationship then you need to re-evaluate the relationship. If sex is something that you can't live without, then you may need to consider ending the relationship. It is not fair to yourself or girlfriend if you cheat with this other woman.
2006-10-08 00:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sprite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a decision, that's what. You have to decide for yourself if you love your girlfriend enough to settle for less sex than you want, or not.
Has she always been that way, or has she frozen up on you recently? If the latter, that suggests a serious problem with your relationship, in which case you have to decide whether to try to work it out or leave her for the other woman.
2006-10-08 00:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shouldn't be answering this but... I tell you what's right but, you wont hear what you want to hear. Well, I don't think you should cheat on your girlfriend if you love her. You should rather talk to her, and tell her that you wish you had sex more often, etc... I am cheating on my bf who I love and I feel so bad! I could cry every time I see him but I can't go back now.... Anyways, if you decide to cheat, she might find out and she will leave you...so think about how's that going to make feel? Well, good luck with whatever you decide...
2006-10-08 00:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by ~Dee~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. If things are not working out for you, you have every right to take action to remedy that problem. But, you must end the relationship with your current girlfriend before starting a new relationship with this other person. It might not be easy, but it's the right thing to do. Do unto to others, etc...
2006-10-08 00:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing DO NOT CHEAT, because later you will feel wrong about what you did. Trust me I cheated on my boyfriend recently with my ex-boyfriend, And I think about that everyday Why? Because I was going through the same thing as you. He doest make me feel good and my ex does, but I still dont know why I did it anyway. But remember talk things out with her, because cheating doesnt resolve anything. I wish I could of knew that....
2006-10-08 01:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her.... if you like affection you will always have a problem that you want it and she doesn't want to give it to you. You need to be with sameone that give you what you need and in your case it is sex and affection, maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel and what you need if she can't give it to you then go for the other women that will give it to you.
Good Luck
2006-10-08 00:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop_za 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking about cheating on your girlfriend but you say you love her? Wtf is with that! Thats not love pal! and as for sex goes who gives a **** you say you love her wash those thoughts from your head and understaind she's not a very sexual person and if it bothers you that much TALK TO HER good lord! *puts a sticker on you that says idiot of the month*
2006-10-08 01:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋