I have been dating this amazing woman for over a year, my family accepts her as one of their own already, but her family doesn't ever invite me anywhere or anything. I feel somewhat unconfortable talking to her parents, i dont know why. But she has no problem with mine. She is perfectly fine with my family, but when it gets to hers, her mom seems so old fashion, and her parents just seem to advoid me. They make me feel like I am a burdon to her parents if I have them do anything for me.
It doesn't really seem like my girlfriend is doing her best to get me to feel accepted like she is with my family.
I just want to be accepted and feel like a part of her family.
What should I do?
What can I do?
2006-10-07 17:46:09 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make anyone accept you or like you, you are dating the daughter, if you are good to her and she likes you the same way you like her, the to hell with the family. you and her are trying to make your ways. forget about the outsiders, make them come to you, however, even though you go to the parents house with her, still, try some small talk, if that don't work, go watch TV, kick your feet up on their furniture (don't get to crazy) but be yourself, don't bend, let them see you, hold your girl, kiss your girl, tell her nice things, it maybe something they may not be getting, and that's why the daughter chose you, because you maybe giving her these things and to her it feels good.
2006-10-07 17:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with your girlfriend and have a long discussion about this. Only she knows her parents best and would know what they would like or maybe why they haven't accepted you yet.
Once you've done your best to resolve the situation, don't get too discouraged if things don't work out. Not everybody likes everybody else. If anything, maybe they'll like you over time. I was in the same situation with my wife who I've been married to for 5 years this monday. It wasn't until they realized that I was in their daughter's life for good that they truly accepted me into their lives.
2006-10-07 17:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by froggomad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you're making it an the two/or, you're screwed. you will desire to make your mind up. 2 factors to contemplate from earlier solutions. a million) How does HER family sense approximately YOU? 2) in case you do marry her, issues will possibly substitute as quickly as the grandkids arrive (if that occurs). or in line with risk quicker. as quickly as your mothers and dads get it that they might rant and rave all they desire and it won't substitute something, tremendously as they get to certainly comprehend your g/f, they might mellow. i'm section Irish, we are realists and we don't possibly stay mad too long, in maximum circumstances. yet another selection. Get a job in yet another city, in the experience that your g/f will stick to you, get married there and communicate by potential of mail/e mail for a at an identical time as. whether, chilly-blooded certainty. Your g/f will possibly outlive your mothers and dads. could quite stay your existence with the female you like or finally end up a lonely and regretful individual on your later years? examine "scotgirl" and "anthony h", too. impressive solutions! advantages on your experience!"
2016-10-02 01:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have a serious conversation with her parents... half of the time parants wont like you if they think your a airhead... show them that you know something... old school people like politics for some reason... bring up the current political situation or somethin... if you dont know much about it... do some research first...
good luck.. hope this helps..
2006-10-07 17:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to change your attitude. Instead of being intimidated by them, stand erect and look them in the eye when you communicate with them. Make it your business to let them know that you are in command (you will have to prove it) and their daughter is in good hands.
If you assume that posture, It won't even matter how they feel, your wife will be proud...and so will you.
2006-10-07 17:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her invite you to her parents house and have dinner and tell some jokes or talk about politics.
Buy the parents a gift for christmas,mother/fathers day or their birthday.
2006-10-07 17:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your g/f about how you're feeling. Don't try too hard to kiss their behinds, just be yourself.
2006-10-07 17:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by AlaskanCutiePie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO LET YOUR GIRLFRIEND KNOW HOW YOU
FEEL ABOUT THIS, THEN YOU FIQURE OUT WHAT TO DO
TO GET HER FAMILY TO GET TO KNOW YOU.
2006-10-07 17:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with her.
2006-10-07 17:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋