I may dress like I'm high maintenance, just because I like fashion & I used to model. But guys always "assume" that I'm a snob or such just by the way I look, or they assume that my parents are hella rich. I come from a middle to upper class family but they don't flaunt their wealth. In my case, like I said I've always dressed niced & liked fashion ever since I was a little girl. BUT on the inside, I'm a sweet, friendly, caring person. How can I get a guy, or a guy that I like to see past that? Especially if he feels intimidated or if he feels he can't measure up?
2006-10-07 17:43:29 · 22 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't feel like you have to convince a guy of anything. If you like to dress nice and look good, then good for you. You should feel bad about that. A real man will get to know the real you anyways. So I would say don't change a thing.
2006-10-07 17:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Unfortunately, if you always look like you stepped out of a page from a fashion magazine, a lot of people are going to think you're high maintenance. Yes, you may think of it as dressing nice, but most people who like to dress nice still tone it down from time to time. If you are always primping and making sure everything is perfect, it gives people the sign that you are stuck on yourself. This usually makes guys think that they would have to practically suffocate you with attention to make you happy, or that you have a big ego. Maybe the key is the type of guy you seek. A guy that really doesn't give a crap about his appearance doesn't want a girl that he is going to have to wait for an hour because they are getting ready to go out. A guy that is proud of his appearance is more likely to understand that you want to look your best.
2006-10-07 17:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, perhaps you may not realize it, but maybe you are high maintenance.....and if you are, then its part of who you are....I'm sure if its true, that's not the only thing you are, you must have some other great qualities, and if people think too quickly and judge, then that's their problem...just make sure you are always you, you dont have to EVER convince someone that you are or not something, especially a guy. There is no need for that.
Stay cool and sweet. :) Peace.
2006-10-07 17:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The image you present with your choice in clothing is sending a message. Is it that you're sweet and friendly, or is it that you focus quite a lot of time on following fashion? Maybe you need to either 1-rethink your wardrobe or 2- look for middle class "wealthy" men who expect a girl to dress like a fashionista.
2006-10-07 17:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you make the first move sometimes to make them understand that you are a caring sweet person...also dress down some days and make yourself seem more friendly...do things that they wouldn't expect you to do...but don't try to change yourself, what I'm saying is do more things that you would like and try to make you a better person so people would see that...like I love doing community service, but I wouldn't have started it without the help of a crush (I kno bad but I love it now)...so maybe try figuring out what you like to do and doing it may show people that you are not just a snob but a well rounded individual...good luck!!!
2006-10-07 17:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever seen a model on the runway? Well, of course you have since you were one, but anyways, they've got those model pouts. I mean, if you watch a runway show, no one looks particularly friendly. And of course, pretty, stylish chicks are as intimidating as you get, even if you're a girl. So what do you do? Smile! Seriously, it's easier to approach a toothpaste model than a runway model. You have to show interest in the guy in order to show he has a chance, and give him the ego boost to carry on.
2006-10-07 17:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it on a shirt, that should get the message throught to him.
Seriously, a guy cant go past a smile, body movement, just shoot them a warm smile and it should all be good, although, if your out at a club or something, never go out with more than 3 friends, cause a guy will be so intimidated, a warm smile and laugh alot and a guy will start to see you for who you really are, good luck hun.
2006-10-07 17:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blurred V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of first impressions working the way they do (and given your appearance) you might have to make the first move. When you do, suggest a cheap dating idea; going to the park for a picnic, walking on the beach, home cooked spaghetti and a Blockbuster movie, etc.
Once he sees that you enjoy spending time with him even if he's not spending a lot of (or any) money, he'll relax and see you for the real you. And don't, don't, don't ask him what kind of car he drives.
2006-10-07 17:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're as sweet, friendly and caring as say you are, then that should show through no matter how you dress. Remember, if guys are assuming you're a snob, then maybe you really are coming off that way.
2006-10-07 17:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dress down... dont wear a dress instead wear some jeans and a shirt. Try some coral, nude and white colors. Leave the clubbing clother for clubbing. Maybe its also your make up... wear more natural colors. Its sad how people ALWAYS judge them by how they look but if you look high mantenance then people ARE going to think you are. I know...Its not fair!
Good luck :)
2006-10-07 17:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by ZaNy_kiDd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋