Her brother had a party tonight and invited us several weeks ago. I told her that i didn't want to go but she wanted to. That was fine by me but she told me she would only stay for a little while and then be home. She left at 6pm and it's now midnight. Oh, and her brothers best friend was invited to and he was going without a date. Should i trust her on this one or should i be concerned and question her when she gets home?
2006-10-07 17:35:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alot of people are missing the point. I did trust her to go out but she said she would be home in 2 hours and it's been 6. I think i have a right to question what happened in the extra 4 hours. Been 4 hours now but who knows how much longer it really will be.
2006-10-07 17:45:53 · update #1
The party is only her brother and his girlfriend and his girlfriends sister and her boyfriend. Plus the brothers best friend.
2006-10-07 17:58:15 · update #2
never dont take chances
2006-10-07 17:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jordan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your girlfriend? If you trust her, then you should have nothing to worry about and you can then trust her to simply be having a lot of fun at the party.
Relationships work best when they are built on trust and friendship. You really can't have frienships or relationships if you do not have trust in each other.
Just because she goes to a party without a date and there happens to be someone else there without a date does not necessarily mean that they are automatically going to "hook up."
How long have you two been dating? A committment is a committment. Even if she told you originally that she intended to stay just a little while, it is quite possible that the party was more fun than she anticipated and the time has flown for her. I'm afraid that I have worried my partner in the past due to similiar circumstances. His request to me was that, in the future, I give him the courtesy of a phone call to tell him that my plans have changed and not to count on my returning anytime soon. That way, he is not left worrying that something bad has happened.
Perhaps that is the discussion you should have with your girlfriend rather than questioning her motives. Ask her to not leave you worrying that she has been in an auto accident or something because she gave you the impression she would be home earlier. If you seem accusitory, she will become defensive and feelings will be hurt all around.
2006-10-07 17:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by MAQdragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you screwed up by telling her you didn't want to go and now you are regretting it. It was her brother's party ya know, so you are dissin' family right now by not being there. I'd just suck it up and deal with your jealosy and be happy for her that she is having a good time even though you bailed on her. All the concerns about her infidelity are probably just in your head. I'd seriously get them out of your system now and not get all jealous and freaky when she does come home. Is there still time to go by the party? Why not show up? Tell her you missed her and all that sappy stuff. Oh, and I'd call her first before you show up, so that it doesn't look like you are checking up on her and so that you don't miss each other in transit.
2006-10-07 17:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Didgeridude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you've had suspicions about her before, then yes, you should trust her. It's her brothers party, I'm sure she wouldn't want to ruin it for her brother, and she's probably just having a good time! Call her in twenty minutes if shes still not home, just to check up on her. If she doesn't come home in an hour, I'd call the house to make sure she's okay and see when she's coming home.
2006-10-07 17:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to question her you must not trust her. If you don't trust someone then you have no business being with them. A good strong relationship is built 100% on trust. Everything else sorta falls into place. Don't be a wuss. Unless ofcourse she comes in drunk smelling like sex. Maybe you should have went with her, eah?
2006-10-07 17:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should trust her. it was you choice not to go, and she shouldn't be bound to your decision. It's her brother's party anyways, and there's going to be lots of people with out dates! She's taken remember? leave the singles to mingle with the other singles. She'll be fine. And when she gets home if you grill her about it, she'll know you don't trust her and that's disappointing to hear from a boyfriend.
don't worry
2006-10-07 17:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by fairyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first , why didnt u want to go, knowing the friend is coming alone, by arrangement with ur girl???dont trust her. yet dont ask her. the answer is there in ur letter. are u a dope? cuckold? u too start going to parties w and w/o her, she is passing thru some periods of stress. sort it out. prepare for the fight but dont cos fights lead to nowhere.
2006-10-07 17:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by kamesvari i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just wanted to get out and have some fun... she's also probably disappointed that you wouldn't go with her. Make sure when she gets back to not interrogate her, or show that you were worried. I really think you should trust her, especially if you love her.
2006-10-07 17:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by o Robin o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine. im sure she just got caught up. trust me. my parents badger me to go visit relatives, and so i just say that im going for a couple hours, because im busy. then i turn out staying forever coz my cousins and i end up doing all of this crazy stuff, and i end up staying, as your girlfriend is, from six to midnight. shes just enjoying herself doing nothing. dont be worried. go rent a movie or something. its usually not advisable to be sitting there doing nothing when she gets back (and the computor doesnt count), coz it'll either make HER feel bad for leaving you there. or it'll make you seem like you were worried, which is something you probably dont want to seem like.
2006-10-07 17:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by give it to me baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had anything to be concerned about you should have escorted your girlfriend to the party yourself. You chose to sit home, so don't rag on her because she had a good time, and don't start accusing her of anything. Next time, go with her or she'll say to you "you never want to do anything" and dump you.
2006-10-07 17:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't get to sit and stew at home when you had the opportunity to go. Just let the girl have fun. Just because you are a wet blankie doesn't mean she has to cut her evening short so she can rush home and be a wet blankie with you.
2006-10-07 17:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋