i use to go with this boi and we broke up over rumors, eventually we started back talkin but never started to go back out. I asked him if he loved me and only me he said yes. a couple dayz later i went to his myspace page and on of his "top friends" has him as her background and has pic of him sayin my baby/my boo. i asked him who she was he said his physco ex girlfriend. then i go to his other pics on myspace and he has a pic of her on there...and none of me. I was going through his phone one day and read his text messages all from gurls i asked him who those gurl where and he said his ex's. he says he loves all of us but im the one he wants to be with but yet he still hasnt asked me back out and we 'just friends' right now. One day me him his best friend and my best friend all went out...they both said we might as well go back out but we havent....give me some advise and let me kno what i should do?
2006-10-07 17:35:11 · 20 answers · asked by trufolife04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should realize that he is either immature or just doing what boys his age do. I don't know how old either of you are but I can tell by your conversation you are both pretty young.
You seem really, really focused on him. What about you? What do you want to do with your life? When you really start focusing on you first and improving your self and setting goals for yourself and finding out what you want to do in life, you will find that you draw the kind of people who are about something. This is when you will start to be very discriminating about what kind of young man you will even allow to get close to you.
Learn all you can about you and stop focusing so much on him. He's going to do what young men do at that age - play around with every girl they possibly can while telling you they "love" only you. Trust me. It's bullsh*t. For them it's about ego and seeing how many girls they can get to have sex or pay attention to them. I guarantee you, you are not the only one he's lying to.
2006-10-07 17:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you deserve better then this @#& loser player guy and you know that. Yes it hurts like h**l but time and emotional distance will heal that.
Open you eyes and look around you. The GREAT guy you deserve could be sitting next to you or around the next corner.
If in time you still want to be "just friends" then fine, esp if the two of you have friends in common. But for now avoid him so you can begin to heal.
Besides the best form of revenge is living well. In other words the once you start dating again, "accidently' run into him somewhere. Let him see you looking your greatest and be with some real stun muffin (lmao Ok I'l admit it I'm a old gal but that doesn't change what I am saying. And you know it) Let him see what he messed up by losing you.
In the mean time look at all the great guys you are missing out on by being upset about this guy. I bet guys tell your friends all the time that IF you wont dating this guy they would really like to go you with you. Well I'm right aren't I. Huh? Huh? Have fun
2006-10-08 00:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let this be a lesson in "how to tell if a boy likes (respects) me". His actions are a definite no-no. If you remain with him the way he is , he will always take you for granted and use you. It is up to you to command respect. Don't be in such a rush to be associated with any man...until they prove they are worthy.
Do not sit around waiting on this guy to nod you way. Having no one is better.
2006-10-08 00:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me , that he is playing U. Hes a player, if you want something more like a commitment, hes the wrong guy honey!!!
:( Personally I think any girl can do better than to stand for a "L", Ya know, LOSER!!! He enjoys to much of the female attention. This type of guy will never really be true to you.. Its up to you though, but this is my opinion..
2006-10-08 00:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't going out, and says he loves you, it's the same kind of love as he feels for all the other women in his life. He isn't ready to settle down for a one and only yet. If you don't want to share, you need to move on.
2006-10-08 00:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're checking his text messages and my space stuff, your gut is telling you something. Finding these things that he conveniently writes off as things from Psycho exes, should tell you something more. Go with your gut, honey. If you think he has other girls, he probably does, especially with what you have found.
2006-10-08 00:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Social_D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is an obvious one, hes a effin liar you shouldn't even had to question yourself about this. I say tell him to go f*cK himself and kick him in the nutz, it will make you feel better <3 lol No1 deservest that and Theres plenty of other "fish in the sea" hun
2006-10-08 00:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by bbymnky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read the writing on the wall. Why are you not seeing that enormous red flag he is waving in front of you? People normally show us who they are, and we usually see only what we want to see. Open your eyes, sweetie!!! Run as fast and as far as you can, Today.
2006-10-08 00:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, i know first hand about cheater, i've been cheated on so many times......i cant count them. If you two aren't dating don't worry about it, if he really loved you as much as he says he does then he would have already asked you out by now......if you even have to second guess at the fact that he has been out with other girls or even cheating, then don't believe his ***........lies, lies, lies.......unless you truly believe that he doesn't, but if it keeps running through your head.......then its prob yes
2006-10-08 00:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sami G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read the rest of your question because I don't need to. If he loves you, you'll know it. It's as simple as that, no questions asked.
2006-10-08 00:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by happyfarah88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋