We've been together for about three years now. I'm typically not a jealous girlfriend, hence the understanding of him thinking other girls are pretty, etc. But just a few days ago, i borrowed his lap top to work on a paper. He had all the essential school links saved under his favorites so that's what i clicked on. Along with his other "favorites" is a section specifically for porn. Jealousy only goes so far at my standing and it went beyond that when I found that out. Yes, I know that there's arrousal when watching it but I don't want him to start comparing me to those girls. We promised each other that we'd never keep secrets like that and when i asked him about it, he denied. My emotions are stoic at the moment and I don't know how to react. How could I bring up that topic to him once again?
2006-10-07 17:25:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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maybe i should add some more details.
We're together most of the day. And i do feed his sexual hunger at various times (maybe too much), just not every day.
2006-10-07 18:01:49 · update #1
Men love sex. If you are not giving him any, or not trying different things with him, he find it in other places.
2006-10-07 17:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a camcorder and let him videotape you. Guys are very visual about sex and he's not comparing you to them, he's just watching naked girls having sex. If he has you to look at he won't need to look at other girls, and will be able to satisfy himself with your images whenever he wants.... which will be a lot more often than he can get the real thing from you, I'm sure.
If it bothers you about having yourself on videos, just insist on keeping them where you know where they are.
Guys want sex a lot more often than girls are willing to give it. That's just a fact of life. This is a way for you to have him make love to you when you're not even in the mood.
I'm a guy, and this has worked for me for 20 years. Haven't even wanted another woman in all that time... I don't need one! I've got all the sex with my wife I can handle, and she's asleep through most of it!
2006-10-08 00:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by bradbdivin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about the rest of his life: does he have problems like isolation, a lack of self esteem, a phase of depression, a diffused hatred against women - there are many non sexual reasons for porn addiction ...
2006-10-09 10:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by bug n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you not doing for him that makes him want to look?
have you denied him both visaully or physically?
have you berated him
and are you going to berate him when you ask about the porn?
many women lay dow the law about porn but then offer nothing sexualy in our of bed and use sex as a weapon to get what ever they feel they need
men have desire but women feel like sometimes it to much work to have sex or it becomes a job... so the guy turns to porn
2006-10-08 00:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make 'life imitate art.' Kick back with him, watch it with him, and try whatever new things you learn with him.
There's nothing to be jealous of. Few of us would really want much to do with the actresses' other than jump their bones.
2006-10-08 00:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel like if they're hiding it it's a problem that's what makes you mad right , just let him know you need him to at least share his fantasy with you
2006-10-08 00:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋