Are all guys jerks?

Question

Ok now don't all yell at me, I needed an attention grabber. I know not all of you are like this but I happen to be dating one.

I am very much in love with my boyfriend of 4 years but am also getting very tired of not being appreciated by him at all. I do everything and anything for him cook, clean, buy him clothes, buy him dinner, presents, give massages, gave him $1,000 twoards his bike, fufill all of his sexual needs (daily), and I am his 24/7 shrink meaning always there at all hours to help him out with his problems. Now don't get me wrong I absoleutly LOVE making him feel good in any way possible, I am just very tired of not getting thankyous or getting ANYTHING in return... he wont even put the toilet seat down for me.
I have talkd to him about this he says he does appreciate me but can't show it. My question is: is there any way to change a guy? like to get him to do things for me in return, how can I make him appreciate me?

Thanks for the kind advice in advance

Answer 1

You sound like a loving, kind, generous person, and this man doesn't deserve you.

Find a man that appreciates you and not only that honors, respects, and will GIVE YOU GIFTS HONEY.

You are doing EVERYTHING AND HE IS TAKING YOU FOR A RIDE, HONEY. Please realize this. Don't know your whole situation, but you don't get anything in return, well then dump the s.o.b.

Do you know bad guys like this selfish one takes advantage of a good girl like you. Don't let it happen any more. Even if he comes crying back to you..... Sorry, I have a feeling his mother pampered him into a prince and now you are doing her job. Please run away.

Answer 2

If you have talked to him and he is telling you he doens't know how to show it... that's an opening for you. You could 1. go to couneling--many men don't know who to show their appreciation. 2. Suggest that when he should say thank you, or give appreciation and it's not given--Tell him you will help him. Simply say i know you have a hard to showing me appreciation and thanks--so I'll point it out for you for the next few weeks. (do this nicely and with love--not with anger) When you cook dinner and cleaned the house that day and he doens't respond.. say something like--Honey this would be a good time to say thanks for dinner--it was great! or I cleaned the house and would like you to tell me thank you. after some prompting he may get it... but may need jump started on the thank yous from time to time. How were brought up often shows why we are the way we are. Does his family say thank you to each other and show appreciation to each other? This can be very enlightening.

Answer 3

Not all guys are jerks. In fact, I was in the same situation you are. I did everything for my girlfriend for 6 years, and the only thing she ended up doing was leaving me. Just talk to him before it's too late. Tell him what you told us and maybe he'll feel blessed and apreciate you more. If he doesn't respect what you want and know how to make you feel good, dump the inconsiderate jerk. From the way you sound, I promise you, there a million guys that would line up to be with you. You're the closest to perfect a girl can be. I mean that.

Answer 4

Its in the guy handbook, rule variety 6. constantly be a jerk. heavily, no longer all adult men are jerks. yet i will agree that maximum are jerks. i do no longer think of i'm, a minimum of lots of the time. I style of locate it no longer elementary to have confidence that each and all of the adult men you come into touch with handle you strategies you describe. you probable basically be conscious them extra through fact they're extra "on your face" than the guy or adult men that are no longer jerks. forget bearing directly to the jerks and initiate paying interest to the adult men that are no longer doing the cat calls and whistles, and diverse comments. that's the place you will locate the guy that respects you for who're and not what you appear to be.

Answer 5

Got to love the men's answers! LOL
Honey I thought I had sent in the question and forgot I had done it until I read your screen name! I am in the same situation, and I get the part about enjoying the things you do for him. I love taking care of my b/f, I get a good feeling from it. But when they stop appreciating it, you become resentful! Stop doing it for a while. I know you cant stop cold turkey, but when he asks for something and you are sitting down, tell him you don't feel like getting up, you are just to comfy. Slowly start letting him do things for himself. Also, start asking him for things! Like when he is getting up ask him to bring you a soda or glass or cookie, anything. If he deny's you, then the next time he asks, act like you are thinking about it and then look him straight in the eye and tell him....Nope! Sorry! I moved....seems a little extreme, but it was a good fluke. I took a job for a few months that required me to live in. So now he has to do everything for himself, and is coming over to the house I am at to help me! He is starting to get the picture, and every day it is coming in clearer and clearer!
Love Peace and JOY! Oh, and Good Luck!

Answer 6

There are some jerks out there, but they are not all jerks. The only person you can change is yourself, so if you are sticking it out knowing you can change him, sorry you are wrong. If he can't appreciate you after 4 years of togetherness you need to let him go. Seems like he needs a mother not a girlfriend!

Answer 7

Sounds like you're giving and getting nothing in return. why are you wasting time on a guy like this? If he says he can't show it, that means he doesnt want to show it. All i can tell you do is ease up on the giving, or move on to find someone who will be able to show you he appreciates you.

What a lame ***.

Answer 8

Whoa whoa whoa...please don't try to change guys. It'll backfire. Especially when u nag us about it. I'll admit...we are stubborn sometimes and just flat-out REFUSE to show our emotions, but u need to deprive him of some luxuries that u afford em'. Use the same lame-*** excuses he gives u and maybe then he'll get a clue.

Answer 9

Tell him, let him know that you do alot for him, but you love making him feel good. But you need for him to make an effort to try and do the same for you. He can show it!!! One step at a time. Tell him to start out with the small stuff first, It goes both ways.

Answer 10

Stop doing all those things for him. He has just gotten use to you. Just go off and do your own things without him. I'm not saying get another man...but just stop doing all those things. Let him be a man and treat you like a women. Show him you don't need him and he needs you.

I've hope I've helped you.

P.S. Don't bicker to him about what he is not doing to make you happy. To them it sounds like nagging.