Midlife decisions?

Question

Hello, well basically my partner has just finished with me after 3 years and Im lost. I am currently living in Birmingham but have the opportunity to move so do I move and make a fresh start or do I stay and face it out, PS she cheated 3 times

Answer 1

face what out? It's over isn't it? Move, it'll be a refreshing change.

Answer 2

First of all: Your partner has abused the relationship and your trust. In immature relationships there is role playing. One is the chaser and one is chased. You are the chaser so stop it now! In mature relationships both partners are humble enough to realise how the other makes them a better human being and how they add quality and happiness to their lives.
You need to alter your "self image". You have been bruised in the heart and the ego so start now to repair that damage and realise who you really are. Take some time to make yourself a better person by letting go of bad "thinking" and habits. Do some self maintenance by doing some re-evaluation of your value's and self image. Change your thought to reflect those of a secure and good person.
Then make a new start. This one is not for you. Turn this pain into a life lesson that will make you a better man for the next girl. It's God's way you know. Life's way of forging you into a better man. We all have to go through the pain to get there.
Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 3

according to statistics people that live an alternative life style are more likely to cheat or have affairs. i guess it just goes with the territory. have you never seen someone that you were instantly attracted to? now imagine having the will and the freedom to act on that attraction. i think the world started going to hell when the free love movement died. why get hung up on having only one partner? love is the one thing that becomes worth more when it is shared. do not make your decision based on your feelings. look at your options and do your research. then make an informed decision as to which place you want to live. there is no such thing as a fresh start. no matter where you're at there you are.

Answer 4

Cheating is a sign of a bigger problem. People don't cheat for fun. Look inside and make the best decision for YOU. Someone else not committing to you can't help you with this. If moving a great opportunity or an escapte route?

Answer 5

hiya, well u know moving wont heal the pain ur feeling, it will only go with u. i am sorry to say, but its true, the only way u can really get over ur ex, and ur hurt, is to get on with ur life u will meet the right person for u one day, no matter how long it takes, but in the meantime dont dwell on ur past with ur ex, live ur life to its fullest, theres always the right person just waiting somewhere for u, and in time u will find that person. and when u do ur ex will see what shes missing. u sound like a very nice person, so please dont do anything drastic, only to regret it later. live ur life and be happy please, ex's arent worth worrying about believe me their not. what she thinks aint anything 4 u 2 worry about its ur life u have a gd life and leave her out of it. plz

Answer 6

Maybe it would be a good idea to move, start again, get on with your life, sounds like a good idea, which i could move form were i live, it would be great, fresh start and all that, good luck on whatever you decide cheers.

Answer 7

Live Strong

Answer 8

Sometimes its good to leave all the clutter you have collected over the years behind you and start afresh, just don't dwell on the past.

Answer 9

Move if you have a better opportunity to be happy but never runaway - stand your ground always

Answer 10

move and get a new life somewhere else with someone new she doesn't deserve you or your love because if she cheated once she do it again and its her lost