I'm getting married soon and I already have a house and everything that goes with it. I don't know what to tell people to give me when they ask. I think it's rude to just ask for money, but I REALLY don't need anything else for my house... Any advice?
2006-10-07 17:01:39 · 19 answers · asked by Love GOD as He loves us. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How about something like photo albums for your wedding pics, frames too. Maybe something that furthers a hobby you and your husband enjoy together or a paid month gym membership or ......really, the list is endless. It doesn't have to be home oriented if you want gifts. You might really like camping and want some camping gear.......register at a sporting goods store. How about one of your gifts being thank you cards and stamps. Now you've got me thinking.......I'll be up half the night thinking of alternatives because I know there are plenty out there.
2006-10-07 17:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why I hate showers. Showers were a tradition that began because a girl and a boy would leave their parents homes and get married and had nothing to start out. Now most couples have either been living on their own, living with each other and have all they need. I think if people want to celebrate your wedding, why not just something sentimental, like photos or recipes or something. I would be thrilled if someone let me off the hook, for buying you a gift that you don't want or need. I would say "no gifts". Or maybe "bring a gift for the homeless shelter"
2006-10-09 16:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, this is a toughie, but it's something that happens a lot these days since people are often off on their own for years before they get married.
Some ideas:
- Tell people that you really don't need gifts; you just want the pleasure of their company.
- If people ask what you need, suggest that they make a donation to a charity you find worthwhile.
- If people insist on giving you gifts, perhaps you can steer them toward hobbies or sports you and your fiance enjoy, or a home improvement store. (You may have a house, but things in houses are always breaking.)
2006-10-08 00:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anyone asks you, have a couple things to say, like: "John and I love Wal-mart, we'd love gift cards". Or, "you know John loves music, he would love a gift card to the music store." Or," we booked our honeymoon with blah-blah travel, and have an account there, if you want to contribute." Or, "whatever you like, gift cards, money, it's so hard to tell people what we would like, since I already have a household!"
Tell the wedding party and the Moms what you might like, they can help spread the word.
If people ask YOU what you want, it is OK to say money, but I would add one item, or say the thing about already having a household, to make sure you do not think you are being rude.
Have a lovely wedding, and how refreshing that you know it is rude to ask for money! Usually the question question asked is how to put a request for money on the invitations!
2006-10-08 04:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally know where you're coming from! I've been with my fiance for 8 years, we've bought a house which is filled with everything we need. When we get married next month, we're just accepting whatever gifts people want to give us. If it's something we want, great, if not, I'm putting it on eBay. No one's feelings get hurt & I don't seem snooty asking for money.
2006-10-08 00:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The gift issue is tough ... technically speaking, it's considered bad etiquette to mention gifts at all on wedding invitations, even to say "no gifts please," because it implies you're assuming people will want to buy you something. Your best bet is probably to register at a store you think will coming in handy (a home reno store, something like that, that you'll always be running to anyway) and have relatives sort of "spread the word" that you would prefer gift cards or cash. However, there will be people who will still want to purchase a gift for you, so you would be wise to register for some actual items - look at it this way: it's a chance to upgrade your things, maybe get some things you like but couldn't afford to buy for yourself. And extra sheets, towels, etc don't hurt anyway.
2006-10-08 00:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Holly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just buck up and accept what people give you. You are right, it is rude to ask for money. You are just in a circumstance that you are already set up for household stuff, but that is not the fault of people thinking of gifts for your wedding! You just should be gracious and polite about whatever gifts you get. There's nothing wrong about keeping duplicates put away for years ahead.
2006-10-08 11:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gift cards for businesses that you buy from. If you really don't need or want anything, you could ask them to contribute in your name to one of several charities that you support. Choose the top charities that give the highest percentage of contributions directly to the services they represent and spend the lowest percentage on their own administrative costs (fundraising, executive salaries, etc.).
2006-10-08 00:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by KIT J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin is 35 and just got married - they also have everything they need, so they simply didn't register anywhere. Most people ended up giving them money, understanding they didn't need specific household items.
When people ask, simply say "We will love anything you choose for us."
2006-10-08 00:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you are getting married, you will probably need more bed sheets and towels and stuff like that, especially if your new hubby to be is a person who works as at a job where he will get really dirty. also, if you have any old appliances which you may want to up grade to more of a modern style ask for that kind of stuff.
good luck and congrats
2006-10-08 00:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by sister cool breeze 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋