whats this mean, please help?
ok about a month ago, i spilled my guts to one of my friends, told her that i like her alot, and all this stuff, shes only 13. well she wrote me back and said she hasnt ever seen us as more thanfriends, and that she dont like me like that but she dont want it to ruin our 8 year frendship.. well..over the past month, I've been avoiding her, simply for my sake, just simply not to bring those feelings back up, cuz when I'm around her they all come back. but she emailed me yesterday, and said she was sad, becauze it was straining our friendship. and she wants things like they used to be, well i told her why i had been avoinding her, and she said she totatlly understood why. well, I know she dont like me like that now, but am I crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the future, cuz she was obvioulsy ( she said) she was really sad, seeing us like this, and since shes only 13, am i crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the next year or two? she also said, " dont take the rejection to heart
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that the reason was probably stupid anyway, whats that mean?
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and for those who say, I am punsihing her, I am not in any way. We have had very friendly discussions, and she understands why, things have been this way. And I have reassured her, promised her, that I will make things the way the used to. Do u really think I want to lose the friendship as well? I mean, that hurts.
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I mean, its not like I'm ugly, I'm very atractive, and so is she. I mean I'm fit, I play varsity baseball, and am only a sophmore, It's not like I'm a geek or anything. And the same with her, she is very good lookin, has guys hitting on her all the time, and is on the national swim team, I just dont know what to do, cuz i swear to god i love her more than anything in this world
2006-10-07 16:39:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
where is the question in all of this slop?
Seriously, dude, the girl misses you as a friend, I think you really need to hear that she isn't interested in you and she isn't going to return your feelings but she does like you as a friend. You have to decide if that is enough.
2006-10-07 16:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, you have to grow up { mature } before any girl is going to take you seriously. She is only 13 and obviously intelligent. Don't put pressure on her or yourself and don't be ashamed of the rejection.
Continue being friends, act as if nothing happened or apologies and tell her you do want her friendship. You both have a lot of time. If you stay cool and attentive in a friendly way who knows it may work out the way you want it to. Life is full of funny twist and turns.
Do not feel sorry for your self or get depressed about this she has left the door open saying she values your friendship. Until things change look around, ask someone else out you said you were good looking there will be some one else around the corner waiting for you.
Remember " THERE ARE SO MEANY GIRLS AND SO LITTLE TIME" .
2006-10-07 23:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I was in the same situation but I was on'y 14 so don't worry about it my now gf was on'y 12 that was a year ago then but inaway just a couple of months ago she said she like me like a bf and was asking if I still felt the same as last year.And now we're together so Just wait there's always hope she might not be ready yet. But U should work on the freindship again so u guys don't drift apart and then try and wait I'm sure she'll come around but like Brittany said before if u aim for a hoop and miss just try with another hoop.
Good Luck
2006-10-07 23:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by nothingforthebest666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is really hard- but i dont think she feels the same way. i think she is just very sad about losing you as a friend. i dont think anything will happen in the future- but you never know. i think the best thing for you to do is to get over her- and explain to her that being friends would just be too painful....just letting her go and moving on is the best thing to do righ tnow. i know, ive been there. i recently told a guy how i felt about him and he didnt feel the same way. but we couldnt stay friends because it was just to straining. so right now i am in the process of getting over him and i think the best thing you can do is get over. itll be hard, but you'll be more happy that you arent waiting around for someone to fall in love with you. i sincerely hope this all works out for you- and good luck
2006-10-07 23:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say that you r both too young to say what could happen. i do fell like its hard to change feeling about some one after you have felt one way about them. just go with the flow u r young and there will be some many girls just see what happens good luck
2006-10-07 23:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by halie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly dude try not to think about it the best you can it's going to hurt I know but for now just keep up knowing she is still in your life and does care about you
2006-10-07 23:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. She's not interested. Tell her she can't have it that way. It sucks, but it's the truth. You can't make someone love you and you can't make someone un-love you. Wish her good luck at competition, cry your heart out and go hit a ball!
2006-10-07 23:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy.... Ã who knows we may not know she would fall for you too... she is still young at heart... and friendship means a lot to her.. you even have a bonus coz you've been friends for years now... as the first person who answered you, yes, its true that us girls dig perseverance...
continue on being friends... and let's see where it can both take you...
you both are young so there are lots of things that would still happen...
goodluck... Ã
2006-10-07 23:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just say be a nice friend and take your time with her and maybe youll find out that you have more in common than what you and her both thought good luck and go get your girl!!!!
2006-10-07 23:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by ya gurl Brittany aka Lil B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to wait she will go out with u if u talk to her just cuz she said she doesn't like u u don't have to avoid her u aren't being fair
2006-10-07 23:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋