Is it mean to distance yourself from a friend who has told you that they are in love with you?

Question

but you dont like them romantically?
distance yourself as in dont hang out with them as often and avoid situations where you might be left alone together? is that ok or is it nasty?

oh i did tell the person that i only like them as a friend. im not entirely evil!

Answer 1

I think it depends on the situation. If they're a really good friend, then after a bit of a "break" you can probably work passed the awkwardness and reforge your friendship. If they're not that good of a friend, and the awkwardness is too great, then don't feel bad about putting some distance between you too. It doesn't have to be permanent, but it can help in situations like this. Good luck!

Answer 2

What's a person to do in a situation like that anyway?
Maybe that's the only way some people could handle the situation the best way they can. I think that distancing ones self
as most as possible, without being rude, is a good idea for the
person who is not romantically attracted or in love with the other person. At best, it is a good way not to lead them on, or have to constantly reject their advancements. No, it's not nasty, it's called "growing up" in a strange and crazy world.

Answer 3

Don't treat the friend like a disease now that the secret is out. Your friend is nursing some emotional wounds here. But I think it's a great idea to make sure you don't do things to confuse your friend or lead your friend on. There are too many people who lead someone on when they know they don't want that person, but they do it for the feel of the attention and being desired. That's selfish and twisted and mean. I'm glad you're not doing that.

Answer 4

Ask your friend - let them know the information has left you uncomfortable and you're not exactly sure where the friendship is supposed to go when you have that kind of knowledge. True friendship will allow for honesty and reach a solution. Just to let the friendship distance itself because you're not willing to discuss this whole issue, is mean and self-focused.

Answer 5

Your relationship will be different now, no matter what you do. The best thing you can do is try not to make a big deal about it and go on normally. If they can't handle it, you might have to slowly distance yourself. Communication will help a lot...don't ignore the issue.

Answer 6

Discuss it with your friend and then decide. It might be kinder in the long run to put a little distance between you so your friend's romantic feelings can cool down, and your friend can move on.

Answer 7

Yes and no. It is a risk they take when they come forward like that. But why should you be uncomfortable to spare their feelings. I am not saying that you should not talk to them at all anymore..... just as you said.... avoid a situation that would make you have to be alone with them.

Answer 8

Did he say in love with you cause that's kinda freaky. well just tell him straight up that there is no chemistry on your behalf. Just tell him. And as far as the distancing yourself sounds like your scared that you might actually do something with him and you might like it.

Answer 9

Sorry, but it is cruel. I mean you used to be friends, right? Well, try to go on as friends. I guess her feelings are going to fade away little by little, and you won't have to worry about being left alone together.

BTW, "a friend", "this person", "them", "they"... Is it me, or what really upsets you is that your friend is a girl?

Answer 10

lol WOW you have the opposite problem from me, i was in love with the guy,(thank god i am not anymore) and now i am avoiding him as much as possible, but deep down in my heart i feel very bad for doing it, So to tell you the truth things are going to be awkward between you to when you hangout , but no you don't ever want to distance yourself from him, because your going to regret it and hes going to resent you for it.