my best friend does not know i fell this way and im been married for 2 yrs i love my husband so much but my bf and i have a lot in common i dont know what to do
2006-10-07 16:34:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had an affair with a married woman. The sex was awesome but when it ended she felt so guilty she dcided to save her marriage by having a baby with this bum. Don't do it He might enjoy it but when it's over you be full of regrets
2006-10-07 16:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say whether or not there are children involved which would really effect the answer, I believe.
Either way, I would just like to share with you the fact that my very close friend is a guy. We've been friends for many years and I am attracted to him. He is very good looking. I actually met my husband of 13 years through him, they went to college together. We have tons in common and he is so thoughtful and sweet. He listens to me and gives me great advice and we laugh all the time when we talk on the phone. He's wonderful and you know why? Because he is my friend and not my husband. You need to take a reality break and ask yourself how it would be to have arguments over money, household chores, kids and all the marriage bullshit. When we get married our partners lose their lustre and we look at other people like they are what we want and really the saying the grass is always greener is around for a reason. Think about what you have and if you really think it is worth throwing away. And if kids are involved, stop and think about it again, because unless he's prince charming and your husband is the devil incarnate, it's not worth it honey. That's what daydreams are for.
2006-10-07 23:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by JennieLouie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, hello you are married. You made a commitment. There is no, "I really love my husband but..." You probably do have a lot in common w/ your bf, that's why he's your best friend.I'm sure you and your husband have a lot in common too--you married him for more than love, right? If your not happy in your marriage that's one thing. Deal w/that first before hurting anyone, including yourself unnecessarily. Maybe your bf is so tempting because he's off limits? We tend to like the same types of men, so is he really that different from your husband? Guilt sucks...think twice. And maybe spicing things up in the bedroom w/ your husband would help?
2006-10-07 23:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by devilmaycare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love your husband so much, and now you have alot in common with your bf...and you dont know what to do. ..hubby or bf? do some soul searching...you married him for all the right reasons, right?????????? or did you? you know what to do, does haveing alot in common with a friend have to end your marriage??? if so you need to wonder why you married this guy in the first place, if he is a best friend to you im sure you knew him befor you married the one you commited your life to...deal with it..your hubby deserves the right to know you are not being honest with him, and that you want someone else...grow up and realize that love is much more stronger than what you have in common with someone else..
2006-10-07 23:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooo what are you doing I could understand if you were in a bad marriage like he beat you or something but what? Is every thing okay? If so you really need to go over your priority's and think about what you have with your husband, and the last two years! This other guy, are you willing to risk every thing for some thing that you don't know will last more then 2 months? This is your HUSBAND meaning you already have him forever
2006-10-07 23:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dakotah D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need to just do what you know is right. Don't you remember your vows? Read the bible on what it must say about marriage. Have you ever thought about ways you can avoid this situation and the other man. Try moving away or being honest with him and tell him all the reasons why you need and have to stay with your husband and how much you love your husband
2006-10-07 23:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask urself, why i am having feelings for this guy? is it b/c ur marriage is a little bit on the rocks now? u have been stressed at work and ur husband doesnt understand? sex life is bad? i dunno. take all these into consideration. if theres a problem, TALK to ur husband. and dont cheat on him, no matter how cute ur friend is. sometimes when ur in a difficult time u have feelings for someone else kind of like an escape. and then ask urself, who would u rather be with? him or ur husband? who is more important? if u HONESTLY answer the friend, then u should question the integrity of ur marriage. good luck!
2006-10-07 23:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are already cheating on your husband if you consider this other person a boyfriend. Any time you take from your marriage by spending time with or thinking about the other person is detrimental to your marriage.
If you have any respect for your husband and for yourself you will break it off and have NO contact with the other man. Otherwise, you have done the most selfish thing one spouse can do to another in a relationship.
2006-10-07 23:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got married for a reason.
Did you fall in love with something about your bf or just him?
My advice would be to talk with your husband about your lives together and see how he feels.
Most likely he'll say he loves you and that should be enough.
Are you missing something from your relationship?
2006-10-07 23:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on a course to disaster. If your husband finds out your marriage is probably over. I would say take a long look at your life and decide what is best. Please don't cheat on your husband, if you really want to be with your friend you must be honest.
2006-10-07 23:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋