My boyfriend said he neede some space. We've been dating for almost a year and he's my life?

Question

Recenlty he's had alot of school work and he also has a job. We're only 17 so his parents have strict rules about when i can be at his house or when he can be at mine. It's 9 o'clock on weeknights and 12 on weekends. If we have work that night we don't get off until 9 so we hardly see each other anymore. Lately with all this happening things have been going down hill. Today he broke up with me and said he needed some space and he was unhappy with our relationship, but he still wants to be best friends and see me alot. What should i do? How should I react and how do I get him back? I really think he's the love of my life...what should i do???

Answer 1

honestly i have been right where you are only i was 19 and engaged to the guy I dated for 5 years. Truthfully you cannot make someone love you and if he doesn't anymore there is nothing you can do about it. I know it doesn't make you feel better now, but I did get on with things and by 23 I was married to someone else and I've been married to him for 13 years and we have four kids. Things work out for a reason. I found out later that my boyfriend broke up with me because he was cheating on me, not because he needed space. Don't make someone else your life, make yourself your life and then find someone to fit into it. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Wow, that's a lot to process huh? First off, "I need space" is male speak for I want to keep my options open. 2) Your 17, he should not be your life at any age, no guy should. The best thing you could do is stay busy. Go for a run, hang out with your friends, college? or go visit a friend somewhere. I know your hurt and feel desperate and it seems like the end of the world but, even if you want him back, the best way to get him back is to play the game like,"cool" take your space and I'll take mine. He's expecting you to be all tragic--never do what they expect you too! You may find there's another hot guy, who does have the time for you. Do you have any idea how many hot, smart, guys there are in the world? Ignore him and he'll come crawling back. Either way, take some time for yourself. You don't have to be his friend right away or at all. You don't have to do or be anyway that feels uncomfortable to you--not him! Good luck and no worries...

Answer 3

Let me start off by saying something and I know dat u don't know me, but I'm a cool person too talk too. I've been in this situation before and I think that u should give him a little bit of space because for one thing if ya'll be around each other for 2 long ya'll gone get tired of each other and u don't want that trust me I know. Look u should be patient and pray. I mean if u love him then u gonna react anyway, but then again ur sczred that if ya'll brwak up he's gonna find someone else, but if he said he loves u then there's no need 4 u 2 worry although i know u will because i have. There is no way........ well yes there is u can pray, talk to him, and be patient. Give him time to think about what he wants to do because u don't want to be in a relationship tryna figurew out why ya'll together. So be strong and pray.
Love cheek meek

Answer 4

Give him the space he asked for be his friend and dont smother him and if he feels the same way you do then he'll relize what a mistake he has made and want you back i know it dont seem possible right now but things will look different after some time has passed the worst thing you can do is try to cling to him this could cause him to run hard in the other direction he is probably overwelmed with rules school job etc and probably feels like he needs a break he just dont know what he needs a break from yet so the easiest thing to target is your relationship he cant quit school and cant get away from mom and dad and probably feels he has to have a job so...... just be patient with him and try to be understanding to his needs in the mean time I'll keep you and your boyfriend in my prayers may God Bless you I hope this helped you out.

Answer 5

This is not what you are going to want to hear, but I will say it anyway: You are only 17, YOU should be YOUR LIFE, not your boyfriend.

My advice to you is this: focus on yourself. If he needs his space, give it to him. Start going out with your friends, make new friends, find new hobbies. There are 2 reasons for this 1. You should never rely on someone else for your own happiness 2. Guys really like and are attracted to independent women.

So if you follow this advise, 2 things may come of it 1. You will definitely be happier 2. Your ex may see how cool you are being about the whole thing (not moping at home or calling him 50x a day to get him back) + other guys will see this as well

I don't know if you should or should not get back together with your boyfriend, but if it happens it will happen NATURALLY. You cannot force him or manipulate the situation. Focusing on yourself and your happiness is really the best thing for everyone.

Answer 6

Oh that old "need some space" bit, I thought by now someone would have come up with another phrase. Needless to say, it doesn't sound like he wants to be your boyfriend any more. The "let's be best friends" thing doesn't work either. You'll always want more than he does. You're both too young for an exclusive relationship, go out, have fun, play the field, sow you're wild oats and think of yourself as the "love of your life" not some young boy.

Answer 7

"Space" is a diplomatic way of telling you to leave him alone. If he liked you he would love to be with you and not stay away from you for a period of time. "We can still be friends" is another diplomatic way of saying goodbye.

I believe you have come to the end of a relationship. Leave him alone for sometime. Then speak to him and see if he still wants you as your best friend. More importantly find out why he is unhappy. Has he met someone else ? Like the saying goes "If you love someone let them go if they come back they are yours if not they never was"

I'm sorry this seems to be the end. I see the writing on the wall. Try your best and see if you can work things out. If not then just move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Answer 8

First of all, you can't "get someone back". If someone wants to be with you they will, and you both will be happy together, you will only hurt yourself trying to get him back if he doesn't want a relationship. You both are very young and may very well be the love of eachother's lives, but since he decided to break-up, the best thing you can do is figure out who you are, let him do the same, and do the things that make you happy. Find some other guys to have a good time with, and don't worry, it will all work out for you. You may find he wasn't the right one anyway! Good luck!

Answer 9

sometimes (needing some time ) there is another woman. being so young boys can be ruthless and cowards.i would not worry about that much becuse there are so many fine men in this world. just don't look they will come to you.if he wants you back he will come back then yuo will have a lot of power,but if not move on. you will be fine

Answer 10

IM SORRY THAT HE BROKE UP WITH YOU, BUT IT REALLY
SOUND LIKE THE BEST THING RIGHT NOW, WITH EVERY
THING THAT GOING ON IT. GIVE HIM THE SPACE TO
GET THINGS TOGETHER, YOU BOTH YOUNG AND YOU
MAY FEEL THAT HE HIS YOUR LIFE.. BUT AS TIME GO
ON YOU MAY FEEL DIFFENT. BUT MY SUGGEST IS
TO CONTIUE TO BE HIS FRIEND BUT TRY TO START
DOING THINGS AGAIN. IT MAY SOUND HARD RIGHT NOW
BUT IN TIME YOU WILL SEE CLEARLY ABOUT HOW
THIS WILL GO. HANG IN THERE.