Okay... I work with a guy who is drop dead gorgeus, and he feels the same towards me. If things were different, i know we'd hook up. But there is a problem... he's married. I know he shouldn't be acting the way he does, but how can i make this sexual tension that develops go away without ****ing him????? I can't avoid him, and i see him every day. I'm a grown women for gods sake!!!!!!
2006-10-07 16:07:15 · 14 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kay... hold up... I'm trying to edit the details here.... i DON"T want to sleep with him... i want to know OTHER ways i can make these thoughts, and the tension go away!!
Sry everybody, and believe me, i'm NOT a slut or a homewrecker. I'm trying to AVOID that course. He won't change, so how do I?
2006-10-07 16:28:49 · update #1
It's pretty common for a woman to be attracted to a married man if he presents himself as "willing". It's flattering. Here is a man, who has a woman that he has made a commitment to, and he is looking at you. Wanting you. Shoot, that would boost any ones ego. A friend of mine and I went through something very similar a few years ago. She started seeing the man. He didn't leave his wife, and she ended up divorced, her kids hurt, and it didn't have to happen. With me, I chose to fight the attraction. I told myself that he was a man, nothing different than I had, just forbidden and so enticing. I kept telling myself that he got sick, had to go to the bathroom, lost his temper, didn't help at home, all of the things that my husband did and some things that really ticked me off. I made a good choice, and he ended up not cheating on his wife, so it was good for him too. Try to push aside the fantasy of how it "could" be, and keep your cool. It will pass. I often find it hard to believe that if a guy cheats on his wife and family in one case, that he won't do it over and over again. Sounds like you are trying hard to do the right thing, so good luck.
2006-10-07 16:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Wanda W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wwwwooooowww, that could be problem, him being married and all... Im kidding, that is a problem tho, Id say the best thing to do is (even tho it'll be hard to do) whenever he "acts the way he does" remind him that he's married, he may try to wriggle out of that tho. Try to put all feelings aside and just be friends, if you cant do that you can always go ahead and bone, but that could possibly cause a LOT of issues in the long run, think about it. After a while he may want to leave his wife, or vice versa, you two will be connected and his conscience will kick in, he'll leave you, to stay with his wife, and you'll be the one hurt, or everything will spill out in the open and everyone gets hurt, including your jobs.
2006-10-07 16:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by xczitemint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so what you are really asking is "how can I stop being a home wreaking whore?" A ***** like you probably doesn't believe in a god, so there is nothing I could say biblically that will change your mind, in fact my whole life is spent avoiding bitches like you. You probably come from a broken family, so I can't convince you that you are potentially breaking up this man's home and destabilizing his children's life. I can't appeal to your sense of disinterest and consideration, you have made it obvious that your own personal needs are above the needs of this man's wife. So sorry there is really nothing I or anyone else can do from changing your fate. You are going to bang this guy, ruin his wife, devastate his children, and then move on to some other guy when your urges require.
2006-10-07 16:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting yourself in his wife's shoes. Do you really want to destroy another woman's life? And do he have kids? Probably would be a one night stand because it's clear he's not faithful. And even if you could except those terms, remember the old saying, What goes around comes around. As for how to make the problem go away, be a decent woman and don't destroy lives.
2006-10-07 16:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay in my view I decide on shaved the entire method. It's simply cleanser to me... And, 6.two inches is woahhh for a young person man. That's lovely well. Don't fear approximately your dimension due to the fact that that is usual for an grownup male, giant for an adolescent. And I doubt you are going to develop anymore for the reason that you're already that giant and also you are not even an grownup but.
2016-08-29 06:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How attractive is a liar who cheats on his wife? What's so hot about adultry? What's sexy about screwing a man who promised to "love, honor and cherish" a woman he is now lying to? I think he sounds like a scumbag- hardly anyone I'd feel like doing.
PS- what makes you think you're the only woman he's behaved this way with? Yeah, a cheater who'd betray his wife and vows is soo dang hot, huh?
2006-10-07 16:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A grown woman with morals would know the answer to this question.
Avoid him at all costs.
2006-10-07 16:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act on it....The wife doesn't deserve you to reck her home life...
Try thinking about the quilt you will face when you tear the wife's life apart
2006-10-07 16:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what do you want...don't listen to that guy..hu said to sleep with someone else! Don't worry there are 8 billion people on this earth surely you could pick one of them..
2006-10-07 16:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a grown woman why would you want to mess with a married man ........there are names for people like you...
2006-10-07 16:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋