can reassure her God is with her still?? She is griefing my uncle died on their porch in front of her eyes and they had no kids and were married 20 yrs. She feels alone....I don't live in the same town as her she is 4hrs away.....but the rest of my family does and they don't call or come over. So she calls me crying and that was something she mention that she felt God just left her but I don't know what to say to her. She is a christian and tries to be strong but is their any scriptures I can remind her of to let her know he is with her in this time??? Thank you so much. I'm really new to this and never had to deal with someone in pain like this that's y I posted a few times. I guess hearing scriptures from the Bible I believe will help. Thanks again!!
2006-10-07 16:00:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just want to say thank you to everyone who has answered and helped with my question. I'm crying reading them......I don't know what else to say but thank you and God bless you!
2006-10-07 16:14:59 · update #1
Jesus said He would never leave nor forsake us. First of all, you have to tell your aunt that of course she is heartbroken because her husband died, and it's normal to feel this way. But talk to her very carefully and remind her that it is NOT our feelings we go on, we stand on God's word. Therefore, if she "thinks" or "feels" God has abandoned her, that cannot be true, because His word says He will not do that, and God never lies.
The bible also says that God will give us the oil of joy for mourning, and the garment of praise for the spirit of despair. Tell your aunt that she needs to take this grief to the great Healer, to Jesus Christ, and praise Him even amidst this pain. It is in praising God, in the midst of our suffering, where He can do His most powerful healing.
2006-10-07 16:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was angry at God for taking my brother yrs ago. Now I realize that God loved him more than I ever could. As much as your aunt loved your uncle God loves him more. And her too. Remind her that God has not gone away. He is right there with her. Sometimes we hurt and being loved doesn't mean that the pain goes away. It just means that we are not alone. In the garden Jesus wanted his apostles to stay with him. Why? They could not change the path in front of him. They could not remove the pain that he would go through. During difficult times we feel alone. We feel as if the mountain in front of us is too big for us to ever get over. But god was there to strengthen Christ and get him through. And he is there for your aunt. She will get through this if she clings to God. Proverbs4:13 Says to "cling to discipline. Do not relax your grip on it because it is your life." I picture myself drowning. How hard would I cling onto a rope or a hand hold? I know this verse speaks of discipline, not heartache. But these are the times when one must stay in God's word. Stay in fellowship with brothers and sisters. If she is not a part of a church then get her into one. Let them know that she is hurting. Shame on those family members who don't care. Let them know that you are disappointed with them. A few minutes can make a big difference. If all else fails, 4 hours is not that long.
2006-10-07 16:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by unicorn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it hasn't been very long since you aunt's beloved passed away, she isn't going to hear much of what anyone has to say, for some time. That time is different for each of us. She is hurting and the pain is deep for her. Just stay in touch with her and let her hear the love and tenderness in your voice, with words that assure her that you care about her, that you uhderstand what she is feeling right now, and that you will continue to ask the Lord to stay close by and love on her until she can connect with the world again. Tell her that you love her and she is precious to you.
2006-10-07 17:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by bet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book called " A Case for Faith" - written by an ex-atheist, journalist seeking answers to the 8 major questions we all have for God.
I am reading it now and it is wonderful... I lost my mom this spring and I am finding much comfort in it. Only time really helps along with great family and friends showing they care.
2006-10-07 16:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by collie_555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her read Psalm 22. it is the one that starts "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" She will recognize teh words as those spoken by Jesus on the cross. Make sure she reads the entire psalm. In the last part of the psalm, the writer is assured that god had not abandoned him. Your aunt will also realize that Jesus was not abandoned on the cross either.
2006-10-07 16:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very natural reaction . we all know that we are going to die someday but when it happens to those we love it comes as a unwelcome surprise. The rest of the family should feel ashamed of its self for not coming over to help her cope as best they can.
Jesus has not abandoned her in her hour of need. she needs to remember that Jesus like God lies within her.
If you cannot find me within yourself . you will not find me without.
Soul-gathering prayer after a sudden shock.
Gather of Souls, draw to me my scattered soul. May no part be lost, May no part be straying. Preserve my soul in peace. In the soul-shrine of my body.
2006-10-07 16:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunt should rejoice in the 20 years that she had with your Uncle!!...
And, she will see him again in Heaven under better circumstances.
2006-10-07 16:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Tom♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a copy of "Footprints in the Sand," by Mary Stevenson, and give it to her -- the poem really sums it all up.
2006-10-07 16:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
matthew 18 : 7-9 .
2006-10-07 16:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by jsjmlj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that since there is no god she should feel no shame or remorse. Millions of children are faced with this thought every day.
2006-10-07 16:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋