Does My mom hate me??

Question

Sometimes she tells me that i'm the worst thing that ever happened to her and i'm a punishment from god She almost never lets me go out with my freinds. Today i wanted to go to the movies and my mom didn't let me go but she let my brother go. She told me i was to young to go out and i'm only a year younger than my older brother. I asked her why she let my brother go last year when he was the same age as i am now. And she said because i'm a dork and i'm imature. I started crying because it hurts my feelings when she calls me name. I got mad and said i hate this house i can't do anything i wish i could just leave, & she replied that she hated me. This happens very often but the next day its like nothing happened. She doesn't treat me bad everyday&she buys me alot of things i want. But i don't understand she never tells my 2 brothers that she hates them just me. Does she really hate me. Once my lil bro asked my mom if i was her biggest pain & she said yes.It hurts me when she says it.

Answer 1

Dam her. Some people are not fit to be parents!! I'm sorry baby. Don't let her turn you in to a bad person. And, don't take it personally either!! Your "Mom" obviously has some serious issues...to say the least!! Hang in there kid!! I'm tempted to tell you to try and get out of there if you can... Do you have any relatives you could stay with??? I feel so bad for you. Good luck. Mail me if you need to vent...I know too many kids that have been through this...and worse.

Answer 2

This is terrible. I am so sorry for your situation. I am not sure why your mother would treat you like this. I think you need to tell her you want a serious talk and tell her how she has hurt you and your feelings. Do you have a grandparent or dad you can talk to about this? Maybe they could help you out, even get you into counseling, which would be good for you.

Maybe your mom is worried about you, trusting you? Maybe that is why she doesn't want you to go out. And, some parents have different rules for girls and boys in terms of going out and freedom (because the girls can get pregnant).

Just know you are smart, and beautiful and strong. Don't let her beat you down. Know you are great inside, no matter what anyone says. Use this as a lesson in life. Hold your head up high and be the awesome girl you are now and grow into the amazing woman that you can be!!!!

Answer 3

Obviously, dear, you are growing up. You are going to have to teach Mom about the person you are becoming. And you are going to have to be the one to set the tone for respectful conversation in your house.

Show your parents that you are becoming a young adult through your behaviors: do your homework, be where you say you're going to be, be home when you say you will be home, tidy up without others having to tell you. Learn responisble decision making. (This takes practice, some of us learn, some never do.) Make sure you mention the good grade you got in English, and that you don't have any undone homework, and that your chores are all caught up.

When you have conversation it is key that you respond and not react to what is being said. Just respond. Take a breath, know what you want to say, and speak to her as if she was one of your friends. It is important that other people feel you respect them. Always respond, not react. Then when mom starts with the immature dork song you can say, "Mom, I don't talk to you like that.....Why would you speak to me that way?"

By all means do not yell or be yelled at. If the volume rises just gently say, "I can't talk about this right now, ok?" and walk away. Do go back when things calm down and start over in civil tones.

Avoid topics that create misery. This is called discretion. Some things are better left alone.

Go to your guidance counselor at school and ask to see them for a little while. All of your conversations are confidential. They can give you a parents point of view and help you anticipate how your behaviors/conversations will affect them and their reaction to it.

People process visual input first. Are you dressing like a kid? Try to project a more mature image for them visually.

You can do this, darlin'. It's hard sometimes ...but it is just what we call growing up. You can do this. Help them to learn who you are becoming. Teach them. Teachers are calm and kind and firm in their resolve.

Be the Teacher.

Answer 4

Wow... It kinda sound like your mom doesn't know how to express her self. She might be trying to protect you in her own weird way. You know you are a girl and no matter what anyone Else says I think it's more dangers for girls to go out. You know cuz their is always those guys who are out looking for only one thing.(not all of course).maybe your mom had a bad experience with someone once, and doesn't want you to go through the same thing. You should talk to her. Tell her how you feel, but as an adult girl to girl talk.

Answer 5

if u luv ur mom and u want to see her change then why not tell her about it and tell her why don't u and her see a therapist together.. u know family therapy.. maybe ur mom is angry bout something, maybe she's being over protective.. moms usually r when it comes to their girls...

there's no excuse for the verbal abuse but it happens, and ur mom going through something is no excuse but she just needs to place her anger elsewhere...

the next time she says she hates u, tell her u love her too and walk away...

and just to let u know mothers never treat their children of the opposite sex the same.. i went through that w/my mother.. she use to say she wished we were never born.. i didn't care though, i didn't let it lower my self-esteem either.. when i became an adult and moved out it made our relationship a whole lot better..

but a therapist for family therapy might be the answer before it gets out of control....

Answer 6

Sometimes out of anger we say a lot of things that we don't mean. I'm sure that she doesn't hate you. You are at a difficult age and I'm sure that you are not a perfect angel either. I think she doesn't always let you do things because she is trying to protect you. Talk to her and tell her how it hurts you when she says those things to you. You should also apologize for saying hurtful things to her.

Answer 7

Normally, I'm a very compassionate person, but I'm also not a fool and I don't believe anything that you are saying. Your screen name is "14 year old girl," so either you're a complete idiot who isn't aware of how dangerous internet preditors are, you are out fishing for internet preditors because you want to be abused, or you aren't a 14 year old girl at all but in fact an internet preditor or someone who's just looking for attention. And I don't believe your story about your mother, unless she's as equally stupid and immature as you are. It just doesn't make sense. No one's like that, and people who are truly abused don't act like you do. Stop wasting our time.

Answer 8

I've gone through the same thing with my mom and sadly she really does hate me. I haven't talked to her in almost a year and she could care less. Some parents and their kids just aren't compatable and there isn't anything you can do about it. I suggest you stick it out or try to get emancipated so you can go out on your own, good luck!

Answer 9

I'm sorry about this. I think your mom loves you very much but has a hard time expressing her feelings about you. Why not talk to her in a private room or write her a letter and let her know your true feelings?

Answer 10

completely favourite. you're the two improper human beings so it is extremely organic which you at the instant are not likely to get on with one yet another each and every of the time. this occurs exceptionally once you're a youngster and prefer extra freedom to particular your self on the grounds which you would be confusing to handle from her attitude as she's nevertheless in charge on your well being and has to go with each and every of the time in spite of while you're old adequate to cope with it. out of your attitude you sense you're mature and can't comprehend why she's not likely to allow you do issues in simple terms on the grounds which you prefer to. all of it spells huge friction. superb element to do is lie low in case you are able to and save out of one yet another's way so which you do not conflict too lots. you're the two dealing with a huge replace on your lives. She's have been given to be taught which you at the instant are not to any extent further a newborn anymore - mutually as you should be taught which you will't take entire accountability for your self at contemporary. There must be supply and handle the two sides - and clashing head on each and every of the time in simple terms would not sparkling up the concern. She has to loosen up somewhat and you should show which you're starting to be a in charge person. it is all stated as component to growing to be up....for the two certainly one of you.