am i being abused? or was i?

Question

i am a 15 year old, femalw...my mother use to hit me, came after me with her fist, spit on me all of that only happend a few times, and it has stoped now...except the name calling, and 2 times she made my step father hit me with a belt. she yells and screams at me, called me worthless son of a b itch. she tells me that i make her life miserable. my real father has been out of my life since iwas 2 years old. he always said he was going to call me, but he never did. and when he did( at the most 2 x's a year) he would always cry and tell me that it was my moms fault for him not being around. and he would tell me that things would change..which it never did...he is also an alcoholic and a drug addict.

Answer 1

Yes you are being abused, even if it was just yelling and calling you names that is still a form of abuse. It seems like your mother has some deep seeded issues and I am surprised that your stepfather would go a long with this. He should have nothing to do with your punishments at all. Can you talk to your father or a trusted adult? I think that you need to seek help and you need to do it very soon. It might make you jaded later in life so I think that you should also seek help for yourself. I think that your very last option should be to call the police on her or child services. If you cannot get support from your family or your father or a trusted adult and there seems to be no end then I would call on them. You shouldn't have to live in a home like that, it's hard enough growing up and then having to go to a home where you could be attack is no way to live. I wish you the best of luck and unfortunately there is no one there to scoop you up and take you out of there so you are going to have to be your own hero.

Answer 2

Verbal abuse is worse and longer lasting than physical abuse. Your mother and your real father both are screwed up. I can't say anything about your stepfather from what you've given me. I don't always immediately assume that spanking a child is abuse, but combined with the verbal abuse, it's a pretty good guess that it is. If it's so bad that you can't live with it, then you should talk to a counselor about it. But, at least you recognize it for what it is, so you know that it's not your fault and that what has been done to you is wrong. That's your first step to healing. No one, especially not your mother, should call you a ***** or an s.o.b. or any other degrading name like that. No one should intentionally spit on you. And if she does spank you as punishment, it should only be on the butt. Virginia and some other states say it can only be on the butt, with the palm of the hand and can't leave a mark.

Answer 3

If she hit you with her fist, that is abuse. If she spit on you without a good reason then that is wrong, but if she spit on you because you did a shameful thing then no it wasn't. Getting hit with the belt isn't abusive if you did something wrong. If she calls you a son of a b*tch, she just called herself a b*tch, and insulted herself more than you. Sounds like you need to get married if possible and find a guy to take care of you.

Answer 4

Sorry about that. It's sad to hear that. But you haven't written if there is another side to this story. Are you back talking. Is there a reason they feel this dicipline needs to be administered? If the answer is no, then yes this is abuse. But sounds like your dad is really no better. You need some type of role model. I'd check out big brother/sister and find someone there. Or if you have a close realitive that could be there for you.

Answer 5

I'm not an expert, but it sounds to me like abuse. Maybe more emotional than physical. I strongly suggest you get some kind of therapy so you don't go through the rest of your life having a low self esteem or feeling insecure about yourself. Many times this kind of abuse triggers on down to the next generation, whether we mean to or not because that's all we know. But if you seek help now then it will be easier for you when you become a parent yourself someday. Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 6

You are suffering from classic abuse. As a kid my mother used to do what you described to me too. I put up with it and at 19, I joined the Navy and told her the next time I would see her she would be in a box.
Be strong, she probably blames you for all her life failings. Mine did. I did not ask to be born and neither did you. Hang in there and as soon as you reach maturity and are financially able, move out. I'm sorry for your life and the absence of your father. He too failed you, he chose booze and drugs over his child.
I wish I could help you, I can talk to you on the net is you think it would help. There a lot of kids out there in your situation, the result of sex to young ending up with pregnancy and mothers blaming their children for their mistake.

Answer 7

Yes you're being abused and the faster you get a job and an apt to move in jus ride the hell out of there never know what she could do one of these days when she gets high.........

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Yes you are being abused, you should talk to a school councelor soon. if that dont help tell a teacher, they are bound by law to contact the proper people to help you.

Answer 10

Sounds like abuse to me, the yelling is psychological abuse and the hitting is physical abuse, niether of which you deserve. Please let someone know what is going on at home.