Should the wife sit at the table with her husband after she cooks dinner?

Question

Okay, I know when a couple or family goes out they sit together and at extended family get togethers they do, but on normal occasions when the wife cooks dinner should she sit at the table with her husband? The reason I ask is because I know women that do and women that don't. The women that don't usually sit at the counter so they can get their husbands refills or "seconds" or condiments. Which is best?

Answer 1

Ok, I demand to be an equal. I cook because I like to cook and always have. It lets me be creative and it makes me happy to have an appreciative man. But I'm not going to sit at the counter to give him seconds. If anything, he can bring me more on his way back. Either we're going to be sitting at the table eating like civilized people, or we're going to be sitting on the couch cuddling together while we eat. Just because I'm the woman or because I cooked the meal doesn't make me the maid, though, and I won't put up with being treated like one. If I do the labor of the cooking, the least he can do is serve. Besides, it's rude not to wait for everyone one to be served to eat.

Answer 2

If the women does not sit at the table when dinner is served, then clearly there is a problem with the marriage and there is a good chance, that she sits at the counter for fear of being hit again or having something thrown at her or she sits there because it put her closer to the door, should she need to "exit, stage left" (get it).

Another reason, maybe the husband is so controlling and is not use to having women or a woman in his presence while he eat. Most red necks display this type of behavior. This type of behavior is the same as when a man sit and watch television, then pass gas as if he's the only one there and if the wife Say's anything, she get smacked across the side of the head and dragged into the hallway and beat with the business end of a buggy whip or forced fed a set of leather knuckles.

Answer 3

Why wouldn't they sit at the same table with their husbands? Sometimes this is the only time a husband/wife get to see each other, especially if they both work outside the home. You can bet you sweet a$$ that if I work all day them come home and fix dinner too, that my a$$ will be sitting in chair at the table and not on some uncomfortable bar stool. Most husbands are quite capable of getting their own refills. Does she have to spoon feed them too?

Answer 4

Um I'm actually offended by this... I have to say. Because I thought this was the 21st century and not 1950 or centuries before. I believe that if a woman does cook for her man she can choose to do whatever she wants or eat wherever she wants. However, I'm confused as to why you would ask this... I'm pretty sure the guy is quite capable of getting his own refills or condiments, he has legs... I also think guys can cook for a woman just as well... And do their laundry and clean the house. In my opinion woman shouldn't be treated as "slaves" catering to men and if the relationship was a "real" relationship then they would eat together at the table...

Answer 5

When I first read your opening question, and noticed your screen name, I thought to myself: This guy is from a cult, or of a culture that has the woman as a third class citizen (notice, not second....but THIRD). Then I read your expanded question and I wasn't sure. There are cultures that do exactly as you have described, but in most homes (at least in societies where there is a degree of equality between the sexes) the wife and husband sit together at meals, at home and out. I would never eat at the counter just so that if my hubby wanted seconds or condiments I would be able to fetch them for him. He is a big boy and can do that for himself....just like going to potty all by himself!

Answer 6

What?

On nights that my husband is not home to cook then I cook--this is most nights. We all sit at the table together as a family. Last night my hubby was home and he cooked. We always sit together. If I'm getting up and he needs something--like a refill--then I'll get it. But if he is the one getting up then he gets me whatever I may need. We usually do the dishes together. Then we walk the dog together and then we get the kids ready for bed together.

This is called a marriage.

Answer 7

I think her husband can get his own condiments or seconds if needed. What is this the dark ages? Of course, she should sit at the table with her husband. Is she not an equal? Or should she go eat next to the dog?

Answer 8

Anytime you can be together why wouldn't you..my hubby cooks for me sometimes..its a partner ship why not put all the meal on the table and serve yourselves then if he "NEEDS" leftovers poof he can get them himself..people are becoming so self oriented ..your family is all you have in the end..spend every second you can with your loved ones..and do things together ..you should absolutely sit with the rest of the family you are not a waitress or a cook or family employee you are in the family and should BE WITH the family even when eating if possible..!?!?

Answer 9

well unless you are his slave and not his wife you sit with him at the table I mean really what did our mothers burn thier bras for if you can't sit with him at supper or any other meal for that case. I have been married for 21 yrs and I still get up with my husband every morning and help him get off to work but that is by choice . so I guess if it is by choice that you wish to sit at the counter then by all means do it but remember this is the 2000's and you have a choice that no one can take away.

Answer 10

You, mister, should surprise her with a lovely set of serving dishes so that she can put all the food on the table and not be running back and forth to the kitchen. This is the way we do it in America. It's called "family style." The concept makes a lot of sense once you get used to it.