whenever my bf talks to other girls just as friends..i get soo jealous..i immediatly hate the girls guts and i want her gone!!!ok well i know u think i must have low self esteem but i actually think im better looking than any of the girls he is friends with, and i have a better personality..but when i get jealous it kinda upsets him so plz tell me how to control my jealousy!!
2006-10-07 14:37:30 · 12 answers · asked by Lil Lost Kitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you feel great about yourself, but are insecure where you stand with him. I have felt jealous when my boyfriend talked to another girl who seemed quite flirtatious with him. I think I felt that way because he wasm't being as attentive with me as he used to be so I assumed he was more interested in her than me. It's silly but maybe you'd feel better by having a talk about where you truley stand with him and perhaps next time you see him talking to another girl you'll know how he feels about you and you wont have to worry about them.
2006-10-07 14:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way , I guess I started relaizing that i have a problem that i have to take care of and i know he would never cheat on me, I've been with him for 2 years. But if u been in a messed up relationship in the past like i have then it could very well be that your letting your past get in the way of u guys. Start looking at yourself and tring to figure out what u can do better about your relationship. I started talk to me bf and i was like once a week we need to have like a date night just the 2 of us and so far its bettering are relationship i am tring not to get as jealious cause i no he loves me and he will do anything 4 me. If this problem continues it could lead him to cheat and trust me u can only blame yourself dont let it get that far.
2006-10-07 14:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by bettyboop911_411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically when a person demonstrates the behavior you described, it is because he/she sees something in another person that they feel they lack within themselves. For example, if your boyfriend is talking to a girl with perfect skin and you have acne, the immediate reaction is to be angry with the perfect skin girl. It isn't because you don't like her as a person, but you are displaying an insecurity of your own. So, my advice is the next time you start to feel that way, try to find something on the girl that you wouldn't want. Give yourself a moment of silent self-satisfaction- but then, VERBALIZE to the girl something you like about her. TELL her she has perfect skin. Give her the compliment. You will start to feel better about yourself and you'll make someone else feel good, which in turn shows your strength and self-confidence. Those are two qualities men LOVE and find irresistible in women. Good luck.
2006-10-07 14:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by MissTx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no longer truly! even as i develop into youthful I did, yet that develop into as a outcome of what I discovered from others. As I grew older, I suggested the heck with all that and why be jealous for the most section? If a guy is flirting with my female, that's a praise, if he needs a dance with her, i'd tell her to bypass ahead. i'm Taurus, won't be able to keep in mind my increasing, solar and moon any further, yet i will figure it out sometime and provide help to understand. i do not difficulty putting any faith in the right results of the planets on me, I make my own judgements and bypass my own procedures. even even with the actuality that i'm a Christian, each and every so often I even bypass off of what God needs to have a touch version and see what issues are like. each and every so often, I in simple terms observe others. i imagine i'm gemini increasing even with the actuality that, confusing to keep in mind.
2016-12-04 09:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by snelling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to same problem. But my bf told me over and over again that i am the best in the world, no one can even compare to me he only loves me and that stuff. Maybe you just to be reassured about how much he really does care for you and love you. It might help a little, jealousy is a b i t c h let me tell you. Good luck sweetie!
2006-10-07 14:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror and embrace the person U see faults and all......stop being the critical judge and realize U can't change the past and give yourself permission to be happy....and stop focusing on the details of things...its a way to distract you from seeing who U really are...
2006-10-07 14:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by macrominded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe u should get ur own bf and lay off mine....
u may be better lookin then me but as for personality i think not.
y did u forget to say ur so called bf already has a gf any way?
but i understand the whole jealousy thing trust me i do and its a ***** but itz only gonna get worse
2006-10-10 17:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by raver_love420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get therapy, sweetie.......no, you do not have high self-esteem at all....you just think you do. Beauty comes from within, deary.....better learn that now because you are in store for miserable relationships if you keep this behavior going.
2006-10-07 14:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up - if he's with u its because he likes you. as for you hating the girls guts n wanting her gone, ... well thats so very immature. dump him, grow up, go find some confidence and then get in a relationship.
2006-10-07 14:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus start counting 1-10 to calm your selve and make sure you don't bit off his head every time he talks to a girl, you will start to nag him and guys jus don't like that......
2006-10-07 14:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋