We've been dating for 8 months and everything was great. He and I work at the same place and I know he works a lot (over 60 hours a week). He has stopped putting effort into the relationship and doesn't call and rarely answers my e-mails. He's been cancling plans with me and we've had sex like once in the last month. I don't think he would ever cheat. I've dicussed how I am upset with his not calling and his cancling plans in the past month and a half. He says he's just busy with work and really tired when he gets home. I asked him if he wanted to break up and he said no. So now, I'm just wondering what the heck am I supposed to do, I care about him alot and jusr want him to pay attention to me. Please help... Thanks.
2006-10-07 14:33:52 · 24 answers · asked by Melanie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know that you guys are over, but you just don't want to accept it. Don't do that because you are holding on to nothing. Move on to the next person and look at this relationship as more experince under your belt.
2006-10-07 14:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is understand that it is over between you two, and move on. That doesn't mean that you have to go out with next person who asks you....it just means that you are now not a couple anymore.
I know it is tough when you care about someone, but you can't make them love you back. If he does call you or email you, don't respond to him. I will bet that will get him curious. I know it sounds as if you are playing a game...but you would not be. If you come running to him like a puppy when he does call you, then he knows that he can pull your string when ever he wants to. THAT, my dear woman, IS playing games. Don't let him do that to you....you will only have pain in the end.
2006-10-07 14:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the more you are on him about not being with you, the more he is staying away. My boyfriend gets like that too when he is stressed or is having problems. I think it is just a guy thing. I would let it ride for a little while longer. If you get really tired of being the 5th wheel, maybe it is time to question whether or not he is worth it. After all, even if it IS a guy thing, you shouldn't be ignored. That is just plain rude.
2006-10-07 14:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already knows how you feel and nothing has improved. I would just call him and tell him it's over. If he wants to make things right, I'd tell him, "No, I already told you how I feel and you responded like you didn't care."
If he can't be honest with you about what's going on, be considerate of your feelings or at least be courteous when you call or email him, then you need to let him go and move on. You may care about him, but it has to work both ways, and he's made it clear that he's not willing to work.
Find someone that honors you and treats you well.
2006-10-07 14:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he has moved on past this relationship with you...why you would have sex with him still simply boggles the mind. The reason he said he didn't want to "break up" is because you're still willing to allow him to use you and he wants you around when he wants someone he can use. Take a hint. No one can use you as a doormat unless you lie down and let them wipe the **** off their shoes on you...when do you plan on getting up from the floor?
2006-10-07 14:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
60 hours a week, Can be stressfull after awhile. Alot of time us men come home we just want to relax. Try to communcate with hi, if he dosen't know of your concerns, or does and won't try to make an effort to work it out. He may of lost intrest. Try something exciting and new, like plan a weekend trip.
2006-10-07 14:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, he said "no" when you asked if he wanted to break up.. Just take it at that and accept his reasons for not being so frequent in answering you. He could have a problem at work and needs you to understand. Be there when he needs you, ok? Be selfless.. Wanting him to pay attention to you is kinda selfish you know although we women would like it a lot.. Be supportive
2006-10-07 14:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he's done with the relationship, You need to just let go. Everyone knows that people that are dating or married can't work together. Just to much time spent together. Maybe things will improve but sounds to me like you might need some time apart. Good luck..
2006-10-07 15:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by bronzedoll_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So keep waiting and waiting and you'll have nothing. Break up with this toad, he doesn't give a sh*t about you. You are wasting your time and worse yet your time. he's busy at work and he is probably getting some on the side from someone else. Give it up and find someone that will love you, respect and spend time with you.
2006-10-07 14:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him right? There are going to be obstacles that you two have to overcome. He still lovs you no doubt he wants to be with you. You have to be an understanding girlfriend and understand that work is overtaking his life and maybe talk to him and tell him that you feel a seperation and it will make him really realize that he wants to be with you. Just be careful, he is not cheating okay!!
2006-10-07 14:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋