Ok, its like this. I've recently returned home from the millitary and i'm haveing troble adjusting to civilin life. I joined right after highschool and had a blast in the service. My life before was crap, i was the guy in the back corner that noboby talked to or even knew existed. I was beatup on a daily basis by the football team. Ive been home for 7 months now and I no longer have any friends who call to ask if i want to hangout or something. Evereyone that i knew got use to not having me around, and so i do nothing but watch T.V. and movies. I had a gf for two weeks back in july. She was thefirst girl i ever did anything serious with. She dumbed me without letting me know. I live in my parents pool house in their backyard. I dont have to pay rent, but i do get alot of flak from my dad. And to top it all off my younger brother is "the good son who will do something with his life". At least thats what my dad says. So if anyone has any advice i would be glad to read it.
2006-10-07 14:20:17 · 17 answers · asked by Brock 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Where you live?
Go out to bars and clubs.
Go online and meet people.
Join Myspace.
Everyone loves a former military guy.
2006-10-07 14:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First get yourself some counseling from the military. You need it for the adjustment.
Second get a job and that should open avenues for socializations. While you were away, your friends moved on, which could have happened even if you never served in the military. And, your family will see you are becoming a responsible adult.
Third join a church or other social group where you can meet people. Don't start out with discussion of your military time, rather discuss events pertinent to those around you.
Lastly the girl dumped you. Maybe she is just a plain jerk and you should be happy you did not waste more time on her. There are lots of quality ladies out there but you will never find one sitting by the pool.
Get moving, mister.
2006-10-07 21:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did do something great with your life. You are a person who has helped to protect the United States. This is a big accomplishment. You could talk to a counselor if you want to. They basically let you work your feelings out but are there to listen and to guide you. If you do not like this idea than you could always reenlist if this makes you the happiest, go to a college (even a two-year college would be something to consider) or move out of your parents house when you can afford to. Sounds like you need some independence. Going to a social club event would be a good idea if you do not live in the country. There might be an outdoors club that you might like to join.
2006-10-07 21:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoyed being in the military, consider re-enlisting. You served your country, which is extremely admirable. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. Watching TV and movies may get you in a rut, though. If you don't really have much going at home, have you considered picking a city/town you've always liked/wanted to live in and moving there? start anew? the first step may be difficult, to get away from the comfort zone, but once you take that first step, exciting things will just start happening--new job, new friends, new relationships. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-07 21:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by FaithinJude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be really hard to hear that from your dad. Try not to let that keep you down. Find your nitch. Get a job that you enjoy, meet new people. Get yourself doing different things. There is so much to do in life. Don't let it just pass you by. Take classes at a community college, or, reinlist if you felt good about yourself doing that. You will find your way. You are the only one who can change your life. Don't let anyone get you down. Keep plugging away. Good Luck
2006-10-07 21:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, join a club, join a church (if you are so inclined) hang out at bars or clubs or somewhere. You have to go places to meet people. Call the people you knew before. If they got used to living without you then they can get used to living with you again. Take a class.
2006-10-07 21:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kyra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, thank you for serving.
Second, you have benefits coming so use them to go to school. The sooner you are out from under your parent's roof and concentrating on your own life the happier you will be. Happiness breeds confidence and that's very attractive. Before you know it, you will be in love and well on your way to having your own family. But it's totally up to you so get moving. It doesn't get any easier to wait.
All the best!
2006-10-07 21:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have so many possibilities in your life---wow. A zillion people would love to trade places with you and start where you are now.
High school is over. And your younger brother is probably jealous of you (he's younger!)---don't worry about competing with him. You are uniquely you--Look at yourself, and improve what you can. Your life is getting started. Get a job, save money, and go from there.
2006-10-07 22:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start concentrating more on your accomplishments than on what other people think of you. Looking back at your military life as a positive experience is a huge success. Start thinking about those contributions you made and stop allowing others to determine your worth.
2006-10-07 21:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound stupid but go back re-inlist or move away to where some one will appreciate you you dont have to take the mental abuse tell your dad YOU did DO SOMETHING you SERVED OUR COUNTRY tell him to go do that and see how he handles it!! LOL i have a brother in the army over in Iraq right now and I dare anybody to run there mouths and say he hasnt done anything with his life!!!!
2006-10-07 21:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by weirded out 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋