Would you be mad at a friend to the point of not speaking to them again after their suicide attempt? Please understand that I have multiple personality disorder due to the sexual abuse I experienced as a child.
2006-10-07 14:13:01 · 19 answers · asked by catzrme 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
People fear what they don't understand.
2006-10-07 14:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned from a lot of experience, that when people commit suicide, it creates a lot of anger. My brother in law recently overdosed and he died. My other brother in law was so angry he almost got into a fight with my husband. It was horrible.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is very hard on the ones left behind to understand why and how come they couldn't help more.
I think the anger will pass, but your friends are probably having a hard time because if they get close to you and do it again and succeed, it will hurt even more. I had about 4 friends commit suicide, I haven't gotten close to anyone except my husband since. I now have NO friends.
I know your probably in a lot of pain inside, but suicide is a very selfish act and it's one you can't take back. I hope you reach out for help next time your feeling this way, people love you.
2006-10-07 21:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would never abandon a friend. A suicidal attempt is a way to cry for help and that is the time friendship is most needed.
Perhaps your friends don't know how to react. Are they angry with themselves for not being there was you needed them? Are they burned out with discussing your personal problems and need space and time to recover?
If I were in your position, I would write them a note and tell them how much you appreciate them, love them, and want to put this and other issues behind and move on in life together as friends. Then at least you have said your part and put the ball in their court. Remember they may not know what to say to you the first time you get together. Break the ice!
2006-10-07 21:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give people time. You scared them, and it hurts when someone you love is hurting, some people react by pushing that person away, and i know from experience how that feels, i've been where you are. But looking at it from the other side, people can be thinking many things, like you didnt care or love them ebough to stay alive for them, that you tried to 'leave' them, people will be angry and hurt and scared, but those who are true friends and who really love you will come around. Just give it some time, and dont let their behaviour push you into doing something drastic again...remember, they are upset because they love you. If they didnt care, they wouldnt be reacting like this. I too have DID, and i understand how hard it can be to cope, but you need to find a way to lean on those who are still there for you right now, as well as finding the strength that lies inside of you that you dont let yourself see. It's there, you just have to trust in yourself. Feel free to email me if you like.
2006-10-07 21:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Fade__Out 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself---friends cannot do it for you.Other people want to understand, and probably mean well, but might not know how to, or what to say. It's time for you to take care of yourself first, and stop worrying about what others think.
Get into serious therapy to heal yourself from the sexual abuse---it will take work, but you can improve your outlook.
Everyone has felt these feelings-- I have, too. These are some books that might help:
2006-10-07 23:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have not tried again is a credit to you. I would not be mad. All I would do is inform you that you now have a second chance at life. Try to make the best of it. Be strong, with time and the proper help you will be able to get your head straight. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 21:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mad is not a normal responce to that situation. If that were to happen to any of my friends- even my best friend I would feel hurt, scared, shocked, depressed, confused- but not mad at them. Be careful and if you ever need anyone to talk to you can contact me. I may not be the best help but I have had friend in VERY similar situations. They chose their automoble as there weapon against themself and survived.
2006-10-09 00:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by if i only knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a true friend be mad with you??? I don't know your age but if you are a minor your parents need to get you to the Dr. If you are 18 and over PLEASE get help. They have medications that will really help you with the help of a Dr. in that field. Look in the phone book under Mental Health. Depending, you might be able to get help and your medicines free........
2006-10-07 21:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by mfroeh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time worrying about these people as they are not your genuine friends......stay in AA and form friendships that are the best in the world......many people network so well in AA and they stick by each other like you would never believe....drop all using friends...that is the first step...or anyone who doesn't support your effort......AA is the program that works...good luck
2006-10-07 21:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for a reason like that I wouldn't be angry with a person. That sounds strange to me. Maybe you need to find a new set of friends. I think they are very wrong to treat you like this. Good Luck to you! :)
2006-10-07 21:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be alittle upset but i think it would be because i wouldn't understand your situation. your friends don't realize the pain and suffering that you go through. you could also tell your friends that it wasn't YOU who tried to commit suicide it was one of your other personalities....which is probably your case. good luck! i hope things get better for you !
2006-10-07 21:16:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋