First of all, if you want to lecture me about the idea that I shouldn't do this, pleasedon't answer. I'm not even sure I'm going to or that I think it's right, but I'm curious what people think would be the best way for a very nice person who is very attractive and a good friend of a guy who has carefully hidden from her the fact that he has a girlfriend and who has recently discovered the fact to gently propel him to break things off with his girlfriend. For those of you who are very moral, just take into consideration that Iam a very loyal and loving person, and I was thinking long-term.
2006-10-07 13:58:32 · 11 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well its going to be your lost if you let this go if thats the way you feel about this person,some times you of to step on toes to get where you are going.so take the chance to let this person know how you feel but be for you do that make shore that he has the same feelings for you.because it well hurt you in the ending.
2006-10-07 14:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by janaine l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he has been trying to hide the other girl from you? Is he interested in you? Or are you also his girlfriend and he's stringing the both of you along to some degree. I'm sure you realize that if he isn't interested in you already, there's no point, and if he thinks that that's what you're out to do, then there's no point because he won't like you afterward. But, if he's already interested in you and you think he's been thinking about it on his own, then I suppose it's not out of the rehlm of moral to gently coax him to pick between the two of you. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel about him. See how he reacts. If he does want to go further with you, then you should make it clear to him that it's going to have to be you only. If he doesn't want to, then you should just stop there or you'll just be throwing away your friendship, too.
2006-10-07 21:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harmony wrote the most important thing I have read on this topic yet. Remember, If a person does something hurtful, sneaky, if they cheat on bf/gf,to be with you, if they lie to cover up these things; don't ever be so naiive to think for one minute that person won't do the same to you. He has already proved to you that he is all of the above. You are no exception. I am a grown man with some experience with people.I responded only to give you something else to consider, OK?. Good luck, sweetie.-- Rat-- And no, this was not a lecture, if you want one of those,-call Mom. or my mom.
2006-10-07 21:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u no 4 a fact this guy doesnt love the girl he is with then say 2 him y r u with her u dont love her tell him 2 b honest with her its not fair on her if she loves him but he doesnt love her. it will be hard 4 her 2 accept but in time she will realise it was done 4 the better and she can move on with her life. then it will up 2 u 2 make ur move if he does tell her. gud luck
2006-10-07 21:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't make out..if you are the guy or a girl wanting the guy to break up with his girlfriend so he can be with you?
if you are the guy...the only way to break up is to be honest and upfront even then it will not be clean because you have a reason to break up...somebody else.
if you are the "other girl" .....who are you being loyal and loving to? would you want to be treated in this manner?
2006-10-07 21:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by sisrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i would think is if he did break up with her for u then i wouldn't put it past him to do it agiain...lust is very different then love ...and that takes time to determine...and if it's meant to be it will happen, but that isn't a option...he needs to be able to do it on his own or he will always wonder and there is no cleanley bc he will hurt her or the other way around it's a part of dating...but he needs to be aman and take care of his own relationship not you or your friend.
2006-10-07 21:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone or get someone to break up with anyone. A true friend will not be selfish. You should be happy for your friend. If he is happy you should want him to be happy no matter who he is with. Find someone for yourself. He will be upset with you if you try doing things to break him up with his girlfriend. He probably isn't into you if he is with someone else and you have been his friend.
2006-10-07 21:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy.... someone is going to get hurt right?just make it clear that hurting her was not your intention....you have to live your life....
2006-10-07 21:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by callalily07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. She may not understand, but will repsect that more than lying to her.
2006-10-07 21:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by tko43078 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
believe it or not almost all males go where they want to go....
2006-10-07 21:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋