How do i tell my girlfriend?

Question

that she needs to loose a couple of pounds? she picked up about 10pounds since we started dating a year ago?

Answer 1

When we go out with people, I believe there is an obligation to keep up our appearance. Physical attraction is a strong part of the relationship and we should try to look the best we can. There isn't anything wrong with that. That being said, if you have gained 10 lbs yourself, you need to address that too.

I think the most tactful, less abrupt way to let her know is to make it an activity you can do together. Ask her if she'd be willing to work out with you. You'll both benefit from it. Good luck. :)

Answer 2

I can't believe everyone is responding in such a harsh way. Part of an adult, grown-up relationship is being able to be honest with each other. Don't look at her and say, "hey, you're getting really fat!" but tell her that you've noticed she's put on a couple of pounds lately, and that you think it would be good for both of you to eat better and be more active. The thing is, you both WILL be healthier if you eat better and are more active. Be gentle, but be honest. And to those who say 10 pounds isn't a big deal - will you wait until your partner has put on 50 or 60 pounds, which are harder to lose? Will you wait until their health is at risk? If you love someone, you need to be honest. Gentle, but honest.

Answer 3

Heh! I have tried telling my man. Ten pounds is nothing (though for all I know she is short and then it is a lot). My boy has put on probably 40 since I have known him. I have mentioned to him casually that I prefer thin men and so he tries to eat a little healthier but nothing of it. Just be active with her. Do the park and the gym together. That is probably the way to go.

Oh but by the way she DOES NOT "need" to loose a couple of pounds. YOU would just find her more attractive if she did.

Answer 4

Hey Truth,

Lead by example. Do active things with her until she loses the weight. Then tell her "You've lost some pounds" and bang her brains out. She'll keep the weight off.

My boyfriend needs to gain 20 pounds. I cook very fattening foods for him. I eat them in moderation, but I give him 2-3 helpings. When he gets to the size I like, the earth will shake.

The other day I made Chipotle-Mushroom Couscous (cooked with a stick of butter) and 2 Pork Chops with a Red Wine Sauce (also made with a stick of butter).

Instead of the couscous, I had cabbage with spices, and 1 small chop with a tablespoon of sauce. He had the rest.

Answer 5

Don't tell her, that's just mean and she will completely get the wrong idea. You're there to support her, love her, and respect her no matter what she looks like. Making her believe otherwise will bruise her self esteem and her faith in you. Instead of flat out telling her that she needs to lose weight, why don't you work on it with her? Start cooking healthier meals, get her to join a gym with you, and park farther away so you have to walk farther. It wouldn't hurt you to get some extra exercise while supporting her at the same time.

Answer 6

You dont tell her that she needs to lose a couple pounds. You tell her that you want to start living an healthy lifestyle and ask her if shes interested in working out with you. If you care about her you wont make it about her losing weight but more about being healthy. If you make her feal like she is overweight then her self-esteem will take a hit and then you have got real probs. Remember you have to work out with her and make her feel good about it.

Answer 7

If you can't hadle ten pounds, then there is no way you can handle all the changes that life has in store for a couple. Dump her, keep it shallow and date only shallow skinny girls until you end up the old bald dude trying to pick up chicks at the bar.

Answer 8

My wager is the alcohol made her call. as quickly as I used to drink heavily that's what alcohol made me do. I ought to declare that i think of mutually because it took away any inhibitions it additionally tended to depress me and reason me to look for convenience from pals of the fairer intercourse. i'm not precisely particular why this occurs. you have heard adult males say "enable's get under the effect of alcohol and make contact with up some women human beings" properly that seems to hold genuine for women human beings as properly. i'm thinking that her eating have been given between you 2 in the previous and that it my have been the underlying reason you broke up. She would comprehend this and experience that she made a mistake. question is how does she experience approximately you whilst she's sober. that's what concerns.

Answer 9

i picked up 20 punds when in the past 4 years w/ my boyfriend... you shoud love her no matter what, but if it's bothering you and you are both really close just tell her really nicley or in a joking way that she needs to loose wait.. my boyfriend did it and it didn't hurt my feeling.. i call him a fatty all the time! :)

o but i did lose the weight :)

Answer 10

You need to just realize that people will gain weight over a period of time. 10lbs is not that much and if your complaining over that then you are a very shallow person. Look with in yourself and ask yourself is she worth more to me then the 10lbs she gained if the answer is no you don't deserve her anyway.