Why is it bad for a girl to ask a guy out? I like this guy and I'm almost sure he likes me back but he's really shy and I think he's afraid to ask me out in fear of rejection. I want to ask him out so bad but everyone's been saying the boy's supposed to ask the girl out. Why is it supposed to be that way?
2006-10-07 13:50:32 · 23 answers · asked by Rosebud 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not so go for it.
2006-10-07 13:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I am soooooooo tired of girls making excuses for guys, he is 'just shy, scared, nervous, intimitated, insecure, afraid....STOP! All of you girls should know that if a man truely likes a girl he WILL let her know. Trust me! He will make a move, he will ask you to be his one and only girlfriend-you know why?? Because, he does not want any other guy to get to you first and have you because then you'll be taken and he will not have a chance, therefore, he will make sure he lets you know how he feels and will see if there is potential for dating. How come guys do not make excuses for girls. You don't hear or see guys writing things like "she's just shy"- Um, no. Girls have to be stronger and stop bragging and complaining. If he does not ask you to be his girlfriend he is simply NOT interested. Period. When a guy likes a girl he will move both Heaven and Earth to have her! Not literally b/c that's humanly impossible lol, but figuratively. Let him do all the work from now on. You already did your part by showing him that you are interested, he knows you like him-he is not stupid nor blind. He knows how you feel for him by the way you act around him. It's noticeable. He's only a guy, nothing more, nothing less. Do not make him your everything.
I say do not ask him out because guys LIKE a chase. When you're so easy to have it's no longer fun. He likes to know that you are kinda hard to get, if you're so easy to have then other guys can have you too, he wants to know that he had to work to have you, that is why you should let him do the asking out. I know it's the year 2006 and a lot of women now are asking men out but then the man will treat her like crap because she was the one who made the relationship possible. Let him do the asking out because it shows that you have self respect and that you do not just let anyone into your life. Stay humble and wait, be patient. If he likes you he WILL, I repeat, he will ask you out no matter how shy, nervous, afraid, he is. he will find a way to get over his issue and step up and do the asking.
I don't care if it's the 21st Century as everyone is saying, still I will NEVER ask a guy out because if he did not ask me out, why owuld I ask him out? I must have not been good enough to approach me then I guess, he may not have seem something he liked right?...All you are going to do is boost his ego and give him a BIG head by asking him out. I know I am making a big deal out of this question lol but it's true. Let him do it.
2006-10-07 14:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by NO♥NAME 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Okay, this isn't the 1940's or the 1950's. If you think that he is interested, then just ask him if he wants to go to McDonald's one afternoon or something. Let's say you run into him. Just say hey, I was going to the McDonald's (or whatever your local burger joint is) do you want anything, or you want to ride. If he says yes and wants to ride with you then make room and small talk and slowly ask him if he wants to go to a movie one night or something. If he says no thank you then say okay, see you later. If he says yea, get me a #3 then say eather Jump in or give me $5.00. Once you get him in the car be like hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go to a movie one night or whatever you guys do around there. If he gives you the money, then drop off his food and say okay, have a good night. I promise he will want to know why you didn't hang around. Now a days it is hard for a man to make the first move for some reason. You have just got to find away on your own to test the waters.
2006-10-07 14:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out, break the trend. I disagree with whoever said that we shy guys are just not into you. It IS the fear of rejection. Oh how id love to have the girl i like ask me out. Either that or i'd ask her out only when im 110% sure she likes me.
2006-10-07 13:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I have had a few women ask me out and i thought it was cute. In fact back in 1989 a girl asked me out and i ended up marring her 2 yrs later..
It fine for a girl to ask a guy out..
2006-10-07 13:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never has to be that way thats stupid thats like saying a boy has to kiss a girl b4 her.... go for it trust me im a guy and its no big if ur rejected if ur a girl but it is if ur a guy... if he rejects u just ask him to not tell ne one:p lol
2006-10-07 13:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't bad for a girl to ask a guy out so if you like him and he hasn't made the first move then go and ask him.
2006-10-07 13:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is absolute crap, I love it when a girl asks me out as I think it shows a woman is sure and secure about herself in every way possible. I just answered a similar question earlier, check it out, Colin.
2006-10-07 13:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by colinhughes333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as i know, there's no problem with the girl asking the guy out. that's the way it has always happened for me (although i'm only 14), and for most of my friends i think. alot of guys are shy nowadays!! just ask him out, and if anyone cares, so what? it isn't their business
2006-10-07 13:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Hawkgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that way. If you like him...ask him out. If you don't, and he doesn't either, you may regret it later. Don't be one of those "what-if" people. What's the worst that can happen? Him saying no. Yes, that would be totally lame, but at least you gave it a shot. I say go for it!
2006-10-07 13:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by *Chelley* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're living in the 21st century, it doesn't matter wether a guy asks a girl out or vice versa.
It's not supposed to be that way.
You just go for it and ask him out, and let him say yes or not.
If you're gonna wait for him to ask you out you'll be in college.
Just go for it!
2006-10-07 14:06:38 · answer #11 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋