I've been dating this guy from work,we have been on two dates so far and on our second date i went to his house for dinner. We didnt have sex but i flashed him my chest and i touched his crotch. I kinda feel bad now because i wanted to wait til we did anything sexual,do you think he's thinking bad of me now that we rushed?
2006-10-07 13:26:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, it's nice to know the girl has a high sex drive. flashing and petting isn't really a lot. keep teasing him like that and he'll go nuts/
and FYI for liza, the whole reason men and women get together in the first place is sex. Love can come before or after sex, or never at all. Girls who are looking only for love are going to have a hard time finding a guy.
2006-10-07 13:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think he'll think bad of you. You said that you didn't have sex with him, thats the thing you want to wait a while before you do because at the end of the day it holds the most intimacy.
You say you've been on two dates but not how long you've been dating/known him(as you work with him) this can make a big difference. If he feels like a complete stranger than maybe it was a bit soon to be doing that sorta thing but I don't think he'll judge you for it if he really likes you.
2006-10-07 13:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by binauk2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all girl.
I went out with a guy from work, and on ur first date we made out. And we are still together until now, it's been over 2 and a half years now. But be careful if you are workcolleague, try not to let ur relationship affect ur work. Cos gossip will spread like hot cakes.
But i'm sure u'll be cool, u just gave a guy a preview of what's to come. A teaser as you'll say.
But best of luck
2006-10-07 13:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Vanessa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I have heard this my whole life, BUT I will say, I have had sex on the first date and ended up together for 8 years, so I guess it's all about how you handle yourself...I have NEVER ever NOT been "called" because I did something early on...Even though guys say they don't respect a girl I think that's bull! Maybe 20 years ago, but not now....In fact my current man and I had relations RIGHT away...and we're getting married....If you act like a **** you'll get treated like a ****, if you act like a woman that knows what she wants and NOT afraid to get it, you'll be admired!
2006-10-07 13:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by conniechung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you've rushed at all.
but i do think that if you're going to be flashing your chest at him and touching his boy bits then you're either playing games which is going to lead to much more, or you're being silly.
personally i think you better off not flashing or touching until you are ready and do so in a nice way. this just sounds a bit cheesy to me and not very romantic at all (this said not knowing the whole situation).
and yeah, he'll be expecting much more next time you go out.
2006-10-07 14:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you describe here is sort of typical and normal.
Its WAY better if you take your time. Get to know each other for a few days, 100 hours maybe. Get each other all tingly first, then go slow. We live 800,000 hours, diseases are really BAD sometimes, many bad predators.Avoid them. A bad predator wouldn't spend a few days tryin and enjoying even if wasn't gonna get any. A good match would. Then when and if you get it, its worth it. Worth most anything.
2006-10-07 13:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's normal - then you're going at about the right pace. If you hadn't done anything sexual by the end of the third date they he'd probably be out of there - lickity split!!
Flashing him - excellent idea. Just enough to keep him interested without giving yourself to him before you're ready.
But when you are ready then go for it, not many blokes think 'too soon' when it comes to sex (just don't mention weddings or kids!!)
2006-10-07 13:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the guy.
Some guys find it a turn off when a lady is willing to be sexual early on in their courting. Maybe he is saying doe's she do this with all the guys she has dated?
2006-10-07 14:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by classychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you flashed him? that's weird. I can't imagine a reason for that to ever come up. guys usually like to get started in on that stuff early, but usually that means that's what the relationship will be about; the sex, not the love.
2006-10-07 13:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Liza128 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were him, I would only feel bad if i tried doing the same to you and you decided you weren't ready.
then perhaps i might feel that i've been messed about cos of the different messages...
but its not rushing if the pace is comfortable for both of you
jus talk 2him, it doesn't even have 2b a serious chat, just explain yourself that you're quite hands on but it doesn't mean anything or your hands on & it does mean sumthin' but... whatever!
i'm sure he doesn't mind that you're free with his gonads, certainly i wouldn't !
2006-10-07 13:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋