How do you get past this and forget them? The hurt, the lies, the betrayal, the isolation, the meaness, the lonliness? I am married now and have about 3 family members-not immediate ones that speak to me. It sucks and my life has gone downhill since my dad died and I got married. It was never great before that, but now it is like I am dead to them. I really never did anything to them to make them this way. My own mother has not spoken to me in over 2 years. I think that is for the best, but the memories are so depressing. I hate life and I feel I will never be happy again. Everything has changed and some of it was always this way.
2006-10-07 13:21:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband is dealing with this problem currently. His parents don't like me or approve of me, so we've had to distance ourselves from them. He has four brothers that he can't talk to anymore either. He's basically lost his whole family while defending me, and he's still dealing with the pain. He may try to not show it, but I can see that it's there, especially during holidays and birthdays. I don't think that there really is a way to get over something like that. When you feel abandoned and alone, it's hard to move past those feelings. Have you tried any type of therapy? That may help to improve your situation. Most likely though, it's like the death of a loved one - you never completely get over it. I think therapy may get you to a good point though. I would give it a try.
2006-10-07 16:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same here. I had 2 siblings. They always reminded me I was the half sister. When I was a youngster this is all I heard .As adulthood began, not invited to weddings, celebrations. Finally I just gave up trying to "please" them. Moved to a different state, became a successful medical provider. Now more of the same. A great nephew is getting married. I received an invite 3 weeks before the wedding. Just reminded me of the petty games that have been played for years. I sent a gift, and the reply I will not attend the wedding or reception. Old scars, heal, but remind you of the past. Just move on, be yourself, and pray the prayer, of knowing when you can change things and when you can not.
2014-09-14 10:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did... move on... start a new... my situation sounds just like yours... you are married now so you can start a whole brand new branch of the family tree... have children... later on in years your children will have children and your heart will heal as time goes by... what about your in-laws??? hopefully your inlaws are kind and can see you need a sense of family... and of course your husband.. you and him alone is the start of a brand new family... I also have friends that have become just like family to me and I have always said "the best family to have is the ones you picked yourself" your friends...
It's real common for many familys to have problems that they can't seem to resolve... try not to dwell on it to much... My parents are dead and my only brother is mentally ill... to the point we can't be in the same room for a minute... I have a few aunts, uncles and cousins that live on the other side of the usa that don't even know I exist... but I have my husband and my children, my 1st grandchild and lots of good friends... Hang in there!!!!
2006-10-07 20:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 7 sisters and 2 brothers and none of them talk to me neither does my dad an my mom passed away so the only person I have is my husband and that's if I'm lucky. but i cant tell you Why every family has there own reasons mine is jealousy. with others it the decisions they have made in life.
2006-10-07 20:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dakotah D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but they just do. I have almost no living family left, but of the ones remaining, I only have very occasional contact with them. I don't like hanging out with negative, backstabbing creeps, and that includes the ones I happen to be related to. Instead, I've surrounded myself with people who DO treat me like a human being, and that's what I consider my true family.
2006-10-07 20:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did with my family, and what my wife did with HER family; divorce them! After years of trying to get along with all of them, we finally realized they will never change. So we quit! We have not seen them for 15 years. We sleep at night. They are still mad at the world.
2006-10-07 20:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
feel good about yourself ,love yourself be a friend to yourself when you succeed ,transmit your love to all those you meet by action, not reaction .remember always act, never react practise to be the start of a good relationship by your actions
2006-10-07 20:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by bertgloudon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easiest to hurt the people you're closest to.
2006-10-07 20:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by twirlergurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should forgive but not forget and let them no they lose your respect
2006-10-07 20:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by aliens? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋