This guy that's flirted with me several times. I've known him for about a year. We're just acquaintances throught work. He's always been hot and cold with me. But sometimes he'd check me out. Especially when I've been really fixed up. But the other day he saw me at a restaurant there was a lot of sunlight. Where at work it's no windows some just lighting. I didn't have very much makeup on and I was really tired. He came over with his friend to say hi to the lady I was with and me he looked at me and smiled but then his face got an immediate serious look. As he looked down to my mouth. Then he just looked around the restaurant and when was ready to leave said bye but didn't look at me again. Does he think I'm ugly now. I mean I guess I never felt he thought I was that great to begin with. But why such a strange look? I'm kind of worried now what he thinks of me. It's been going through my mind for a day now. The look he gave me I mean.
2006-10-07 13:16:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean I'm not imagining it, it went from a big smile to a serious stare. Almost like a stunned look. And looked down my face to my lips. Because usually I wear lipstick. It just upset me because I used to have a huge crush on him and it just recently has subsided but I guess obviously that I care so much it's still kind of there.
2006-10-07 13:18:31 · update #1
It's hard to tell. but I think this guy might be superficial & want a trophy instead of a real women! seriously if he's this hot & cold when your not invovled, then what do you think will happen when he's actually your man! It'll get worst! believe me. if he cant be into you for you,( & act one way) then why care? dont sell yourself short honey, he's not the only guy you'll meet that'll get your attention. It's his lost if he keeps coming up with reasons to go cold on you.
About ten years ago,I was down over a girl,(I dont remeber why) but a friend at the time gave me some of the best advice that I'd ever heard........If a girl is'nt intrested enough in you,then dont trip....if you go outside & around the corner you'll find 17 other women that will appriciate you for you!
You know what? he was right!
So,dont beat yourself up over this clown & what he thinks. Just get ready for the one that will dig you......& spend everyday showing THAT guy what this other loser is missing out on!
P.S. no matter how you look,you've got to have self-worth first & formost! & since you mentioned looks I've got to add that If your super hot,(carmen electra/Janet Jackson) but your a super *****,then not too many guy's will want you...atleast not the right ones.But if your super average,but your a good person then you'll find yourself very popular with guy's.....the right ones! I know that how I feel. Yeah I'd bang a super hot girl & distance myself after a few weeks,but I'd want to spend the rest of my life with someone average who made me feel like I'd made the right choice!
I hope that helps.....goodluck!
2006-10-07 15:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Scorpio Rising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he was reacting to your appearance? Maybe there was something out the window that he saw that distracted him. That is an odd thing fora guy to do just because a co-worker looks a little different. There's something else. Maybe his "friend" is really his gay lover, who jabbed him in the side when he smiled at you, then the co-worker didn't know what to do so just got all serious...... and then didn't want his lover ot get jealous so that's why he didn't look at you again. Ok I know that's far fetched. But your story doesn't make sense either.
Anyways if what you think is correct, he's superficial and who cares what he thinks.
2006-10-07 20:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Liza128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be kind of shy, and didn't know what to say to you at that moment. The fact that you had no makeup on didn't affect him one way or the other. Natural beauty is what we guys like anyway. The next time you see him, smile at him, and make eye contact. I think he has a spark there for you. Don't give up just yet. Good Luck!!
2006-10-07 20:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. Sorry to hear that you had such a huge crush on him, that ALWAYS makes things so difficult. Hmmm . . . I don't think he thinks you're ugly he probably thought he caught you all off guard then felt silly for coming over (didn't have anything further to say, etc.). Liking someone is more than finding the attractive anyway . . .
2006-10-07 20:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never know what another person is really thinking. I personally wouldn't care a whole lot about what a person who was always playing hot and cold. Maybe he's really just a jerk who sometimes acts nice. He sure doesn't have very good manners! He was probably messing with your head-- is it working? Do you feel insecure and weird now? He'll probably go "hot" next time you see him.
2006-10-07 20:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it sounds to me like he realized you noticed his smile ....maybe he wants to keep the relationship just work related and he didn't want to lead you on.I my self would ask him about it. Tell him that there is no problem but you need to know how he feels and what hes thinking..let him know that you don't mind be work mates but wouldn't mind a date either!! Please before you do this check out the work policies and make sure there is nothing that says you can't have a relationship with a co-worker.
~Good Luck~
2006-10-07 20:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since we're unsure of how he "looked" at you, there is no way for us to be able to tell what he's thinking. I don't think he thought you were ugle, but just that you looked different under better light and without makeup. Don't stress over this, it's not a big deal. It just thought you looked different.
2006-10-07 20:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a step back and revaluate how you feel about yourself before you think about what he thinks of you with or without makeup. He's obviously a loser if he cares that you weren't wearing makeup and that you had natural light on you instead of the glow of flourescent light bulbs. What would happen if you started dating...woudl you wear lipstick to bed and never go outside with him?
He doesn't deserve to be on your mind!
Good luck!
2006-10-07 20:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy liked you when you wore makeup, but not after seeing you without makeup... then he did not like YOU to begin with, he liked your makeup. HE would not be worth the time you have spent worrying about it.
2006-10-07 20:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Why's the rum gone? ☺☮♥ ツ♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had alot of feelings for you and found it difficult to be around you. I kinda doubt he looked at you and thought, you look so terrible today that I can't even look at you or smile at you.
2006-10-07 20:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋