So I have been having feelings for this guy for the last 3 months, and they have been building, but I saw him yesterday at a concert with a girlfriend whom he was very affectionate with. I no longer feel safe allowing my feelings for him to build, nor do I understand why he didn't tell about his GF before. I think he is partially a private person, but also, it is obvious that he has gone out of the way to leave her out of the picture. Also, I think that he has been flirting with me quite a bit. So, should I try to open up to him and tell him what has been going on so I can fold on the game; should I back away from him altogether, or should I confront him on the trust issues in a friendship around why he didn't tell us that he had a girlfriend? Should I ask him directly if he has a girlfreind, so that I can find out if he would be honest about that or not? I am not sure whether he is trustworthy or not.
2006-10-07 12:20:58 · 11 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would approach him and say "I saw you the other day at the concert with a girl. Was that your g/f, because you never told me you had a g/f before?" Obviously he neglected to tell you about her for a reason. Maybe he does like you a little bit, but was too ashamed to admit that he had a g/f. If he admits it was his g/f, ask him why he didn't tell you about her before. If he says no she was just a friend, it's up to you to believe him or not. It seems like you already have trust issues with him so maybe a relationship would not work anyway. If you want some answers, ask him the same questions you asked us. After flirting with you, you deserve to know the truth. If he can't be honest with you, then maybe a friendship wouldn't be a good idea either. But it's up to you to decide.
2006-10-07 12:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Do not make assumptions. Cause a person gets physical (sex or kissing) does not constitute a relationship.
2) If he does have a girlfriend, will that change your friendship? If it does, then you were out there with a hidden agenda.
3) Why don't you come right out and ask him? Do not confront him because you really do not have a reason to be angry.
Lastly, a man makes who shares a laugh or talk with you does not means he is flirting. Use your head...feelings will get you into trouble. Take it from someone who learned the hard way
Peace!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-07 19:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by About Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay away from him and find yourself someone else.
He has a girlfriend! That means that either you are mis reading him, or he is a loser that would consider cheating on his girlfriend. Either way it is not a good situation to get yourself into. You need someone who is unattached so they can be yours.
Don't belittle yourself by even giving him the chance to explain if in fact he is flirting with you and considering starting up something with you. Sheesh, aren't you better than that?
If he is planning on leaving his girlfriend (which probably is not the case since they were all sunshine and rainbows when you saw them) then that is his choice but I would STILL stay away because what if he has decided to leave her because he thinks he will have something better with you?
Bottom line is a person should not be out flirting etc when they are attached. And now that you know he IS attached you have to back off and not go after someone who is with someone else.
I say you are better than that!
2006-10-07 19:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him point blank if he has a girlfriend. If he answers no don't bother with him. He is dishonest. If he says yes then tell him the reason why you ask is because you felt that he was flirting with you. He might tell you he doesn't have those feelings or he might say he does and have good reasons for flirting with you while he has a girlfriend. If he says he was flirting with you and likes you then you need to tell him that if he wants to date you that he needs to dumb the other girl. If he is unwilling to do that then he is a two timer and not worth your time.
2006-10-07 19:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by boston_babe888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you having feelings for a guy who has a girlfriend, which he did not mention. well babygirl, i think you should hold back your feelings, but keep talking to him. it's either this guy like you, but he dont know how to let go of his girlfriend, or he is playing you.
what i think you should do is to look for hints that indicates if he playing you. like, saying he's with a friend everytime he is with you, or walking away to talk on the phone.
have you ever meet any of his friends?
2006-10-07 19:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Gman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if YOU are ready for a relationship with this person. That means if it doesn't work, are you ready (strong enough) to walk away. If not, develop yourself a bit more, and try a relationship when you are ready.
2006-10-07 19:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by troyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say be totally up front and honest. dont try to play a game by not letting him know you saw him at the concert. just let him know that you saw him at the concert and that you like him.
2006-10-07 19:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont trust him again
2006-10-07 19:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by karenmariawayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him then run
2006-10-07 19:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run the other way.....fast
2006-10-07 19:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋