Do you raise your children the same way your parents raised you?

Question

Same religious beliefs, same parenting beliefs, etc?

I have found that I have raised by children with pretty much exactly the same beliefs as I was raised.

Do you do the same?

Answer 1

Yup!! The funny thing is that when you were growing up you were probably always saying you were gonna raise your kids differently, I know cuz I was saying the same thing but now that Im grown and have my own children I find myself turning into my mother. lol. But Im glad, because I dont think me or my siblings turned out too shabby thanks to my parents and their guidance. Good luck!!

Answer 2

With religious beliefs, yes, but I pretty much have my own way of raising my child. I felt like there were some things my parents could've did differently. So I guess the way that they raised me was a learning experience basically teaching me to do better. Don't make the same mistakes they did.

Answer 3

I went through a period of doubt and exploration in reguard to my belief. I do not raise my children to believe what I was raised to believe. I encourage them to find their own thoughts and ideas. I do raise them to have the same morals and attitudes toward others as my parents raised me. But I actually had fantastic parents who taught me right from wrong. So morals and actions toward others-yes the same. religious beliefs-no I explain the different beliefs and encourage them to explore their own spirituality.

Answer 4

Nope, we have a different religion, etc. We are Baptist and believe that you need to be saved or willingly accept Jesus into your heart and my parents were Methodist. Which, I think that they believed in christening as a baby and that this would protect from evil and assure that the individual goes to heaven. Do not get me wrong, I believe that a baby, small child or disabled person that is not able to understand the concept of Jesus does go to heaven but a person whom understands and chooses to turn their back on the Lord....than this is different. Also, sometimes you find yourself saying the same things to your children as your parents said to you. This is true. My parents taught me good morals and took care of me, so I cannot complain.

Answer 5

Some things, yes I do. But for the most part I have taken a different approach to raising my children. I spend a lot more time with my children and attend their events at school. My husband and I are very active in our children's lives. They are our most precious gift.

Answer 6

I think some things will be similar, but not everything. I don't have a child to raise just quite yet (I am due to have my first child in 6 weeks). But, I do plan to love my child as much as my mother showed she loved us... but, I will NOT let my husband ever abuse my children (like my mother did). My father is a pot head and has gotten drunk a few times when I was growing up. He would whip me and my siblings over stupid things (not cleaning up our rooms when we were like 4...). He would make us stand in line while we had to watch him beat our other siblings with a thick leather belt. I was the youngest of four so I would always be last (it went by age... and if one person got the belt, everyone got the belt). Needless to say, my brothers have grown up to be pot heads just like my father. But, they have no intrest in ever having children... so I guess that is good. My mother always let my father do these things to us while she sat quitely doing whatever it was she was doing. Plus, I would never let my husband call our daugther a whore like my father called me when I was 14 (for wanting to go to the mall with 2 guy friends). My mother did actually show us a lot of love when my father wasn't around... but I don't want to be like her in that aspect. I want to be a better mother and that's why I am thankful my husband is a great guy who doesn't do drugs like my father and doesn't get drunk and I have never seen him lose his temper. So... I think (and I really hope) that my child will have a better life than I did growing up.

Answer 7

Actually after seeing the problems with raising children, I decided not to have any. If I someday do, I certainly will not allow them to have religious beliefs until they are 18 and can choose for themselves. I think one of the worst things one can do is brainwash poor helpless children - especially with regards to religion.

Answer 8

Similar but with amendments... Like I give my son a lot more "breathing room"--more independence in decisions, etc. And a lot less spanking. Otherwise, I'm raising him to be more spiritual than my parents' raised us (they are agnostics), more liberal in political beiliefs (more pacifist, more socially aware, and less racist/ homophobic/ xenophobic). But he will be instilled with the same work ethic, the same desire to seek happiness in life, the same desire for simplicity in lifestyle, and same freethinking spirit my parents gave us.

My hubby's family is very materialistic and religious, so our son will definitely verge away from that. But otherwise, we share many of the same ideas about free thought.

Answer 9

I don't have children right now, but when I do I have a whole different way i want to raise mine then the way I was

Answer 10

well in my case i am raising my children really diferent the way my parents taught me and its mostly because they made a lot of mistakes thanks god i turn alright but my parent did make alot of mistake i intended to give my child the confident to come to me with a problem i sure belive in talking alistening not just talking theres so many things i wont do that my parents did bnut there a lot of things they did that i intend to teach them im sure a i will make my fair mistakes but i think nobodys is perfect i think im raising my chil a 20 % of what my parents taught me and 80 % diferent of the way my parents taught me with my one belief and my on experience of life