2006-10-07 12:11:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-10-07 20:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one, because if you forbid her to see him at that age she will probably see him secretly and then you will have lost all control. I would be very, very concerned and even frightened in your situation.
Could you make discreet enquiries with the police. It is possible he is innocent but so unlikely. As someone else in this thread has said, what would a man that age want with a 16 year old child? On the other hand these things do happen. Friends of mine met when he was 20 and she was 16, they were forbidden and ran away together to get married, they have just celebrated their 40th anniversary and are still madly in love with each other. So don't automatically assume he is an evil pervert.
I think the best way to proceed would be to be as friendly as possible to the young man and encourage him to spend time at your house, invite him for dinner every week and include him in family occasions like Christmas and birthdays, this will give you a chance to check him out and get to know him. If he is pursuing your girl for some fell purpose he will probably not be willing to socialise with her parents and this may turn her off him. At the very worst case, you will have retained your daughter's confidence and will be able to be there to help her if it all goes pear shaped.
2006-10-07 12:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by TC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. I would not let my 16 yr old date a 23 yr old. At 23 boys EXPECT sex. 16 is a tad young. I have a 15 yr old and she is only allowed to date boys 15 or 16, and is not allowed to go out with them alone.
2006-10-07 12:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphyrez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I would desire to agree alongside with your mom in this one. He would desire to be the superb guy in the international that somewhat would wait until eventually he's married to have intercourse. Which I doubt very lots. that's a certainty that adult males think of roughly intercourse each and every 5 minutes. no be counted if or not they choose to or not. the place does a sixteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old meet a 21-23 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old besides? i'm specific which you look lots older than you're and which you're extra mature then maximum sixteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds. Us older era has been there and executed that, so we attempt to have administration over the flaws we are in a position to steer clear of for youths. once you turn 21-23 you will see how diverse you will think of from once you have been sixteen. in basic terms like now think of back to once you have been thirteen diverse huh?
2016-12-16 04:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by bloodsaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Large age differences are not a good idea. For the most part, they will not have much in common, and the things they will- you won't want them to share! A 23 year old will have different levels of responsibility and allowances (will be able to purchase alcohol) than a 16 year old should be able to have.
2006-10-07 13:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. There's a big age gap in there...those 7 years separating them are some major maturity growth years. What on earth would a 23 year old man see in a 16 year old girl...besides the obvious???
2006-10-07 15:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I was 15 (close to 16) when I started dating my now husband who was at the time 23. My mom didn't approve then so I snuck behind her back. Now she loves him. But I do have to say if my daughter wanted to do it I don't know how understanding I would be. Some guys are just pervs and some are sincere. I say you at least meet the guy and get your own opinion of him before you make up your mind.
2006-10-07 12:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Holli B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the maturity level of your daughter, and what parameters you put in place. You are still her mother; I would try to include him in family-ish events (invite him over for dinner, or to BBQs, or whatever), and, quite frankly, I'd have a heart to heart with both your daughter and the young man (separately, but I'd tell your daughter you plan to do this, so she doesn't think you're snooping behind her back). I think I would probably be extremely strict on aspects such as curfews, places they go, etc. If this young man is worth his weight and he's truly interested in all aspects of your daughter, he'll respect your concern and be willing to work within reasonable boundaries. Then I wouldn't have any problem with my daughter dating him. If he's not willing to accept your decisions, then, no, I wouldn't let him date my daughter.
PS...my mom was 18 and my dad 32 when they met, and they've now been married 30 years.
2006-10-07 13:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could... then she could be like me when I was 16. Pregnant, then a mom, with a boyfriend no where in sight. If hes 23 and dating her, hes probably very immature and will not be around long.
2006-10-07 14:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 23 year old is an adult.
Your daughter is not.
That is not even legal in some states.
No you should not allow it.
Tell her if it was meant to be, she can hold off dating him til she's 18.
2006-10-10 17:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't allow it, but it is your choice. But think on this, if she got pregnant, how likely is it that a 23 year old man would be willing to stick around. I see him running as fast as he can away from the whole situation.
2006-10-07 12:32:12 · answer #11 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋