I know many woman are insecure about their bodies, but i find it unlikely your husband is going to have an affair with his computer. lol
2006-10-07 11:54:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he wil not have sex with his computer(well...at least I don't think so) and is not about that, is about thinking your body is not good enough to make your husband not look at others, well...that is just my opinion.
2006-10-07 12:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because they feel thier partners will start wanting a "porn star" as a lover. I think they may also have the insecurity that their husband/partner will get new ideas that they arent willing to try. Women want to be the only ones who get their man off.
Personally I dont mind my bf watching porn. We talk about it and he knows that as long as we still find each other pleasurable then no problems. Its the moment you get compared to someone else that causes problems.
2006-10-07 19:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd like to know what "Superbooks" is doing with all of this knowledge of illegal porn.
Its not something I do very often, I'm quite happy with my partner also she does live 200 miles away! If I do use porn its as an aid to fantasise about my partner, if we were together.
I have never come across any of the kind of porn Superbooks refers to, and I doubt anyone else would unless you ACTIVELY searched for it.
As far as Porn abusing women heard that the industry is largely run by women today, and in fact exploits men's openess to it.
There are health checks, and all sorts of vetting (as well as petting) going on in the industry today.
When and IF you marry, you make various vows about being faithful to each other, and that could form a tenous base for the arguement of porn from a "true to your partner" point of view, but I suspect that the vast majority of "partners" complaining about this have not taken any kind of vow or promise, having not been married.
Personally I have a low opinion of people who cheat on their partners, married or not, but that may be a little harsh on those who have made no such promise, and to extend the "unmade promise" even further to dictating what pictures/films/websites you see is downright dictatorial.
Feminists have screamed about men dominating women... don't do this without permission, don't talk to other men etc.. which the vast majority of men never did, and still don't, but women seem to think they have the same right to tell men what they can or can't see. Or do with their own bodies!
I agree with equal rights... a woman most certainly has the right to say "no" to her man, but a man must have the right to say "yes" to himself!
There are various reasons men use porn... education (how many of you girls scream that we're crap in bed?), get some ideas on how to better please their women, or simple self relief because their wife doesn't feel about him the same as he feels about her.
Normal Porn has never encouraged rape or any kind of sex crime, and has statistically speaker cut that sort of crime right down. Sick men who would otherwise rape or molest take it out over a video instead of some poor innocent woman.
I suspect most women who complain about porn simply see it as a threat to their control over their man, by losing withholding of sex as a weapon.
2006-10-08 05:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by jezterfezter 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It gives a woman the feeling that she was his second choice; that he would rather have a porn-star looking woman, but knew he couldn't get one and so settled for her instead. Then he goes to the computer and longs for his lost "loves" LOL.
BUT I think in an ideal relationship I would talk to the man about it and why he does it, get it out in the open, and try to share it more instead of it being just him and his computer. And I hope he would be coming to me when he is aroused and not just the hand - THAT would be a problem!!!
2006-10-07 19:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by penny4yourthoughts 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's all about how comfortable the person is with themselves; if you have issues with yourself, then seeing your partner looking at more "perfect" bodies can be an affront to your self-image.
Getting off to porn is nothing compared to making love with the one you love. Maybe those people are also in mediocre relationships that they're scared of breaking away from.
2006-10-07 19:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by bob b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually porn is not disgusting as a whole. Of course some some sorts of porn are disgusting to some people but you cant right the whole lot off because don't like some of it. It is and can be a very valuable outlet for some people.
2006-10-07 18:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that there are many reasons that people choose to get upset about their partners looking at porn, though I myself don't know why so many people would want to watch what they ccould be doing themselves. I think that jealousy of the time spent is one of the most prominent reasons. People would rather their partners spent that time with them.
2006-10-07 19:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They Probably Feel That There Husband Is Not Attracted To Them.But I Agree With You.
2006-10-07 18:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could care less if my husband looks at porn. I'm not the least bit insecure I don't think he will cheat. What pisses me off is when he is on it when the kids are home or staying on for hours and hours on end. Look at that at night to your hearts content after the kids go to bed. (I work 24hrs shifts he does this when I'm not home.)
2006-10-07 19:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u can actually answer this by yourself...i mean just imagine when your gf would look at other men porns...wouldnt u feel like sh....
of course u are not doing anything bout looking, but in a way it feels like cheating..i mean now u can even talk to some women at this kind of sides..
2006-10-07 19:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by starlight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋