I have a guy friend who I've been "dating" with no committment for a whole year now.He means everything to me and I'm SO in love with him.I use to get the same vibe from him, but it has recently slowed down.We argue more and disappear from eachother's lives for weeks at a time.The last argument we had was two weeks ago, and he told me to leave him alone.I left him alone and didn't contact him at all for a week.The day of the week, he sent a text message asking how I was doing, so I wrote back and said fine, and asked how he was.I never got a response.The following week, after I left church,he called and acted like nothing had happened.As soon as we got off the phone,he sent a text saying,I'm not mad at you.We didn't talk anymore until that Tuesday,he came by and got me and we went for a ride.He brought me back and sent me a text saying thanks for the talk.He disappeared again until yesterday.What could possibly be the problem.How do I stop this action.We can't be "sometime" friends.
2006-10-07 10:48:54 · 14 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your both obviously very immature. He is probably coming around when he wants sex and you are probably giving it to him. He doesn't want you for a girlfriend, he wants someone who will be there for him when he wants sex.
You are not going to make him a boyfriend. He is probably involved with other girls when he is not talking to you. Find someone else who respects you and leave him alone.
2006-10-07 10:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by lakecity21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you love him but he obviously has someone else or isn't interested any more. Sometimes it isnt anything you did or didn't do and there is nothing you can do to change it. He doesnt want to say anything to you because you have been seeing each other for so long and he is hoping it will all go away without confronting the problem because he doesnt want to hurt you and he thinks it's easier this way. If he really loved you he would want to be with you every waking moment. Not spend long time periods away with no contact. Let him go and be happy that it wasn't more serious like marriage with kids. find someone who appreciates you and wants to be with you all the time and will do anything for you. I promise there are other men out there and there are ones that will rock your world and treat you the way they should and be there for you. Please let him go for yourself and move on. If he calls or texts you just ignore them after a while it won't hurt so much and then not at all and you'll be glad you moved on. Don't waste any more time on him.
2006-10-07 11:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok i used to have a guy like that as well. But you need to tell him you love him and go from there tell him that you want a relationship and if he can't understand that then you really should think about moving on with your life, Because look at it this way, there are so many guys out there looking to be with someone and are willing to be, now I was looking for someone who would care for me and love me, Finally I found that person now you need to tell him how you feel and see what his reaction is and just hope for the best. If not start moving. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-07 10:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by mieke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident, you're a fool. i became youthful and silly too as quickly as. Play difficult to get. bypass out with different adult men so he will fee you extra. If he would not at last manage you genuine, then in simple terms end it with him. yet another guy who will manage you properly will at last come around. If i ought to do issues as quickly as extra, i could have been extra strict approximately having self-appreciate and not putting up with demeaning habit from somebody i presumed i became loopy approximately. you are able to fall in love with somebody who will manage in a fashion which you should be taken care of.
2016-11-26 23:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by brigance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on Since your going to church,you should be able to meet someone nice. Maybe?? And with the very little communication,he could be seeing someone else
2006-10-07 10:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by bigbro.rm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just using you. You need to explain to him how he is making you feel...maybe he doesn't think it bothers you since you guys have no committment. Men do not think the way we do. I have found when we act like we dont care thats when they start coming around... you can either break it off completely or just enjoy him when he is around. Its your choice. You can email me if you need a friend.
2006-10-07 10:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by mizjsnider34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on from this relationship, and tell him, I do not know what he is doing, but , tying up your life, girl, get it together, and think of yourself for a change. Tell him to keep doing what he is doing, and you are going to move on with your life, because life is short,and you do not have the time and energy to sit around waiting for him, any more.!
2006-10-07 11:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop this action by finding someone that wants to spend his time with you. If he was crazy about you that's all he'd want to do. Sounds like he just likes having things his way. Don't be his part time girl.
2006-10-07 10:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would make sure that it is not sex that keeps him coming back.
Make sure there is no sexual activity between the two of you and you will have your answer.
I have re-read your question and it occurs to me that you probably would not take this kind of behaviour from a "friend" who was a girl - why take it from him?
2006-10-07 12:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say if but it sounds like there's someone else involved and hes so busy with that person that he hardly has time for you i think that you should be real with him and ask him what's going on and tell him how you feel about you alls relationship.
2006-10-07 11:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Meme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋