Is it wrong to tell someone you aren't interested in them?

Question

I asked a question earlier and it appears some women would prefer me to lie about it. Help me understand this?

Answer 1

Personally I would MUCH rather you were honest, If you don't have an interest in me, PLEASE don't waste my time, It may hurt my feelings at first but Honesty really is BEST! That is a GOOD question though, I think maybe a lot of people would rather you lie? And that is sad....

Answer 2

I would want to be told the truth. I'd rather know the truth and be hurt than be lied to and be a fool. Honestly, it depends on the person- no one wants to be led on, but some people would rather "not know what can hurt them." Personally, I would MUCH rather someone say, "Hey, listen, I'm sorry, but I'm not interested." Also, I would completely get the point if a phone call or two from me was ignored.

There's situations where someone is perfect for you, but there's just no chemistry. Other times, it's the people who aren't even close to "your type" that you fall madly in love with. Once I told someone, "You're perfect for me. You're everything I look for in a relationship, but there's just no chemistry between us. I wish there was because you're exactly what I want, but it's just not there."

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

No, I think it is the right thing to do to be honest. It is just the way you tell them. Do not be cruel or mean. Simply say, "you know so and so...I appreciate you telling me how you feel, however, I like you as a friend, not in the same way you like me, I would love to be your friend, but nothing else, and I hope you can understand that". If they don't, then at least you were nice about it.

Answer 4

Well don't put it like that. Tell them the truth. I know it will hurt but in the end you both feel better that you didn't have to lie about anything. Tell them you don't see a friendship or relationship developing and tell them it was nice meeting them. Or you can do my personal favorite, avoid talking or any communication with them.

Answer 5

No. It isn't wrong to tell someone that you aren't interested. However, you need to be subtle about it in order to avoid hurting someone's feelings. You need to put yourself in this person's shoes and think how you would react if someone told you that they didn't like you. Perhaps telling this person that you guys make really great friends or she is like a sister to you could dissuade her from anymore romantic ideas. Just don't be cruel about it. That can severely affect someone's self-esteem.

Answer 6

Have you ever heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".
That saying came about for a reason you know. I.e. most women, well alot at least, take rejection harder than men do.

Be honest. Just remember everyone has feelings though.

Answer 7

No, it is not wrong at all. If you can be honest with yourself that you aren't interested in this person--then be honest with them. You may end up really good friends--or not--but lying is NOT the answer. Smile!

Answer 8

Not really, it's better to nip it in the bud then to allow it to grow in a cactus. don't ever lie about your feelings for someone,might hurt them more later.Dare tell them the truth, if they are sensible enough; they won't mind!

Answer 9

im gonna make this simple most women like a guy who doesn't lie to them be honest with her! because if you lied to her and she found out she'd probably get really pissed at you!so just be honest! hope i could help

Answer 10

No, it is best to tell the truth from the beginning. There is NO sense in stringing someone on that you like, or love them, when in fact you don't.