im almost 45 and dont want to be single cos I want kids before it too late, but i m not sure i love my girl and want to be with her forever?
2006-10-07 10:31:18 · 29 answers · asked by Bengt L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont marry her....you are very selfish thinking that you can just use this woman to give you children..you should be ashamed of yourself..no wonder you cant get a wife..your attitude stinks!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-07 10:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure that you love her, then you really shouldn't marry her. I know that you want children before it is "too late", but exactly what is late? You need to make sure that the person that you marry is the one that you are going to stay with. If you marry her and have children, then later realize that the marriage isn't working, then you are not only hurting the two of you, but your child as well. There is no reason why you and your girlfriend can't live together for a while. See how it is to live with her and then decide. If a baby happens to come along, then so be it. But, give it some thought before you jump into something that is supposed to be forever.
2006-10-07 17:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you read your own question? are you out of your mind, Just think next year you could be a 46 year old man getting a divorce and possibly paying child support for a child he may never see again, and all because you are not sure if you love her and want to be with her forever/ RIGHT 45 going on 12. You need to get a real life
2006-10-07 17:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, you are a guy so for you there is no such thing as LOVE... what , did you expect hearts and flowers or something?
What's more to the point is, you are unlikely to make a good husband, If your only reason for marrying is to have kids.
Anyway, whats wrong with just living together?
NO WAY should you marry this girl. And imagine asking this bunch of nutcases whether you should marry or not. Shame on you.
2006-10-07 17:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then do not marry her. Forever is a long time to be with someone you are not sure you want to be with. Once the kids are here, you cannot send them back and child support seems like forever when you have to pay for them. So be sure of what you want before you commit to it.
2006-10-07 17:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certainly not! Love is the reason the world goes round. Don't worry about time running out I've recently married at 36 and my husband is 20 years older and we're having the time of our lives. Waiting for the right person is definitely worth it
2006-10-07 17:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by thecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't do it - do you want to be divorced by 48 - with a couple of kids you don't see?? Best to wait till you are 100 per cent sure...its never too late....and better in the long run
2006-10-09 13:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't take a genius to work this one out does it.
But while we're here can we give Julie a round of applause... "have kids" with someone you're not sure you love. Can anybody else visualise the Happy, Disney ending there... or is it just me??
2006-10-07 17:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Georgie's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure, then the answer is easy, NO. Why would you do that to her or yourself? Marriage is a commitment, not something you do when you are afraid you are running out of options. The initial intent of marriage should be love and total commitment.
2006-10-07 17:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - both of you and the kids, too, deserve to be in a relationship where you know without a doubt that you love each other. Any other reason is selfish.
2006-10-07 17:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Deedee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋