O.K. your someplace where you have no reason to come over to the female. You have to kind of find an excuse to go near her. It's an awkward situation but you really want to go to her ask her for her name and number without looking so desperate and everybody in public thinking "Oh, he looks so desperate! It's obvious he didn't need a reason to go near her besides ask her for her name and number." I used to not care about these things. I used to be straight up aggressive in my teenage and early 20's, now I'm more strategical instead of gung ho in my communication with the ladies. Help me out? Would you just go over there and do it like I used to do it, or develop a strategy?
2006-10-07 10:16:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dnt worry too much
go ahead
2006-10-07 10:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by rav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to lighten up a little and just enjoy a conversation. The more 'gravity' you give just making small talk with someone, the more you'll think about it. Why don't you just ask her if she wants a cup of coffee or something. Telling a girl she's attractive shouldn't make you desparate.
There's a certain 'confidence' that comes with being direct (without being 'nasty' about it - of course)....or saying something like "I'd really like to get to know you better - you seem like a nice person - do you think I would be able to give you a ring sometime?".....That leads to the phone number.... Come one - you sound like a nice guy - just lighten up - you're not a teenager anymore.
The other thing you can do is find out what she likes doing - then you could 'accidently' bump into her again and it would be easy to start a conversation "Oh, I didn't know you liked......".....
2006-10-07 17:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everybody likes to be thought of as interesting and attractive, so there's no harm in introducing yourself... BUT...
...don't overthink it. The more you try to develop "strategy" and worry over it, the more tense you get, so you might indeed come off as desperate, or just weird. Relax, dude.
Here's the thing - as mama used to say, "not everybody cottons to everybody else, and that's just how it is." In other words, she may like you, she may not - but then again, once you talk to her, you might like her, or not. No way to find out until you try.
Maybe your objective shouldn't be to get her number so much as to find out whether you'll still want her number once you meet her. It's an introduction, not Step 1 in Your Plan To Get The Girl.
After all, you want The Right Girl, not just A Girl, yes? So your "objective" here is just to introduce yourself and get a sense of who she is (please, tell me "who she is" matters at least as much as "what she looks like"). Nothing to stress over - it's just "hi," after all.
So that's how you do it - you walk on over and say "hi." Realize that unless she's a jerk, she's just as worried about making a good impression as you are, so cut her some slack. Try to make her feel comfortable - ask her how she is, is she enjoying the music (or whatever seems appropriate to where you are).
Concentrate on making her feel comfortable and finding out who she really is, and you have stuff to talk about, tah-dah! If she brushes you off, well, then, she's not a person you'll enjoy hanging around, so who needs her? Know that at some point, you will locate the woman who "gets" you and likes you as you are - and in the meantime, well, the fish don't take the bait every single cast, so you keep looking for the one fish who likes your bait. When you find her, she'll let you know she's interested, and you'll feel interesting, and asking for her number will just come naturally. Meantime, relax and enjoy, dude!
2006-10-07 17:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a place of business? Keep making casual conversation for a week or so...then get the phone number of the business. Not from her but another source. then call one day and ask to go to lunch or whatever. If she says no...dont go around there no more and find a new target.
2006-10-07 18:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by bigpumpdaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is all in the approach...actually what works for me is getting the woman to talk about herself with something she takes great interest in, this breaks the ice
2006-10-07 17:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Fred K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up and say hi and say you thhought she was beutiful and was wondering if she would like to go sometime
2006-10-07 17:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be flattered if a guy did that to me. Don't play games just do it :)
2006-10-07 17:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a gal an if someone just came up to me i would find it suspicious.
first go over and say hi im --------, do you know where ___street is?
thanks, i get muddled sometimes...
how can i thank you?
whats your name?
would you like --------------?
i live just ---------------.
etc etc...
2006-10-07 17:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋