hit me and than ask for a apology can anyone else figure this out?

Question

ive got parent issues like everyone else. my mom moves around from guy to guy she would go from a lawyer to a mechanic to a security guard than back to a lawyer all in one week. i normally wouldnt care because we have no relationship we dont talk at all. but the one guy she happens to love is a total asshole. im 15 and we just moved in a month ago. he gets into fullout fistfights with his 16year old son and i can hear the hole thing. i avoided him but today i had friends over and they were drinking when he sobered up enough to realize that we drank his beer it caught his attention. he hit me over and over and i wasnt good at defending myself and when he came after me i froze up. now iv got bruises and the hole half of my face is bright red. and get this after all this he asks for an apology! my mom said it was a once only thing and my stepbrother said "once only thing my ***" i no this cant be normal how do i get out of this without messing up school and turning out like my stepbrother

Answer 1

Abuse is always a touchy situation. But there is no excuse for violence. I would make sure you seek help from an authoritive figure that is in a position to help. Not only pass judgment but who can actually get the ball rolling on correcting the situation for you. This is one of those things that no matter how physically or mentally strong you are; please seek help from others that can physically help.

Remember it was a man that hit you because you drunk his beer. I am not saying what you were doing was fine because in my opinion you had no business drinking but still does condone what was done. Let me tell you about the person who hit you. The person who raised his hand and struck you is not a man. Although his body has physically grown into what we call a man body he who occupies the vessel is not a mature man, but immature man.

This type of man also suffers from lack of self esteem and the absence of God in his life. I am not making excuses for him. However, I will pray for all of you and especially your family because you need to get out of a dangerous situation. You will have to ask you mom to move and she does not move then I am sorry. Mom is suffering from a lack of self esteem as well because she should not feel that she cannot do better. Also something else to consider, the welfare of her children should come first and if it doesn’t then we have another problem that you are not in a position solve or help with. In essence get some professional help and get out. It does not mean that you have stay away but mom may need help and her boyfriend of new lover definitely needs counseling.

This time it’s a bruise next time it can be life. Please make sure you do this with out anger and forgive them both with all your heart so that God will step in and heal your heart.

Storm..

Answer 2

this man is not even your real dad an there are laws that he has broken in many ways i would sue this man if i was you an put charges on him big time if even hits his own kids they have mad laws about that too i know when i was younger i did a lie an got beat bad so i guess that's why i don't lie now but they did not have the laws like that that they do now whats you real dad like can you live with him or see if you can stay with someone tell you can get the school done . i know going to a new school is hard i left home at 15 an did school from home an worked . an stayed with my dad off an on tell someone try ed to turn me in for a run away 2 years after the facts

Answer 3

Wow, this is serious. Is there a relative that you have that u could maybe move in? Because once he hits u just one time, he's going to continue to hit you. If I were u I'd try and get out of there fast. He'll be hitting on your mom next and Im sure she wont do a damn thing but stay with his ***. Call your grandmother or an aunt or something and just ask if u can stay with them until your mom dumps the guy.

Answer 4

You have got to buck up and act, NOW! Find some adults that you can discuss this over with. You may be too upset to realize the options that you have. I think you should take it easy on the drinking too. You need to have your wits about you at all times with this guy around okay? Go to a good church in your area and talk with someone. It's better if you speak with someone you don't know because they can be more objective. Also you can talk with a counselor at school. Forget your mom for the moment. She is obviously not thinking clear if she let someone hit you and live. Never make excuses for this kind of behavior. Talk with some close friends too. Bring all the good advise you get together and make a decision. Whatever you do, I beg you as someone who was in 7 different foster homes, DO NOT allow yourself to be left alone in the house with him. Make sure that you have a good lock on your door. If you have to barracade yourself in your room at night, do it. Don't feel like you are being silly in pushing you dresser in front of your bedroom door. You might need to think about moving in with other family. Take care of yourself, you are in my prayers.

Answer 5

Your so-called stepfather has physically assaulted you. It is not safe for you to live in this environment. If you are not too afraid, call the police and report this. If you are afraid to do this, can you call a trusted adult (aunt, family friend, the mother or father of one of your friends) and ask them to help you? Otherwise, stay safe until Monday, and when you go to school, tell a teacher or a counselor. School personnel are "mandated reporters," which means that they are legally required to report to Child Protective Services when a student alleges that they were abused. Then you don't have to make the call yourself, and you will have adults supporting and protecting you. Don't worry about "messing up school;" it will be much more messed up for you to stay in the unhealthy and dangerous environment you are in.

Answer 6

call the law enforcement officers. in the experience that your mom is so blinded by making use of her "love" for him that she does not even care that he hit you, she might want some help too. opportunities are high that replaced into not a one time element. he will in all possibility be liable to to it back. call the law enforcement officers or newborn shielding centers on him. in case you particularly dont prefer to do this, perhaps circulate wherein comprise your dad if he's around or perhaps your grandparents, just to get removed from this guy. guard your self, and placed your self first. do not complication approximately hurting human beings's emotions. Get outa there.

Answer 7

hi I am Dan a 45 year old single male, and no I am not looking for young girls as you are but wanted to give you my perspective. your mother is going back and forth between sexual satisfaction and financial satisfaction . its hard to find it all in one man for some woman . and the hitting you and asking for an apology is his aragence that his better than a woman. and you took his beer.you need to understand that your a woman .they are not to be ever, ever hit but only loved. sure we sex's have our differnces but hitting, abuseing, verbly included should never happen.. your better off in a safe freind's house where your mother and boyfreind cant find you then learn it's ok for a man to beat you up.....dan

Answer 8

Call Child Protective Services. You are being abused. Also, there is no supervision. You should not be drinking. I see serious problems ahead if you don't get help.

Answer 9

you report him to the police immediately so that you and your family be protected. Never let it go . Reporting it to the right authority is good for you and him. Good for you not to be hit or abuse again. Good for him to stop so that he wont end up in jail.

Answer 10

This is abuse. I suggest you turn him into the police OR ask and beg your mom for you guys to NOT live with your step-dad.