lm an average guy in terms of looks and charisma but I have always been attracted to girls who are one or two notches up and are attracted to men with a little more than what I have. I would love to compromise but cant. Trouble is I have been looking for 20 years and Im almost 40! Do I persist or lern to compromise? I just have not liked any of my girlfriends enough to commit and i always believed travelling hopefully was better than arriving disappointed but I now wonder as Im feeling in a dead end!
2006-10-07 09:45:18 · 14 answers · asked by Bengt L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have your fantasies, it's the only thing that you got left.
2006-10-07 09:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are now 40. You have been looking for a girl that has more to offer you for 20 years. Hmmmm..... Look around you friend. Wake up from your dreams and smell the jungle out there. Everyone has a dream of finding a perfect girl and look where most of them ended up?? Living still with their parents at a age of 50. Women are a wonder to all man. Do rethink about what you are doing. Or be ready to spent the rest of your life with your parents... Good Luck!!!
2006-10-07 10:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - unless you want to be by yourself for the rest of your life - I'd start to look for someone that your more likely to be with rather than being in a dreamworld and just being ATTRACTED to them. If you want to actually be with someone and have a family then I suggest that you find someone in your own league. For one thing - I'm sorry to say but women don't want to have to support someone - they'd rather have someone that can actually support them and that would be to hopefully make more money than they do - as far as I'm concerned - men are paid more than women are - NORMALLY. So, being as your almost 40 - your not getting any younger - and if you'd like to lead a normal life and have a family then suggest you quit trying to find someone that's way above what you can offer and get real. I'm attracted to Millionaire's that doesn't mean that I'm going to try to catch a Millionaire to be my man - that's the last thing on my mind - it just wouldn't happen unless by some weird chance - you can't go after a particular type of person just because your attracted to someone that can give YOU so much more than YOU CAN OFFER THEM - LIFE DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT - NOT IN THIS DAY AND AGE. Good luck
2006-10-07 10:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by You'llneverguess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very sad that you feel you have to find someone "above you". As long as you have this kind of materialistic background or outlook you will struggle to get a delectable woman to be with you. Compromise is necessary - you can also love someone for their faults - if they are faultless they are either lying to you, or you can not see their faults. Take a girl as she comes - and don't think even about trying to change her into what you want her to be. In short chill and learn to compromise...
2006-10-07 10:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that you can't be with a girl that has just as much to offer in a r/ship as you?!?! you must be crazy:S In that case.. just think how a girl would feel who is how you like to say "a couple notches up the bar" further than you.....
Maybe they are thinking the same of you as you are thinking of the sweet girls that you are turning down b/c i guess they are not "good enough"! Get a realistic grip man... At your age you have to be content with what you have ...as in terms of love right now you have nothing.. Find a passionate girl who likes you for who you are,... does it matter what she has in terms of material things?? It seems like you are a "sponge" who tries to live off their g/f's!! Get off your butt and try to offer more yourself.. then maybe you could get one of the girls you "fantasize" about....
2006-10-07 09:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucy, you should attempt and be mature approximately this and appreciate the different female is in a courting with this guy. How could you like it if another female got here and stole him remote from you? it is excellent to attempt replace into acquaintances with this guy and if their courting would not artwork out then you definately've of undertaking in any different case it became not meant to be. do not hear on your emotions on your abdomen... they are frequently deceptive and reason heartbreak. Love is something that demands staying power and as you grow previous you recognize it extra.
2016-11-26 23:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see that's wat u get 20yrs has past u by because u were being picky and being ok with a woman that has more than you now it leaves u to wonder am i going to find her that true woman for me when all reality u might have let her go in the past . all u have to do is when your in a relationship again remind yr self that your not getting any younger and u want that love and companionship sometimes you have to cut all the unnecessary bulls*** out to be happy and content also have you considered that some woman u have dated really dont want a man of less quality do u really call your self a man actin like that
2006-10-07 10:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by mareesha123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will learn that when you can learn to love those that have less than you. You will know when that happens, because you will be able to love them for not what the have, but for who they are.
2006-10-07 09:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by hopkins48 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just can't learn to love...it comes naturally. If you don't love her from the start, then you will never truley love her, therefore you will never stay with her.
2006-10-07 09:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Japan_is_home 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not about what you need or what someone can or cannot offer you. Love is sharing
2006-10-07 09:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋