A friend of mine just lost her baby, the funeral was today. What would be something nice to get her to keep the memory of her son??
2006-10-07 09:36:43 · 14 answers · asked by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My uncle lost his son, so I went to a local sign shop & had them create a decal that's placed on the window of his back glass of his vehicle. The decal depicted a deer (as his son was an avid hunter) On the top read "In Loving Memory" in the center was the deer, and at the bottom of the decal read the deceased's name along with the dates of birth & death. I also made on for his brother with a squirrel, & on my vehicle I used a cross. But I did ask my uncle how he felt about it first before I had the decal created, because people handle grief in different ways. My uncle loves it & he was touched as he felt it was a loving gesture to preserve his son's memory. Another idea if you have photo's of the baby, you can make duplicates & make a special memory scrapbook & jot down the feeling & experiences you've had with the baby. But most of all, let her talk about her baby, don't change the subject or be afraid to speak of the baby with her. My uncle told me that I was the ONLY one who was willing to talk to him about his son, as others felt uncomfortable talking with him about it. I guess they (friends & family) didn't want to compound his grief. But my uncle told me that's what he wants to do is talk about him, share experiences that I've had with his son, what he was like, & what would he be like today if he were still here. My uncle told me that's what he really wants to do is talk about him & that may be the best way to keep the memory of her son alive, because not talking about him is like denying he never existed. It may be a little uncomfortable to broach the subject or talk about him for you, but that discomfort can't compare to the loss of baby & the grief that she's going through. I commend you for being a good friend. God Bless you & her family.
2006-10-07 09:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if this was a stillborn birth or if the baby was a few months old. A wonderful idea that I have heard recently is to take a clothing item from the deceased and have it made into a bear. An easier way to do this if you can't sew or if the clothing is so tiny is to take a bear and maybe handstitch a heart shaped piece of the clothing onto the bear. I am so sorry for your loss and pray that everyone involved will be comforted.
2006-10-07 09:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this would be a good idea, but maybe you could find out if your friend read to her baby and then make a donation to the local library of that book in his memory. If not that, then something else that would allow her to know that her child touched the lives of people outside of the family.
2006-10-07 09:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Beth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am really sorry to hear that. Maybe take a photo to a place where they can put the picture into a crystal cube or have a picture ingraved on something like a gold or silver locket.
2006-10-07 09:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by *Emily* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your friend. You could get her something like a picture frame or a necklace (like a locket) so she can keep pictures of the time she and her son spent together.
2006-10-07 10:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we lost our two month old son,we bought a baby keepsake box
and put everything in it that our baby had--sonogram pictures,hat, blanket, footprints etc.--- i also had a nice journal that i wrote letters to my baby in, it may sound weird, but i wrote down all the things i wanted to say to him ,and didn't get the chance to. it was another good way to express my feelings without having to "talk about it"
2006-10-07 09:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one... be thoughtful... probably something with pictures.. make sure she can handle it when you give it to her. My friend lost her son when he was 5 weeks old. It was hard for her for a while.
2006-10-07 09:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice wooden memory box where she can put whatever item she has/wants to remember her son...Might be nice to carve the child's name on it.
2006-10-07 09:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by mahree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that's sad!! may be some candles and picture frames. that way she can make a little marmoreal! maybe you can find candles that a scented like baby powder!! get her a keepsake box to put some of the baby's things in!
2006-10-07 09:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a collage or take some of his/her old clothing and make a little blanket with a picture in the middle of it.
2006-10-07 09:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋