My fiance is in the army and we have been engaged for quite a long time. Well we were supposed to get married next month when he was home for thanksgiving but now hes saying its not enough time and he is also telling me he doesn't wanna leave me here as his new wife when he goes to iraq. He leaves for iraq in december. I understand a bit, but what is driving me nuts is that he told me he wanted to get married before he left for iraq and before the end of the year was up. And i find it weird that he doesn't wanna "leave" me here. hes leaving me here already. Also we were going to get married in september but then we couldn't and then this month but hes in 6 more weeks of training so we can't. He told me this thursday night and i had to ask him about it. If he felt that way why wouldn't he told me earlier and wondering when we were going to get married.I'm mad about it. And i dunno where else to ask.
2006-10-07 08:49:14 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He may be scared to get married or even scared to go to Iraq. That is a lot for a person to do in a short amount of time. My brother got married last July, then left for Iraq in September. It was his second tour. He made it home last week. He and his wife seem to have a great relationship through it all. I would definitely talk to your fiance to find out what's bugging him.
2006-10-07 09:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by ABob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to shut-up and leave this guy alone. He is about to go overseas and defend our nation against an enemy that has vowed to destroy all of us -- including YOU. Have you ever stopped to think how this makes him feel? Maybe he is horrified at the thought of making you a widow -- people grow up a lot in the service and it is possible he is just rationalizing the situation.
So you, princess, need to thank him from all of us for his service to our country and then live with his decision, whatever it may be.
2006-10-07 14:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure he really wants to get married. War can change peoples attitudes. He might be afraid of dying and leaving you a widow. You get benefits if you are married.
2006-10-07 08:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his buddies have got him ready to back out. I'm sorry, but this smells of barrack's talk.
2006-10-07 14:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋