I've dated, but never in a serious relationship, with two very intelligent and accomplished men. I'm currently in a relationship with the second, but the relationship is more based on sex more than anything else. The first man I dated slept with me after the second date, and (literally) disappeared soon after! I'm trying my best to give my current relationship more meaning but due to the nature of our work (we're grad students) it's quite difficult.
My question is, are work-driven men more interested in the phyical aspect of the "relationship"? or am I just bad at finding potential boyfriends? I'm working in a prestigious university, and it's apparent to me now that men are no different, however accomplished they are.
2006-10-07 08:35:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For one, accomplished mature men have a hard time getting sex because women are only after men with huge bank accounts...so whenever a mature educated guy gets sex, he feels that the hunt is over....if you want a relationship, do what the other girls do throw yourself at a guy with a huge bank account.....he'll keep you around as his trophy girlfriend and you can spend all his money...........then he'll leave you for a white girl.........get down girl, go 'head and get down........
2006-10-07 08:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that men who are highly intelligent and accomplished can be socially "retarded" because a huge part of their energy has been spent using their high intelligence to become accomplished. Some just don't know the rules for appropriate social engagement... some don't care... some have no use for them but if you can get your current beau to come around to appreciating the upside of an emotional connection, you can have a relationship that satisfies all your cravings (and *blush* makes the physical connection that much more stupendous)... takes patience and stepping outside of yourself... kinda almost making engaging him on a level outside of sex a project... it's a challenge but after 8 years of a relationship like that I can tell you it's worth every ounce of energy. The men I'd found previously could be affectionate and attentive but when it came to intellectual stimulation, I was left hungry. Now, I am sated... I hunger for nothing
2006-10-07 08:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by dornalune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two comments...one, you slept with the first guy way too soon, so he either lost all respect for you or was all about a**...he disappeared either way. Two, I do agree that accomplished men or guys w/ a lot of money, such as lawyers and doctors, feel entitled to be arrogant jerks and womanizers, b/c they feel that they can get any woman they want b/c of their success, so they're not as appreciative of whoever women they're with at the time. You need to get to know the guy before getting intimate, and you also need to scrutinize the guy, despite his impressive CV, to see key relationship qualities--loyalty, genuineness, etc... Dump this guy and good luck in the future
2006-10-07 08:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in general, a guy want's a sexual encounter, and some guys put much effort towards this goal.
You gotta get to know the guy well enough to learn what he's looking for, and well enough to know if he's 'reeling you in'
Making friends first, be patient, avoid sexual situations at least untill you can call him a real friend.
Both gotta be comfortable with friendship before you can honestly tell each other the truth about what you want.
I'm a guy, had a similar prblm finding girls. I found a good friend now. My girl.
2006-10-07 09:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jimmy Carter is between the neatest presidents that we've ever had, from an IQ viewpoint, yet that of course did not make him right into a great president. in simple terms from being in Mensa and understanding human beings of that high quality of IQ, i could say he isn't Mensa clever, in spite of if he's close. Obama is an extremely knowledgeable and charismatic individual, yet that doesn't characterize intelligence. in actuality, maximum persons whom i understand with very extreme IQ's at the instant are not very charismatic.
2016-11-26 23:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ambitious people are results-oriented. Ruthless, determined, selfish, that is what our society rewards. Sex is just another ball game, exercise + enjoyment. A mutual loving warm relationship is out of scope.
2006-10-07 08:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are more bastards then the other ones but really which guy isn't in some way...........they are short of some nerves or something.........but anyway try and find guys that are not "work-holic" it might help
2006-10-07 08:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been a victim of the hump & dump scheme.
2006-10-07 08:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by midwestbruin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you'd think a bright guy would be less of a bastard.
2006-10-07 08:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they are big bastards.someone here said you need love and thats true.beyond all ask yourself what do you need and if its given to you.If not move on,not worthing
2006-10-07 08:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Doll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋