Although i am acceptable looking i am shy with girls unless i have had some dutch courage(alcohol) and only meet them in pubs, girls i know say i am nice but that is no consolation.
2006-10-07 08:27:44 · 19 answers · asked by tangerjne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you just need to stop being selfish. Sometimes alcohol brings out the worst in people or shall I say another side. Just take your time and try to get to know someone. I'm sure you are interested in someone. A little change can do the trick.
2006-10-07 08:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Honesty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOw. it is interesting to hear from a guy that he actually knows he is selfish. then you must not that badly selfish. many of selfish ppl don't even think they are selfish. they just think they are wonderful. and now you know you feel like you are selfish then try to think about other ppl little bit more and care for your future partner. she will appriciate it so much.
well, I want to tell you 1 thing from my experience that don't be too close with your dutch courage(alcohol) too much. It may seems give you some courage but after couple of hours you probably feel worse.
And I am not telling you all the girls are in the pub are not good ppl. It is drinking place so it is good place for have a nice drink or nice chat. that is all.
So,
Why don't you be social with your hobbies? or join some sports classes or somewhere you can meet ppl?
even blind date via on line chatting. it isn't that bad.
Or having a party with all your friends at home and tell your friends bring their single friends over. If you don't have many friends, then make new one!
Be social.
:)
2006-10-07 15:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much longer do you want to stay single and lonely?
Thats all you have to ask yourself.
You dont need alcohol to get chatting to someone, its not that difficult. If you really want a change, aim for it. You cant be too picky as youve already waited this long. Stop being selfish, give people a chance otherwise you will never get anywhere. Remind yourself of the situation you are in now, you really dont want to be single forever now do you?
Be positive and dont expect too much, just let things happen naturally, and you will find that special someone.........
goodluck!
2006-10-07 16:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not going to meet anyone by being selfish, and alcohol, doesn't help when you are trying to meet someone nice. Next time you meet someone nice, ask them for the cell no. or would they like to go out for a meal sometimes, and you pay.........so stop feeling sad and depressed, and start doing something positive.or else you are going to end up a sad,lonely old man.
2006-10-07 15:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly... i think your only options are to try and change!... ever wondered why your so loney?... because your selfish and no one wants to be around someone who only thinks about themselves.... i think that before you try and jump into a relationship you should really do some soul searching and maybe talk to someone who knows whats going on about it because you dont want to start a relationship and become dependant on it and when the relationship is over you'll end up feeling worse then you already do!... maybe the drinking isnt the best way to try and find someone to start a real relationship with.... girls are just like guys... if they feel like "getting it on"... and they see an easy target their gonna take it.. believe me.... unless you want just sex... and from your question i can tell you want and need much more... you have to take this thing seriously.... and by seriously i mean soberly.... take it one day at a time... because no one can see themselves being emotionally involved with someone who depends on alchol to stop feeling down....(i know you may not think this is what s happening but it is... thats what depressed people do).... and when you do find a girl.... stop thinking..."me" "me" "me".... and think "us" "us" "us"...
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-10-07 15:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by honey_coated_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with dutch courage unless it alters your personality to the point of being a lech and looking too desperate.
Its best to avoid the later stages of the night in pubs to find a patner as this is when people have reached their alcaholic limit and tend to act like twats.
2006-10-07 15:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to come out of your shell and take chances w/o the dutch courage. if you really like a girl you should be willing to take the chance to ask them out the worst they couls say is no
2006-10-07 15:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask Dr Phil I am sure he can give u a solution. My solution for you is stop being shy and shelfish. If you believe in urself there is nothing that you can't overcome. Try by start telling urself postive things rather than negative.
2006-10-07 15:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get chatting with girls over the internet in dating fora or wherever, so as to get you used to interacting with girls.
stop being selfish.
ask girls out. If you manage to land a gf out of 50 girls you ask out, that is good.
I am sure you will manage.
Then, wear condoms and dont do anything stupid :)
2006-10-07 15:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by jimbomediterraneo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop going to the pub,buy a mirror and look at your self in the mirror and pretend you are talking to a girl slowwly your confidence will build up,start going to unisex gyms they are great places to find a girl.
2006-10-07 16:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by reml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋