What do you do when they are constantly negative. And if you say something is blue it isn't it is teal for example. She has had many issues and been in counseling without much result. She is on anti depressants, which help but she is so negative about that too any suggestions.
2006-10-07 08:26:52 · 8 answers · asked by deb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The thing I learned about raising my teens is that you CANNOT fight every battle. Decide what is really important and tackle that problem and let the others slide. There will be time to get around to other things. When mine would get edgy with me, instead of arguing I would ask what I could say to make them understand,,the answer is always "nothing"..so my point was proven..discussion over. Also I suggested often that they might want some alone time and if they wanted to go into their room..or watch TV alone I would not bother them for awhile..Give them a cooling off time and try to avoid the arguments.
2006-10-07 08:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by JIM D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage life is so difficult today. They are expected to act like adults by their peers and yet want to remain attacted to the apron string. All teenagers go through these types of periods and usually outgrow it by the time they are 21 or so. There is nothing that they don't know and they think they make Albert Einstien look like a fool. That is why it's called the generation gap and has been around as long as mankind. Your daughter will come around. Just let her know that you are there for her and that yoy love her (sure she'll roll her eyes with this the odd time) and all will be good with the world. Try remembering also when you where a teen and how the hormones affected us all at that age.
2006-10-07 08:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. My teen was like that and now she's an adult.. She just had to grow up and some take longer than others.
She hated taking anti depressants and now she realizes that they help her to cope with life's situations.. I can't say this is the answer but I was frustrated too and someone told me that by the time she reaches 25 she will figure things out and will appreciate you for all the help you gave her when she needed it.
2006-10-07 08:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by yuffie39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of a teen too. She seems to be negative about everything. Just remember what you went through as a teen. Be patient and listen to her without interupting. Do mom and daughter stuff even if it's just walking around the mall.
2006-10-07 08:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I focus on how, relatively soon, they will realize their ignorance -- and they can live on their own. I even tell them, they will realize how much they just didn't know. People have said time and again that that's the reason kids become teenagers, to bother their parents and sever more ties.
I don't know what kind of issues your daughter has, but I'd stick with the counseling.
2006-10-07 08:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhhhhhh teenage angst and rebellion, May I ask what kind of example she has to follow? Are you negative towards things or maybe her other parent? If it isnt a case of following a bad example then it is just teenage rebellion and the only thing you can do it be patient and wait it out.
2006-10-07 08:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her. Remember that you can't change her behavior, but you can change yours.I hated that saying when I first heard it. But it is true. Change the way you do things.If you normally yell back then distance yourself. Make sure she keeps taking her meds and things will get better with a tincture of time.Pick your battles, What is really the most important for her safety and well being?
Godd luck Grandma
2006-10-07 08:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out camping just you and her dont ask her if she wants to go just go, make her talk don't let her take any thing that will distract her ,force her to open up most teens just need to talk
2006-10-07 08:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋